The Davina Podcast

•You are making yourself wrong and shoulding yourself •You aren't having compassion for yourself right where you are, accepting how you feel, look, act right now •Not soothing your nervous system •Not allowing yourself to rest and receive and accept If any of these sound like you, tune into this episode to learn how your affirmations could have more power in your life. Ready to create what you want in your life? Tired of doing affirmations that don't seem to be working? Sign up and talk to Davina today. Previously published HERE.

What people think REST means: •Doing nothing •Being lazy •Wasting time when you could be working •Playing hooky from work/trying to get out of working What REST actually means: •Restoring, rebiuilding, re-energizing •Purposefully letting your brain, body, emotions have space •Allowing yourself to slow down and process the work you've done •Giving yoursel a change to hear God, your won voice, and gneiurs •Soothing your nervous system •Offering yourself compassion, love, gratitude kindness •Celebrating and acknowledging the way you and your brain show up by refueling them •Letting your brain do things it can't do at any other time To incorporate more rest into your life, sign up for a call with Davina. Previously published HERE.

Eight year old Davina was afraid of not being perfect. Teenage Davina was certain God was disappointed in her. Young mom Davina thought she would always remember her mistakes when she looked in the eyes of her baby. Fifty-one year old Davina has very different views on how God feels about her and about repentance. Tune in today to hear how amazing repentance actually is. Ready to have a new relationship with repentance and your Heavenly Parents, sign up to talk with Davina HERE. Previously published HERE.

Maybe you're disappointed…

In you.

In the way you're showing up.

In who you are being.

Knowing what you've been thinking, feeling, doing or NOT thinking, feeling, doing...

It makes you want to:

Be hard on yourself…

Beat yourself up…

Say a few mean things to yourself.

You and me…

We are human.

Our brains do this.

They think they are helping.

The truth is…

What really helps, is this…

Notice you've been judging yourself.

Thinking unhelpful or unkind or unloving thoughts about you or maybe about someone else.

SIDE NOTE:

You're not alone. I have totally done this! Many times!!

I realize I'm judging someone else or myself.

I feel terrible.

I think things like: why you gotta be like that?

In no time, I'm piling shame on myself.

And then I want to stop so I tell myself:

I'm going to think something nice about them…

Or about me.

If you try to jump to all the positives right away, too, I invite you to pause right there.

STOP.

Before you start trying to think of something nice and positive and upbeat to say or do…

Instead…

Tell yourself:

Of course, you're thinking unkind things about yourself.

You're not showing up the way you want to show up.

I love you anyway.

I know it can be scary to compare yourself.

I know you don't want to do it.

I love you and I'm here for you.

You don't have to beat yourself up about it.

I know you.

I love you.

All the parts of you.

The parts that get jealous

And the parts that are confident.

You don't have to be unkind to yourself to be loveable.

I love you in your struggles and in your triumphs.

I'm here for you.

I'll always have your back.

I understand where you're at right now

And I love you.

You've got this.

Next time you start to beat yourself up, before you jump to trying to be a better person right away…

Experiment with loving yourself

Even when you feel a mess.

Notice what happens.

Previously published here.

1% more creativity.

Ohmiheck. It's so good for your brain and your heart and soul.

It's magic!

It can be so simple.

For me, that 1% happens when I get dressed.

I choose something I haven't worn and then pair the item with something I would NEVER put with it.

Sometimes this is the opposite shoes (maybe I'd usually wear heels but I pick kicks instead)

Or a crazy accessory

Or my husband's tie

Or S P A C E buns in my hair!

(Make sure to click on the pics below. These S P A C E buns make me laugh every time I see them. Hello, Who-Ville!')

What I love is that I get to find out something awesome

About myself

About my creativity

I get to push my own boundaries

And challenge the rules that live inside my head

You can do it, too!

Imagine the you who is just 1% more creative for five days…

It's totally doable

With magical results waiting for you!

Jump in, Warrior!

Let's do this! Sign up for your free consultation HERE.

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Bubble braids.

Until two weeks ago I had never worn them.

I was a little afraid of them.

Several years ago, someone I respect suggested I was wearing braids to keep people from taking me seriously…to soften my intense personality.

I don't think she was wrong.

I stopped wearing two braids.

Not because she told me to but because I wanted to experiment…

See if there was some truth to her theory.

I started paying attention to allowing my intensity without apology.

I didn't return to the two braids.

Mainly, because I didn't think I needed them anymore.

Her suggestion DID help me to own who I was.

I no longer try to soften my strength, intensity, passion.

Several months ago, someone suggested I try bubble braids.

I didn't know what they were.

I looked them up and immediately thought:

I can't wear those. It will be me trying to hide my intensity.

So what made me decide to try them?

I decided I've come a long way.

Wearing bubble braids would feel different because I'm different than I was all those years ago.

Now, I feel stunning and fierce.

Now, I don't feel like I'm sending a mixed message of "please like me even though I can be really intense and passionate."

Now, I love me when I look in the mirror.

I see the woman I am now, and I think:

You are intense fiery awesomeness. I love you!

Evolution is amazing.

I'm not saying we do or don't do things according to what other people may or may not think of us.

In fact, I'm saying the opposite.

Coming to know and love yourself opens up to you all the rules you may have been believing and not realizing.

I hadn't realized that I was trying to make my intense self more palatable for other people with my cute braids.

That awareness allowed me to begin to embrace my intensity without trying to soften it with cuteness through braids.

Now, I can fully own these bubble braids in all my fierceness without believing I need them to help people to like me.

Understanding and loving yourself on entirely new levels and in completely new ways is mind blowing too s super powerful.

Getting to show up in your life more on fire and beautiful and passionate and real than you ever have in your life is incredibly sexy.

I LOVE IT!

I wouldn't be here without the coaching I've received over the years.

Nearly everywhere I go, people respond to me without being able to stop themselves.

Last night at dinner I walked into a restaurant and a woman there gasped the moment she saw me.

She said: Oh my goodness! Look at you!! I love your hair!!

She kept saying effusive things all the way to our seats.

Another woman came to our table and did the same thing.

I used to be embarrassed about standing out but…

Longed for it at the same time.

Now, I'm showing up for myself.

Not expecting anyone to adore me but me.

I'm the process, it's changed the way I am with people and the way they are with me, in the best ways.

This can happen for you, too.

Coaching helps you to love and adore yourself…

YOUR strengths, YOUR goodness, YOUR flaws, YOUR darkness AND your light, YOUR humanness,

The parts you think are ugly and the parts you hope have beauty in them.

You see your judgements toward yourself and you understand them and then eventually…you let them go.

You see yourself differently, with more love and honor and respect and compassion than you ever have before.

All those years ago I would think: I'm good! I like myself. I'm not mean to myself. I'm a strong woman.

I wasn't wrong.

I also didn't realize what it could look like to take all of that belief (and all

of the underlying insecurity I was afraid people might see) and become the woman I am now.

If you're wanting more for yourself…

You're ready for coaching.

I know exactly how to help you.

The big surprise with figuring out how to love yourself more is…

You become even more open to increased love and less judgement toward others.

It's a win for everyone.

Ready for more of your own awesomeness in your life?

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An open letter to Davina, It may seem like you're retreading old patterns. You're not. You're at a new level with greater awareness than you've ever had. You are not stuck. You are blowing my mind with your bravery and rawness. I'm grateful you are willing to share, ask for help, and see yourself in ways you never have before. Thank you. You are making a difference to me and in the process, making a bigger difference than you may realize. I'm sending you hugs and the deepest gratitude. I'm cheering you on. You don't yet fully see what I see. I keep sending you glimpses because I want you to both see and believe your awesomeness. I'm so proud of you. I love you. Thank you x 1000!! , Future Davina Sign up for your Discovery of Awesomeness HERE.

Does one or more of these sound like you?

I still haven't lost the weight I want to lose.

I still haven't started my book.

I still don't have the relationship I want.

I still don't have the spiritual life I've been longing for.

I still struggle with one (or more) of my kids.

I still haven't started my podcast

I still am not writing

I still feel confused

I still feel like I'm not enough

I still haven't figured out my marketing and my niche

I still struggle with my teenagers

I still feel stuck

I still am reeling from what happened last week, last month, last year

I still haven't made the money I want to make

I'm still not successful

I'm still trying to figure out how everyone else knows what they are doing and I don't

I still [insert what it is for you].

Whatever comes after "I still…"

Is the reason you need to hire me as your coach today.

Go from:

"I still haven't…"

To

"I'm rockin my life!!"

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Wish someone all the blessings you want.

I was skeptical of this idea when I first heard about it.

At the same time, I immediately loved the idea.

If I could wish someone the blessings I wanted, it felt like I would be able to be so much open to possibility and the belief that there's enough for all of us.

Me having the blessings didn't mean someone else couldn't have them, too.

Today, think about what you want. What are all the blessings you wish for?

Ask God for them for you.

And then ask for them for someone else, too.

When you walk by someone in the store, secretly say:

•"I wish for you that all you need and all you want comes to you."

Or

•"I wish for you and me everything we want in life."

Notice what happens to you the more you do this.

Magic.

What wishes are you sending yourself and others today? I'd love to hear about them. Write them in the comments below!

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Think about what you wish to become.

Most people do not think more than a week or a month into the future.

Studies have shown that once we hit about 30 years old, we stop dreaming.

We stop looking forward to the next big milestone or goal or dream in our life. We stop believing there is something incredible ahead of us.

We get into believing every day will be like the next and the one before it.

Decide today, this won't be you.

Spend some time today dreaming about 'future you.'

Close your eyes.

Imagine 6 months into the future.

Where do you want to be? What do you want to have done? How do you want to have changed? What do you want to have learned?

Let yourself get a clear picture of this 'Future You.'

Make yourself the (s)hero or leading lady of your life movie. Imagine some cinematic music playing.

Let yourself see and get energized by what's up ahead for you.

What is 'Future You' doing six months from now?

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