The Deep Dive with Adam Roa

"Part of you desperate to let go, the other part desperately holding on.

In some moments you're dodging a bullet, in others you've made a mistake,

Sometimes you'll smile and it'll be genuine, sometimes you'll know that it's fake.

But the tears are always real, you can tell by the salty taste,

But in order to put your heart back together, you must first allow your heart to break."

This week I decided to share something from my poetry journal. Yes, I have a poetry journal. In this poem I share some of my thoughts and insight about my own experience of the process of moving through one of the hardest things we experience as human beings;

Heartbreak.

There is reconciliation, growth, and redemption available in every experience we encounter. Allowing ourselves to feel is an important step in the process of moving on and into new and higher versions of ourselves. It's not easy, and honestly I don't think it's supposed to be.

But I do believe it's worth it.

Check out the poetic episode "Moving On - A Spoken Word Poem" and I would love to hear what comes up for you.

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Are you really aware of the effect your parents had on who you have become?

It seems simple enough. Whether you've always had a good relationship with your parents, a challenging one, or like so many; maybe didn't even get to have a relationship with one or both, most of us will spend a lot of time thinking about how that relationship (or lack thereof) has influenced our life. Negatively or positively, it's pretty hard to avoid carrying a lot with you from what is often the most influential of relationships we have growing up.

But as we grow, shift, and change in our lives shouldn't our relationship with our parents as well? Is it possible to really heal and move on from patterns that are still at play or wounds that have been left unhealed? Or is the safety we may have experienced in a family dynamic holding some of us back from taking risks and chances that might provide new opportunities or a fresh perspective?

Its a big, broad topic and I want to acknowledge that every single family dynamic is unique in its own way and presents different opportunities and challenges. Each member of a family, big or small, is their own unique ingredient in the one of a kind flavor that is family and upbringing.

On this weeks episode of the Deep Dive "An Impactful Conversation With My Mom", I want to let you in on part of my own family dynamic and introduce you to one of the most important people in the world to me. My mother.

The last few weeks have been all about being vulnerable. This week I take it up another notch as I interview my mother Vickey Roa about our dynamic as I grew up, some of our family challenges, and who we are to each other today. Enjoy this special episode, this very special guest, and as always I would love to hear your thoughts.

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"What is it about me that needs to know?

Looking for certainty in a world that's so uncertain,

Lurking behind every corner there's something that you can't see,

And yet there's this part of me that feels incomplete,

Or maybe just scared, if I don't know whats out there…."

For this weeks episode of The Deep Dive, I decided to release another freestyle spoken word poem. This piece came from a place of vulnerability and honestly, heart break. It came from a need to be myself in the face of scrutiny, which is maybe a feeling that we all experience at times.

Art is medicine for me, and when I feel like I've done as much as I can to pick myself up and commit to my self love practices, art and creation is where I usually go to next. This style of spoken word poetry is the most vulnerable for me because it's straight from the heart and totally freestyle in the moment. This allows what's really going on under the surface to come out, and that (in my opinion) is the healing and therapeutic part of any type of artistic expression.

Do you express yourself in an artistic way? My hope is that this poem inspires you to reach in, let it out, and allow the world see the real you however you choose to release.

Also, for a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

Do you find dating difficult?

Unless it's that rare "love at first sight" story, dating is an integral process to finding partnership, romance, and ultimately love. There are thousands of books, podcasts, or movies, all stuffed full of advice on dating (not to mention your friends, family, parents) but why when it comes down to it, is finding authentic connection through dating still so hard?

In this weeks podcast I'm joined by Chicago based writer, podcaster, and recording artist Case Kenny in a conversation about the dynamic world of dating and relationships. From the importance of communication to the subject of one night stands, Case and I navigate our thoughts on the whole process based on our own experiences of dating and share in some new perspectives that opened up the topic for us in a brand new way.

If you desire to find the "one", dating and exploration is pretty much inevitable. So, do you want to experience more ease and grace in the process? I hope my conversation with Case Kenny can be beneficial in moving towards more self awareness and in turn, an easier and more enjoyable experience of dating.

Keep up with Case Kenny on his acclaimed podcast New Mindset, Who Dis.

For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

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Are you afraid of being yourself in relationship?

Being aware of who we are is so important in all aspects of our life, and its a journey of discovery. But, it's so important when we're in a relationship. It can be easy to lose ourselves in the idea of what we "should be" when we are trying to please someone else's vision of partnership. We want to love fully, we want to show up for those that we care about, so where do we draw the line between ourselves and the expectation of who we should be?

This week I decided to talk about what it means to be in a conscious relationship. A term that gets thrown around a lot, but has immense value in the effect it can have on romantic partnership.

Are you allowing yourself to be fully seen? Furthermore, are you allowing yourself to really SEE your partner? I believe that both lead to an elevated understanding of what it means to be in relationship, especially a romantic one, and I would love for you to join me in the conversation on this weeks episode of The Deep Dive. For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

What is the difference between anxiety and excitement?

Have you ever noticed that the reaction to both is quite similar? Our heart rate may go up, or our palms may get sweaty, and we definitely start thinking ahead. But where anxiety is mostly recognized as a negative experience, excitement is generally associated with something good coming.

Though they are quite similar feelings in a lot of ways, but they are very different. This is apparent more in the effect it has on the body and the mind, and guess what? It can be shifted.

In this weeks Deep Dive Musing I talk about not only the difference between anxiety and excitement, but how to actually shift your an anxious experience to a positive and exciting one. You guessed it, it all depends on your perspective.

Do you want to take more control in moments of anxiety? Dive in with me in this weeks Deep Dive Musing.

For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

Are you creating abundance?

Experiencing abundance in our life comes in many different forms. Abundant relationships, experiences, and even abundance in our wealth dynamics. But are you actively creating it?

It's been interesting to me to notice the little acts of service that actually end up creating abundance in my life. I used to hold so tightly to my money, until I realized that giving to others started creating more wealth in my life. That the feeling of scarcity around my finances or my relationships actually created a wall in front of me that held me back from building more abundance in those areas, and many others.

During this holiday season, especially in this interesting year of 2020, I encourage you to look at the ways you are not only creating abundance, but sharing it with others. It's time for us to realize that giving is receiving. That sharing your experience, your time, your wealth, with others is actually something that pays back in abundance to your own life.

Do you want to create more abundance in your life? Dive in with me this week as we talk about how I personally went from a scarcity mindset to an experience of abundance on this weeks Deep Dive Musing.

Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Have you felt rejected before?

Rejection comes in many forms, whether it's that job you wanted but didn't make the cut, that audition you had that you didn't land, or that "one that got away" that you'll never forget. That feeling is always hard, and can trigger deeper wounds of not being enough or being unworthy that unless we deal with properly we end up carrying with us.

In my musing this week, I dive in three ways that I've dealt with the feeling of rejection, that you can start even if you're in the midst of it. I also talk about the importance of allowing ourselves to really FEEL, even when the feeling is sometimes unwelcome.

Do you want to move through the feeling of being rejected in a healthier way? Lets talk about it in this weeks musing.

Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Have you ever thought about the reason why we fall in love? We all know the feelings and attraction associated with feeling love for another person, but why do we as humans actually desire that connection? Perhaps there is something deeper to the need for connection then just romantic connection, like an inquiry into our makeup as a person that we can learn and grow from.

In my Deep Dive this week with Kute Blackson, we talk about the human dynamics of relationship and how whether it lasts one month or ten years we can still see the experience as a success if we choose to look at it in a different way.

Do you desire to get more out of your experience of a relationship whether its in your past, your present, or your future? Join me in the conversation with Kute Blackson on this weeks episode of The Deep Dive.

For more from Kute Blackson check out www.kuteblackson.com

Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Do you believe in manifestation? Or that the way you show up in the world actually has an effect on your physical reality?

It can be so easy for us to disregard other people's opinions, especially if they hold values or views that you don't agree with. But, what if we changed the way we listen?

In this weeks Musing, I go deep on the effect that compassion, and especially compassionate conversation, can have on your ability to manifest and create your reality. If we choose to listen to understand, not to respond, we open ourselves up to a new world of possibilities that ultimately help to shape the way you see the world, in turn effecting the reality you live in.

Manifesting anything is a deep process, with many layers and ingredients. Find out why compassion is an important one in this weeks episode of the Deep Dive.

Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org