The Daily Espresso的Guy

这期节目记得戴耳机收听，那才有感觉。

It's not what happened to your parents.I killed them.I killed them.It was my job.It was my first time.Your father was supposed to be alone.But then your mother came out of in nowhere,and I had to change my plan.It changes things,that knowledge.Doesn't it?When what you love gets taken from you,you wanna know the truth.I'm sorry.

你的父母并不是那么死的，是我杀死他们的，是我杀的，因为那是我的工作，是我的第一个任务，本该是你父亲一个人死的，但是你的母亲突然出现，我只好改变计划，事情因此改变，变成你所知道的那样，对吧?当你所爱的人从你身边被夺走时，你就像知道真相。对不起!

It was a mistake.It supposed to be you.There were files linking me to the Neski murder.If the files disappeared and they suspected you,they'd be chasing a ghost for 10 years.

那是个失误，应该杀你的，有一些文件会把我和奈斯基的谋杀案联系到一起。如果那些文件不见了，他们会怀疑你，那么他们将永远查不出真相。

I can see their faces.Everyone I ever killed.I just don't know their names.Marie used to try to help me remember the names.I've tried to apologize for…for what I've done.For what I am.None of it makes it any better.

我杀的每一个人，我能看清他们的脸，只是不知道他们的名字。玛丽过去常常帮助我记住他们的名字。我试过为我所做的一切道歉，为我是个杀手道歉，但是一点用都没有。

This is where it started for me.This is where it ends.

对我来说，这里是一切开始的地方，也是该结束的地方。

Daniels said the training was experimental.Behavior modification.They had to break down the agents before they became operational.He said you were the first one.

丹尼尔斯说，对你的训练是试验性的，行为修正，必须先让特工瓦解，然后他们才能听命，他说过你是第一个。

Do you even kown why you're supposed to kill me?

你知道为什么要杀我吗?

You killed Marie the minute you climed into her car.The minute you entered her life,she was dead.

从你进入玛丽的车的那一刻起，玛丽就已经死了。从你进入她的生活的那一刻起，她就死了。

It told you people to leave us alone.I fell off the grid.I was halfway around the world.

我说过让你们不要惹我，我洗手不干了，躲到了半个地球以外。

There's no place it won't catch up to you.It's how every story ends. It's what you are,Jason…a killer.You always will be.

对你来说没有任何地方是藏身之处，每个故事的结局都是这样。杰森，你注定是一个杀手，永远都是。

Something happened to me and I need to know what it was or I'll never be free of this.

在我身上发生了一些事，我需要知道是什么，否则，我就永远无法自由。

It was difficult for me with you.You really don't remember anything.

对我来说，跟你在一起很困难，你真的不记得任何事情了。

各位客官记得打赏扔荔枝啊！
When we go about our day, we tell ourselves a story about what’s happening … and at the center of that narrative is a single person.

Ourselves.

When I talk to myself about how so-and-so is inconsiderate or treated me badly, when I tell myself that it’s OK to procrastinate because I’m tired and not in the mood … I’m at the center of this movie. It’s an ongoing story about my life and everything around me, with me at the center.

I’m sure you can relate — you’re at the center of your movie as well. It’s natural, and there’s nothing wrong with doing this.

But some difficulties can arise from this self-centered view of the world:

We interpret other people’s actions as it relates to us, so that they are helping or harming us … giving us what we want or getting in the way of what we want. But their actions aren’t really about us — their actions are about them, because they are at the center of their own stories. When we interpret their self-centered actions through the lens of our self-centered view, the actions often make no sense, and frustrate, hurt or infuriate us.
When someone makes a comment that we take as an attack on something about ourselves … we then feel the need to defend ourselves. “I’m a good person,” we think, “and they shouldn’t imply that I’m not.” But this interpretation is just a self-centered way of looking at it … we could also see it as saying something about the other person. And if we try to understand where they’re coming from, instead of seeing what it says about us, then we’ll be less defensive or offended.
We interpret everything else around us — from bad traffic to Internet comments to terrorist attacks — by thinking about how it affects us. “This sucks (for me),” we think. But we could also remove ourselves from this story and just see that there are things happening in the world, and be curious about them, try to understand them, and see that they are not about us.
Again, it’s natural and normal to interpret everything this way … but you can see that it can cause problems, inhibit understanding and empathy, and make us unhappy at times.

So what can we do?

First, become aware of the stories we tell ourselves.

Next, see that we are putting ourselves at the center.

Then see if we can remove ourselves from the center of the story.

What would the story be without us in it? For me, that story becomes something like:

Things are happening — how interesting! What can be learned from them? What can be understood?
Someone else is doing something or talking, and it’s probably about them. How can I understand them better?
There is difficulty and unhappiness in what other people are saying and doing. How can I feel compassion for them and offer them love?
When I remember to do this — and I very, very often don’t — it lifts the difficulty that I’ve been facing internally and shift my focus to understanding and empathizing with other people, seeing how I can give them compassion.

Of course, I’m not really removed from the story. I’m still there, but just not necessarily at the center of it. Instead, I focus more on my interconnectedness with everyone else, everything else, and see that they have supported me in becoming the person I am, and that I can support them as well.

To Create a Habit, Tell a Good Story

If you want to create a new exercise habit (for example), you might tell yourself something like this:
“This is going to be amazing, I’m going to get fit and look incredible and be super healthy!”
This is a story you’re telling yourself. It’s not real, but it has tremendous power to affect your feelings about your habit, and to change your action. You have a positive story about the habit, and it motivates you to take action.
But perhaps the exercise you did one day was really tough, and you didn’t enjoy it. Your story might change, to something like, “Wow, that was super hard. It sucked!”
Now your story about the habit is not so good, and you’ll be less enthusiastic about doing the habit from now on.
Maybe you also missed a couple of days of exercise because you got busy. Your story changes to, “Damn, I screwed up, I’m not as good at this habit as I thought, why am I not disciplined?”
The story isn’t so good. Now you might actually try not think about the habit, and you are much more likely to skip the habit from now on.
The story you tell yourself about your habit matters more than most people realize.
So the key is to shape the story, become your own habit storyteller, and create a story that will make you more likely to stick to the habit.
Telling a Good Story
The truth is that none of these stories is actually true. They’re just narratives we have made up, in our minds, about what’s going on. The reality is what’s happening right now, and in an “ideal” world we would just drop the stories and be present with the moment, experiencing reality as it is.
There’s no such thing as an ideal world, though. We tell stories. That’s what we do. So the key is to realize when you’re telling a negative story that’s going to make you quit the habit, and instead create a more helpful story.
Try this:
1. Ask yourself how you feel about the habit you’re creating. Are you psyched about it? Are you discouraged? Looking forward to it or dreading it? Feel strong about it or feel like you’re doing lousy? Is it a wonderful experience for you or are you ploughing through the suckiness? This is all an indicator of what story you’re telling yourself.
2. Start creating a better story by focusing on the things you love about the habit. You could focus on how much you hate the habit, or you could focus on what you love. It’s your choice. Find things to appreciate about the habit. Look at your successes and think, “Man, that’s awesome that I’ve done those things.”
This is not to say that you should only think positive thoughts, or that you should ignore the negative. But if your story is on the balance more positive than negative, you’ll be more resilient. You’ll be able to handle the negative stuff with grace, because you have a positive feeling about the habit.
If you resent doing the habit, or see it as a sacrifice, you’re more likely to blow the negative aspects up when they happen. But people with a strongly positive story will be likely to weather the storm of negative aspects of the habit.
The Positive Story Exercise
Try to think about some of the following thoughts when you’re working on your habit:
1. This makes me feel strong/healthy/empowered (or some other positive trait).
2. I am proud of doing this habit.
3. I have had some great successes with this.
4. I’m learning a lot with this habit.
5. I’ve had good experiences with this habit.
6. There are some exciting things about this that I’d like to share with people.
7. I can appreciate the little things about this habit.
8. There are things I genuinely love about this habit.
9. This can sometimes be a struggle but it’s definitely worth it.
10. This habit is improving my life an multiple ways.
11. I’m lucky to be able to do this habit.
12. There are things about this habit that I look forward to.
13. I’ve missed doing this habit sometimes, but over the long run it doesn’t matter.
14. Doing this habit makes me more resilient.
15. When I’ve done this habit, I feel accomplished and satisfied.
16. I feel like a better person when I do this habit.
Just think about one of these each time you do the habit, or just after. And then try another one on the next time you do the habit.
Slowly, with thoughts like these and others you might think of, you’ll start to have a more positive story about the habit.
And that will make all the difference — not only will you want to stay with it longer, you’ll enjoy it more each time you do it.

There is a famous stone water basin (or “tsukubai”) outside of the even more famous Ryoan-ji Temple in Kyoto, with four characters that read: “ware tada shiru taru.”

This is a Zen saying that can be translated in a number of ways, all to do with contentment. But my favorite translation is:

“All you need, you already have.”

I think it’s such a lovely way of looking at life.

As you sit here reading this article, pause and take an assessment of your life right now. Chances are, you have enough food, clothing, shelter, and other basic necessities in your life. You might also have loved ones, people who care about you. You are (mostly) comfortable, without any desperate needs. All you need, you already have.

And yet we don’t see life this way … we are dissatisfied, looking for more comfort, more love, more knowledge, more certainty, more possessions, more food, more entertainment, more validation. I do this too — I’m not criticizing anyone. We don’t often embody the idea that we already have enough.

If we remember to do so, we can give thanks for what we have. We can appreciate the beauty, the preciousness, of every moment, of being alive. It is a miracle, and we don’t have to take it for granted.

So to me the question is: how can we learn to embody this idea?

“All you need, you already have.”

Learning to Embody Enough-ness

It’s nice to say that we have all we need, but what does this mean in practice? What actions can we take to help us remember this?

I find it helpful to try to remember a few principles in my daily life:

Appreciation. If we have all we need, the problem is that we forget this simple fact. So we can develop the habit of noticing what we already have, being thankful for it, not taking it for granted. We can appreciate the people in our lives (instead of complaining about them), the possessions we already have (instead of thinking we need more), the food we get to eat (which might mitigate our desire for yet more food pleasures), the simple moments that we often take for granted (instead of needing even more entertainment and distraction).
Respect. If we appreciate something or someone, we might treat them with respect. In the Zen tradition, bowing to others and even to your meditation cushion are a deep part of practice. It shows a respect for the world around us, which supports us and which we are deeply a part of. You might not want to bow to everyone you meet, but you can make a mental bow to them, offering respect internally even if you don’t make any sign that you’re bowing. It will show in your other actions.
Turning towards others. If we already have enough … why worry so much about ourselves? Why not see what we can do for others? There are others who are suffering, perhaps starving or facing violence, or perhaps just sick with anxiety or depression. We can’t solve all of these ills alone, of course, but if we do our best to help others as much as possible, perhaps we can contribute towards the betterment of the lives of all beings. This doesn’t mean you need to spend every waking hour devoted to helping other people, but even considering whether your motivations are other-facing or for yourself is a good practice.
So how do we learn to embody these principles? Through habits and rituals.

Rituals to Embody Enough-ness

It’s hard to remember to be present and grateful and filled with enough-ness throughout the day, with all that we have going on, with all of our distractions and internal stories.

So I recommend forming little rituals that help us remember.

Here’s a list of ideas for rituals, but I don’t recommend trying to form all of these rituals, and especially not all at once — try one at a time and see what helps you:

Wake up and say a little prayer of thanks for what you have in your life.
Keep a one-paragraph gratitude journal every evening.
When you meet someone, bow to them (in your mind) out of respect. You might touch your heart or offer them a smile if that helps.
When you eat, say a little prayer of thanks to everyone who made your meal possible (farmers, cooks, transporters, their families, etc.). Appreciate every bite if you can.
Before you start a new activity (a work task, a workout, a meeting), pause and ask yourself what your intention is for this activity. Is it focused on helping others?
When you are done with an activity, show respect for others, your environment and your equipment by respectfully and mindfully cleaning up, instead of rushing to the next activity.
There are other rituals, of course, but these are a good start.

You might also ask yourself, before you buy something … whether you really need more or if you have enough. Ask yourself, before you go to an app on your phone or a website on your computer … whether you are doing it to help others or to fulfill a “need” that you don’t need fulfilled. Ask yourself, as you interact with someone else, whether you’re showing them deep respect and appreciation, whether you’re focused on helping them or protecting yourself.

Ask yourself, regularly throughout your day, whether you have all you need. I think you’ll find that you do, and by appreciating that fact more often, you can see what a profound miracle that is.

为了强调英语句子中的某一成份，强调方式是多种多样的，现将它们归纳如下，以供参考。

　　1.用形容词“very”，“single”等表示强调

　　e.g.Red Army fought a battle on this very spot.

　　红军就在此地打过一仗。

　　Not a single person has been in the office this afternoon.

　　今天下午竟然没有一个人来过办公室。

　　2.用反身代词表示强调

　　e.g.I myself will see her off at the station.

　　我将亲自到车站为她送行。

　　You can do it well yourself.

　　你自己能做好这件事情。

　　3.用助词“do”表示强调

　　e.g.The baby is generally healthy，but every now and then she does catch a cold.

　　那孩子的健康状况尚好，但就是偶尔患感冒。

　　Do be quiet.I told you I had a headache.

　　务必安静，我告诉过你，我头疼。

　　4.用副词“very”，“only”，“even”，“too”等表示强调

　　e.g.He drank it to the very last drop.

　　他把它喝得一干二净。

　　Only in this way can we wipe out the enemy troops.

　　只有用这样的方法我们才能消灭敌军。

　　He didn&`&t answer even my letter.

　　他甚至连我的信都未回。

　　I will too go!我要去的!

　　5.用“...and that”，“...and those”，“not...too much”，“否定加否定”等结构表示强调

　　e.g.They fulfilled the task，and that in a few days.

　　他们在几天内完成的就是那项任务。

　　I gave her some presents，and those the day before yesterday.

　　前天我送给她的就是那些礼物。

　　I can&`&t thank you too much.我无论怎样感谢你都不过份。

　　I am not unfaithful to you.我对你无比忠诚。

　　6.用短语“in every way”，“in no way”，“by all means”，“by no means”，“only too”，“all too”，“but too”，“in heaven”，“in the world”，“in hell”，“on earth”，“under the sun”等表示强调

　　e.g.His behaviour was in every way perfect.

　　他的举止确实无可挑剔。

　　By all means take your son with you.

　　你一定要把儿子带来。

　　The news was only too true.

　　这消息确实是事实。

　　It was over all too soon!

　　此事的确了结得很快!

　　Where in heaven were you then?

　　当时你到底在哪里?

　　Nobody under the sun would buy that car.

　　确实没有人会买那辆车。

　　7.用倒装句表示强调

　　e.g.Dishonest he is!他的确不诚实!

　　In wine is the truth. 酒后吐真言。

　　8.用强调句型表示强调

　　e.g.It was the headmaster who opened the door for me.

　　正是校长为我开的门。

　　It was yesterday that we carried out that experiment.

　　就是在昨天我们做了那个实验

随着毕业季的到来，很多大四学生都开始忙着面试啦，今天我们要跟大家分享的是一些面试的小贴士。
These interview tips cover all the basics you need to know to ace a job interview.
下面给大家介绍的10个面试小贴士，如果你掌握了其中的诀窍，面试成功的几率将会大大提高。
Avoid Interview Mistakes
避免犯常见的面试错误
What shouldn&`&t you do when interviewing? Check out the most common job interview mistakes, blunders, and errors a candidate for employment can make. Then take the time to prepare before your interview, so you don&`&t have to stress afterwards.
面试过程中什么事情不该做？检查自己是否犯了面试者最常见的面试错误和失误。然后花点时间在面试前做好准备，这样在接下来的程序就不必感到压力巨大了。
Dress for Interview Success
着装符合面试规范
The first impression you make on a potential employer can make a big difference. The first judgement an interviewer makes is going to be based on how you look and what you are wearing. That&`&s why it&`&s always important to dress appropriately for a job interview.
给潜在雇主留下的第一印象至关重要。面试官所做出第一评判的标准就基于你的仪表。这也是为什么着装得体总是在面试中占据重要一环的原因。
Improve Your Interview Technique
提升面试技巧
A job interview gives you a chance to shine. What you say and do will either move you to the next round of consideration for employment or knock you out of contention.
求职面试给予你释放光芒的机会。你的言行举止要么让你晋级下一轮面试要么拖你的后腿。
Take the Time to Say Thank You
花点时间表达感谢
Taking the time to say thank you after a job interview not only is good interview etiquette, but also reinforces your interest in the position. Use your thank you letter, as well, to address any issues and concerns that came up during the interview.
在面试结束后花点时间向他人表达感谢不仅是非常得体的面试礼仪，还能巩固你对这个职位的兴趣。同时也可使用感谢信，在上面突出面试过程中遇到和关注的问题。
Practice Interviewing
练习面试
Taking the time to review typical interview questions you will probably be asked during a job interview will help give you a framework for your responses. It will also calm your frazzled nerves, because you won&`&t be scrambling for an answer while you&`&re in the interview hot seat. Practice interviewing with a friend or family member ahead of time and it will be much easier when you&`&re actually in a job interview.
花点时间复习那些经典的面试问题能够给你一个很好的回答框架。同时也能缓解疲惫的精神状态，因为你不再需要在面试过程中如坐针毡硬凑出一个答案。在参加面试前，找一位朋友或家庭成员进行模拟面试，这样在真正的面试过程中你就感到相当轻松了。
Use Your Contacts
利用自己的人脉
Who you know at the company you are interviewing with really does matter.
如果你认识一些这个职位所在的公司的朋友，确实会产生很大的作用。
Check Out the Company
多作资料收集
How much do you know about the company that just contacted you to schedule an interview? It should be plenty, and all the information you need is available online.
你对这家联系你参加面试的公司了解有多少？你得掌握充足的信息，而这些信息你都能在网上找到。
Prepare for a Phone Interview
准备电话面试
While you&`&re actively job searching, it&`&s important to be prepared for a phone interview on a moment&`&s notice. You never know when a recruiter or a networking contact might call and ask if you have a few minutes to talk.
如果你正积极地寻找工作，那么你也得准备好随时而来的电话面试。你永远都不知道招聘者或网络联系人会给你来电并询问你是否有空在电话里谈谈。
Handle a Group Interview
应对小组面试
Interviewing with one person is tough enough, but it&`&s even harder when you have to interview with a group (or panel) of interviewers. Well-prepared status will be always better than nothing prepared.
一对一的面试已经够难熬的了，但是小组式（或团体式）的面试就更困难了。准备充分永远比毫无准备来得有效。
Interview While Dining
餐桌面试
Taking you to breakfast, lunch, or dinner provides the interviewer with a chance to check out your communication and interpersonal skills, as well as your table manners, in a more casual environment than an office setting.
面试官要求与你共进早餐，午餐或晚餐，目的是想在办公场景以外相对随性的环境中测试你的沟通与处理人际关系能力，以及餐桌礼仪。

Don&`&t Look Back
告别过去
As you travel through life there are always those times when decisions just have to be made when the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce and the rain seems to soak your parade!
人生的旅途中，你常常会面临必须做出一个艰难抉择的时刻，这时的解决方法看似少之又少，而你则像在行进中被雨水浇透那样无助！
There are some situations where all you can do is to simply let go and move on, gather courage together and choose a direction that carries you toward a new dawn.
有些情况下，你能做的只有放弃，然后鼓起勇气重新上路，并确定一个可以带你走向 新黎明的方向。
So pack up your troubles and take a step forward...The process of change can be tough, but think about all the excitement ahead if you can be stalwart enough!
那么就扔掉你所有的烦恼吧，向前迈出一步... 改变的过程是艰难的，但你不妨这样想：如果足够坚定,前方就会有很多惊喜等着你。
There could be adventures you never imagined just waiting around the next bend and wishes and dreams just about to come true in ways you can‘t yet comprehend!
在下一个拐弯处，会有你意想不到的奇遇，希望和梦想会以你无法理解的方式变成现实。
Perhaps you’ll find friendships that spring from new interests as you challenge your status and learn there are so many options in life, and so many ways you can grow!
当你向自身现状挑战时，或许你会在新的兴趣中发现由此触发的友谊，你会明白生活 中存在着很多选择,你的成长道路也会如此多种多样！
Perhaps you’ll go to places you’ve never expected and see things that you’ve never seen or travel to fabulous ,faraway worlds and wonderful spots in between!
也许你会去那些从未想过要去的地方，亲眼看看那些从未见过的事物，或者去遥远而 神奇的王国旅行,饱览沿途美景。
Perhaps you’ll find warmth and affection and caring —a “somebody special” who’s there to help you stay centered and listen with interest to stories and feelings you share.
也许你将体会到温暖、爱意和关怀——某个“特别的人”将在那里帮助你保持精力集中，并饶有兴致地倾听你的故事，分享你的感受。
Perhaps you&`&ll find comfort in knowing your friends are supportive of all that you do and believe that whatever decisions you make, they’ll be the right choices for you!
也许当你知道朋友们支持你所做的一切时，你将感到欣慰 ；他们相信，无论你的决定 如何，对于你来说，它们都是正确的选择!
So keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking your life day by day. There’s a brighter tomorrow that’s just down the road. Don’t look back — you’re not going that way!
既然如此，那就一步步走下去吧,认真过好每一天。前方会有更加美好的未来——告别过去——因为那不是你要走的路。