The Dauntless Grace Exchange

This summer, we are featuring stories from diverse perspectives in order to stir curiosity and compassion for others. While we don’t necessarily endorse every stated view, we stand by each guest as a fellow image-bearer and a human of inherent value. We invite you to listen with an open mind and open heart as you hear the pain, struggle, and triumph of other children of God.

Rev. Vanilda Reyes de Noyes is an ordained elder in the Free Methodist Church. She is a proud Dominican-born daughter of Free Methodist pastors and grew up in New York City and Cleveland, Ohio. Vanilda obtained a Bachelor of Arts (Social Work and Psychology) from Greenville University and a Master of Social Work from Washington University in St. Louis. She is a Licensed Independent Social Worker in the state of Ohio. She works in private practice and is also a coach with the Leadership Center. Vanilda is passionate about multiethnic and multigenerational ministry, worship, and the intersection of faith and emotional health. She serves as Assistant Pastor at Iglesia Nueva Vida in Cleveland, Ohio also with her parents and husband Topher. Vanilda and Topher have 3 children and she loves a good cup of coffee, conversation, and has a life-long love of reading.

You can find Pastor Vanilda on Instagram.

This summer, we are featuring stories from diverse perspectives in order to stir curiosity and compassion for others. While we don’t necessarily endorse every stated view, we stand by each guest as a fellow image-bearer and a human of inherent value. We invite you to listen with an open mind and open heart as you hear the pain, struggle, and triumph of other children of God.

Bethany Abbott is a Free Methodist pastor serving in the rural community of Boswell, Indiana. She is passionate about studying, teaching, and living the truth from God's Word, as well as connecting with and serving alongside her church family. When not serving in the church or community, you'll probably find Pastor Bethany with her nose in a book, among her many houseplants, or up to her elbows in some crafting project. Pastor Bethany also loves hiking and kayaking, and spending time with her family across Indiana and Illinois - especially her three favorite niblings.

You can find Bethany on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bethany.abbott.9

This summer, The Dauntless Grace Exchange is going to feature stories from people that you may not always encounter. The goal of sharing stories from those outside of the majority is to gain perspective, grow more curious, and stir compassion for people different from us. We hope you stick around all summer to listen!

Deedra and Megan check in with their own parts and get vulnerable about the tension they each feel. Why do our parts war with each other? Can we hold the both/and within ourselves? How can we take care of the parts of us that feel weary or angry?

(Also, Megan shares why she's still writing about Taylor Swift on social media, and why she's not stopping anytime soon.)

It's time for part 2! Deedra and Megan jump back into the defense mechanisms of each enneagram type, but this time they correlate them to the protectors and exiles that might be clustered around that defense mechanism.

If you missed part 1, you can find that on Episode 168.

They also referenced the podcast with Enneagram 8 Hilary Mize: Episode 36.

Deedra and Megan jump back into the defense mechanisms of each enneagram type, but this time they correlate them to the protectors and exiles that might be clustered around that defense mechanism.

And, because they are who they are, they couldn't help but get vulnerable about their own protectors and some things they've experienced since learning about Internal Family Systems (IFS).

IFS therapist, author, and podcast host of The One Inside is back! Tammy Sollenberger, dear friend of the podcast, has joined us to discuss therapy models she has used in her practice, such as CBT and DBT, and what changed when she learned about Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Plus, for our Patreon subscribers, Tammy goes vulnerable and raw in a follow-up bonus episode.

Check out Tammy's website to see how to engage with her and her amazing content!

Therapist Malissa Melton-Otunba is back for a part two! In this episode, she briefs Megan on what Concept Therapy is and they discuss how it relates to Internal Family Systems and other therapy models.

For more information on Malissa, listen to episode 165!

Links:

Concept Therapy

Malissa's most recent article

Therapist Malissa Melton-Otunba joins the podcast this week to discuss why even therapists need to be able to do their own inner work! For Malissa, the enneagram was a life-changing tool that helped her understand herself, especially as a mom and woman.

Malissa is a midwest girl at heart transplanted in Dallas/Fort Worth for the past 20 years. She is active in doing her own work to become who she was created to be. Malissa is a Enneagram 2w1 who loves this current season of her life as an empty nester. She has raised three amazing young adults who are creating their own identities.

Malissa is the owner of FaithworX Counseling & Consulting services where her passion is to empower women to remove limiting beliefs in all areas of their life and uncover who they truly are so they can enjoy the fruits of just being and living on purpose. When Malissa is not teaching and equipping women, she loves to laugh and can be found reading all things metaphysics/brain related, working out with her E2M online community, taking long meditative walks, eating out, binging YouTube and spending quality time with her partner, children, friends, two fur babies and dreaming about the future!

You can connect with Malissa on Facebook or LinkedIn, and you can learn more about FaithworX and Plaid!

Dr. Alison Cook returns to the podcast for the third time! In it, she discusses her newest book, I Shouldn't Feel This Way, available for pre-order now!

Alison walks us through the three practices for untangling emotions: naming, framing, and braving.

Plus, watch the bonus interview where she answers the question, "What's been left unsaid?" and trust us... you do NOT want to miss her answer as she dives into the difference between spiritual warfare and mental health.