The Deep Dive with Adam Roa

We idolize the idea of being fearless. There is this idea that fear is bad and we should do everything we can to avoid it. But the funny thing is, it's unavoidable because fear is the other side of the coin to love. It's always there – it's apart of us. Fear is the virus and it's already inside us, but it lies dormant as long as we keep letting love guide us. And in each moment, we have the option to live from fear or to live from love. In this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I unpack a line of poetry on fear, share my thoughts on living out of fear, and give you an actionable practice for overcoming your fear and leading your life from love. You'll leave this episode feeling empowered to navigate through your fear to keep letting love guide you. What You'll Learn:

• Why fear is always present
• How to let love, not fear, guide you
• A simple practice for overcoming your fear

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Why are we so afraid to have different views and opinions than each other? And why do we feel like we need to attack one another for our different perspectives? We are all so different, so of course, we are going to view the world differently. With that in mind, why can't we just have some real conversations to discuss and understand these differences without the need to attack another or defend ourselves? And to dive deeper, how do we hold space for everyone's beliefs, opinions, viewpoints, and prospectives, and not just our own? How do we fully express ourselves in the world and while simultaneously being aware of how it will make others feel? And where is the line between owning our truth and censoring ourselves for the sake of others? In this of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, guest Henry Ammar and I dive deep into answering these questions. After listening, I have full faith you will have a better understanding of how to listen and engage with opposing views in a constructive way. Henry is an International Life Speaker, musician, and Entrepreneur who hosts the podcast, "Making It Happen with Henry Ammar." The podcast hit #1 in the Training Category and #6 in the Education Category on the Apple Podcast Charts. Henry is passionate about leveraging his successes in music, leadership, and coaching to bring pop culture and practical empowerment together to free the world from fear and limiting beliefs and inspire confidence. What we discuss: 7:00 - Amar's perspective on creating art for "free" 11:00 - Wanting to be alone while feeling lonely 12:30 - The input-output perspective on creativity 14:00 - Using your strengths destructively or constructively 18:30 - Weighing other people's input when creating art 22:00 - Defining the line between owning your truth and considering other's feelings 24:00 - Why are we so afraid of others who have different opinions? 26:00 - Having difficult conversations coming from a place of compassion 30:00 - Discussing differences while maintaining a higher frequency 32:00 - What is actually right and wrong? 34:00 - Why uncertainty and openness allows for more compassion 34:30 - Drake quote! 36:00 - Understanding why people feel they need to defend their opinions 38:45 - Accepting what you can't change 43:00 - Why being authentic attracts "your people" 49:00 - Why you need to take a step back and define what you really want to do with your life 52:00 - Reinforcing the person you want to be vs. the person you have been 57:00 - Removing everything that isn't truly who you are Find more from Amar: Website: https://henryammar.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/henryammar/ Podcast: https://henryammar.com/podcast/ Check out my new single, GO.

Is it okay for me to go up to a woman I find attractive and tell her she is beautiful? The funny thing is, if she finds me attractive, it's flattering, but if she doesn't, it's sexual harassment. And why in movies is it romantic when a guy continues to chase after the girl because he believes they are "meant" to be together, but in real life, women think it's "creepy"? And why are there all these misconceptions when it comes to the masculine heart, like it is unsafe to be the object of a man's sexual desire, a man's sexual desire causes pain, men don't cry and don't have feeling, and men aren't capable of love? Men are confused. And to be honest, I have been confused! What should we do? In this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I dive into the topic of the masculine heart–our sexuality and sensitivity. Let's break down the misconceptions around the masculine heart, understand the masculine perspective on love, and learn to differentiate between honest and harmful intentions. For a daily dose of the Deep Dive podcast, follow @thedeepdive on Instagram! And be sure to check out my latest poem, Pandemic.

Are you carrying the wounds of your parents? As children, many of our parents dumped their wounds, baggage, fears, and insecurities onto us, and many of us believe we need to continue to carry this baggage for the rest of our lives. It has turned into an outlined curriculum or pattern that we continue to follow, yet we place blame, hold grudges, and never take responsibility. Their baggage may have been passed onto us, but is our responsibility to work through it and turn it into our greatest gifts. But in order to do so, we need to first understand the baggage we are carrying, look at it through the eyes of compassion, and release the blame we are holding onto. So how do we end this loop of ancestral karmic wounding and finally take ownership of how our lives unfold? We need to find enough compassion within ourselves to forgive our parents. And in this episode of the Deep Dive, I chat with singer/songwriter Julie Price on her experience working through the wounds she carried from her parents, how she was able to understand the "why" hidden within the wounds, and how she set herself free through forgiveness. Julia is a Good Morning America featured songwriter who was featured in the NY Times as a "booming creative." She built a personal online presence and community with over 470,000 followers across multiple platforms, including Vine. With a unique skill-set that expands beyond music, she also tours as an international speaker, hosts corporate heart-centered workshops, and consults high-level executives with an emphasis on female-founders, while also specializing in community building, managing campaigns, producing events and panels for start-ups to Fortune 500 Companies. Julia continues to create content for her own brand as well, as a published writer, influencer, and songwriter. Her purpose is to help others find and stand in their authentic voice in every situation they encounter. What we discuss: [00:07:08] Julia's unhealthy past romantic relationship dynamics [00:08:18] How Julia's unhealthy relationships stemmed from her father [00:09:37] How Julia began her healing process [00:11:32] How do you forgive someone who never apologized? [00:13:51] The impact of having been taught to shut down emotions [00:15:52] What is the alternative to forgiveness? [00:17:29] Different forgiveness dynamics: Romantic vs. Parental [00:18:03] Julia's process of forgiving her father [00:20:18] How psychedelics helped Julia enter into a place of compassion [00:21:23] Honoring boundaries in every relationship [00:22:31] Do we ever fully heal or will we always carry our wounds? [00:23:50] Ending the loop and becoming medicine for our parents though forgiveness [00:26:36] How our wounds determine how we move through life [00:29:26] Julia's healing patterns through awareness, effort and attention [00:32:33] Holding on to blame vs. taking responsibility [00:33:30] The shift that happens when you take responsibility [00:34:34] How accepting Julia's father created true change in their relationship [00:38:50] Adam's process of forgiving his abuser in his Ayahuasca ceremony [00:42:42] Why you need to understand to forgive [00:45:11] Using your 'negative' emotions as a tool [00:48:33] The reason Adam openly shares his story [00:55:36] The importance of listening to opposing views [00:58:02] Julia's best advice for songwriting Find more from Julia: Instagram: @juliapricemusic Website: www.juliapricemusic.com Join my Write From Your Heart 4-Week workshop co-hosted with Lindsey Ell! Learn more and sign up here.

Do you believe everything happens for a reason? Or do you believe everything happens because of the choices you've made? I bring this thought up in my latest single, Voices, where I say, "Am I choosing this or is this simply destiny?" What do you believe? To me, destiny implies that no matter what, you are destined to arrive at a certain point in reality–that you have no control over what happens. But, who determines what's meant to be? And what does that even mean? In this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I discuss why I believe we need to get rid of the idea of destiny, fate, and "meant to be", and instead take ownership of our reality. Ultimately, if you don't believe you create your own reality, then there are aspects of yourself that will never be able to change. And if you do take ownership of your reality, every possibility opens up to you. You can shift anything. So, which do you choose? P.S. Be sure to check out the CREATE community here.

You hold the ability to identify something you dislike in someone else because that same thing exists within you. And in this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I chat with the unbelievable Nicole Gibson on how we can come to the realization and fully embrace the idea that what we see in others is what we also see in ourselves. Nicole and I dive deep into the divinity and connectedness we have to everything and everyone at all times. With each person and each of their actions, how can we find love and compassion? How can we let go of our judgment and see from a place of understanding? How can we relate to those who we believe have done wrong? How do we have compassion while still holding boundaries in a loving way? How do we remain connected while still claiming our individuality? Nicole Gibson is a fierce ambassador for mental health, motivation speaker, multi-award winning social entrepreneur, CEO, and founder of The Rogue & Rouge Foundation, CEO of Startup Apprentice, and the former Australian Commissioner for Mental Health. Although she prefers to see herself as an unstoppable messenger of love and human potential, and truly believes there's only one way to change the world: to transform yourself by connecting to the deep part within you that realizes your greatest potential. I'm honestly blown away by Nicole's wisdom and I know you will leave this conversation with the drive to search for the love in everything and everyone. What we discuss: 6:00 - How do you decide what is the loving choice? 9:30 - Navigating showing up as love in a digital world 13:00 - Nicole's experience showing up as love as the Commissioner 19:30 - Owning and staying connected to your truth no matter what 24:30 - Overcoming our ego's determination to stay the same 28:00 - Why what you see in others is in you too 30:00 - Extending your heart to those you are rejecting 33:45 - Finding the understanding of other's actions within yourself 37:00 - Calming your nervous system to allow yourself to think rationally and find compassion 42:00 - The power of forgiveness 44:00 - Why we need to model behavior for each other and give each other a reference point 46:40 - Opening love up to others while still holding boundaries for your own self-love Find more from Nicole: Website: https://love-outloud.com Instagram: @nicgibson_ Book: Love Out Loud Join the CREATE community:

Do you believe forgiveness is weak or an act of strength? This is a question I battled when I learned the person I loved most betrayed me. I kept asking myself over and over again, "Do I forgive? And if I do, is that weak, or is that devotion?" The conclusion I came to is that forgiveness is devotion–devotion for myself. We need to learn to forgive because the pain, jealousy, and resentment we are carrying aren't affecting the person who hurt us–the only person it's affecting is ourselves. I know arriving at a place of forgiveness isn't easy and that's why in this episode of The Deep Dive Podcast with me, Adam Roa, I share three essential steps that will lead you to forgiveness. What You'll Learn:

• Why you need to forgive
• Why it's important to feel your emotions
• How to see the situation through a new perspective
• How to understand and relate to the person who hurt you
• The next step after you arrive at a place of forgiveness

Episodes mentioned: Season 2, Episode 2: Making the Loving Choice (No Matter How Hurt You Are) Season 2 of The Deep Dive Podcast is centered around the mainstream music I will be releasing. Be sure to follow me on Spotify to not miss out on my newest releases! Join country music singer and superstar, Lindsey Ell, and I for our Write From Your Heart 90-minute workshop on October 13th, 2020 by signing up here.

How do you process your pain? Better yet, do you even know how to process your pain? In this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, my guest Lindsay Ell will empower you on how to utilize writing as a tool for processing, healing, and learning from your pain. Most people believe the writing process is only about the final product that is created, although Lindsay views it as a tool for getting to know ourselves on a deeper level, moving through the different experiences in our lives, and transmuting our pain into the most beautiful art we can. Lindsay is a singer/songwriter superstar whose album, Heart Theory, hit the #1 album in the country across all genres and is based on her experience healing from heartbreak. Plus, in 2020 alone, Lindsay was nominated for a CMA and two ACM awards for New Female Artist of the Year and Music Event of the Year. Get ready to hear her invaluable insight on her personal writing process and how she uses it as a vehicle for understanding and learning from her emotions. What You'll Learn:

• How Lindsay developed her #1 album in the country, Heart Theory
• A step-by-step guide on Lindsey's writing process
• How to process, understand and heal from your pain through writing
• How to turn your personal pain into a beautiful art

Find more from Lindsay: Spotify: Heart Theory Instagram: @lindsayell Website: https://www.lindsayell.com Join Lindsay Ell and I for our Write From Your Heart 90-minute workshop on October 13th, 2020 and dive deeper into Lindsay's writing process. Sign up here.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to love, but there is always a more loving choice for us to make. The issue is, how do we know what the most loving choice is? Should we forgive? Should we say no? Should we stand up for our boundaries? The loving choice isn't always clear, especially when you have been deeply hurt, and it definitely isn't always easy to make, so let's talk about it. In this episode of the Deep Dive podcast with me, Adam Roa, I challenge you to change your perspective on your relationships by asking you this question: How can you show up as love, no matter how others have treated you? I personally desire to live with my heart open, and I know you do, too. So let's make the loving choice. What you'll learn:

• Love is unconditional, yet relationships are full of conditions
• How to search for love in all actions and circumstances
• Why it's important to actively make the loving choice, no matter how hurt you feel
• When making the loving choice, you are doing it for you, not for them

Season 2 of The Deep Dive Podcast is centered around the mainstream music I will be releasing. Be sure to follow me on Spotify to not miss out on my newest release. Join country music singer and superstar, Lindsey Ell, and I for our Write From Your Heart 90-minute workshop on October 13th, 2020 by signing up here.

The Deep Dive Podcast with me, Adam Roa, is back and I couldn't be more excited to re-join you on your consciousness journey. With this season, I am more motivated than ever to bring you content that grows your awareness, expands your consciousness, and challenges you to become the person you desire to be. And that's why in this episode I challenge you to become aware of the things you're reading, watching, and listening to. We are living in a society where it's easier to numb than to feel. So the ultimate question I want to ask you is: Is the art and media you are exposing yourself to daily expanding your mind or numbing your feelings? Are you using it to grow or is a distraction from your growth? Think about the movies and TV shows you watch and ask yourself, what are they really saying, and how are they evolving you? And what about the music you listen to? In what ways are you growing from what you're receiving? Art can be entertaining, fun, dope, and sexy, but it can also be expansive and a part of your personal development. So tune in to this episode now to expose yourself to art that is empowering you, not numbing you. What You'll Learn:

• How society is built to numb us
• How hiding from discomfort is at the root of our unhappiness and unhealthiness
• How most of society is using art and media today
• How to use art and media as a permission slip to feel
• How to use art and media to expand your consciousness and growth

We are living in a society where it's set up to make it easier to numb than to feel. Season 2 of The Deep Dive Podcast is centered around the mainstream music I will be releasing. Be sure to follow me on Spotify to not miss out on my newest release. Join country music singer and superstar, Lindsey Ell, and I for our Write From Your Heart 90-minute workshop on October 13th, 2020 by signing up here.