The Deep Resilience Podcast

Guilt is a complex and often uncomfortable emotion, and while we might find it distressing to experience, it holds immense potential for constructive growth if we tune into its insights. Often mistaken for shame, which can become debilitating and detrimental to our self-esteem and wellbeing, guilt offers an avenue to realign with our values and authentic selves. In making this distinction and reflecting on the source of our guilt and the actions and circumstances that prompted it, we can fully embrace the wisdom it has to offer and commit to positive change.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I elucidate the crucial difference between guilt and shame and the importance of separating who you are from your actions. I guide you to investigate the emotion with empathy and transform the experience from disempowerment into one of motivation, inner strength, and mental clarity.

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Anyone who has experienced grief knows how profoundly painful and scary it can be. It can totally overwhelm and debilitate us, and in our attempts to escape or push through in any way we can, it’s easy to tip into maladaptive or unhelpful coping mechanisms, making an already difficult time feel even more impossible. Amidst the turmoil, taking some time to contemplate and address our needs can help us navigate this inherently painful journey with gentle, life-affirming, and rejuvenating clarity.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I share four key questions to ask yourself in times of grief to promote nourishment and self-compassion. Reflecting on your answers will illuminate potential unmet needs and guide you in taking nurturing action, however small, to care for yourself and replenish your strength.

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Trauma can seem a weighty term, but the truth is most of us have had experiences in life that have that have somehow burdened or constrained us. Some of us are so impacted we feel completely stuck, broken, hopeless. While we can’t change the events of the past, it is possible to heal. The wounds we carry are not what happened to us but what happened within us, and though this psychological scarring is enduring, it doesn’t have to be permanent.  

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I touch upon expert Dr. Gabor Maté’s insights about the nature and dynamics of trauma. I invite you to begin an unburdening process of recognition and reconnection with yourself, and introduce various evidence-based therapeutic modalities for more supported healing. 

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Spending time alone is an important and healthy part of being human, but becoming isolated or emotionally disconnected from others can naturally lead to painful feelings of loneliness, even if we aren’t actually alone. Most of us thrive in healthy communities with close relationships, so when loneliness signals our social needs are not being met, instead of becoming overwhelmed, we can take empowered action to restore feelings of control, hopefulness and resilience. 

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I expand on last week’s episode and offer practical steps you can take right now to protect your wellbeing and strengthen your bonds with others. I introduce a three-step framework to clarify the cause of loneliness in the context of your specific needs and circumstances and transform the experience into one of insight and self-actualisation.

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Loneliness can consume us, often triggering depression and pulling us into deeper isolation. To cope with this, we are typically advised to escape or repress the feeling by remaining busy, distracted and preoccupied, but this can ultimately exacerbate our suffering and leave us burnt out. An emotion apt to cause so much pain may seem an obvious enemy, but in changing our relationship with loneliness, we begin to recognise it as an ally offering valuable insight about our fundamental need for connection.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I clarify the distinction between feeling lonely and simply being alone and tease apart the mental storylines we attach to each. From here, you can create the space to mindfully investigate the feeling and adopt a more skillful and life-affirming approach, fostering a deeper connection with yourself and your needs.

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In a society overly fixated on our outward appearances and achievements, we can easily get caught in loops of shame or disappointment about our bodies and, from a place of harsh judgement, push ourselves to fix, change or improve what we perceive as flaws or inferiorities.

As ever-changing and impossible standards permeate our environments and our minds, we can counter ingrained self-criticism by actively practising body appreciation and creating the space to treat ourselves and our bodies with more compassion, acceptance and appreciation.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I invite you to unhook from negative thoughts and comparisons and contemplate the many ways your body supports and nourishes you as the vehicle through which you experience the world. By shifting your mental dialogue and learning to befriend your body, you can start to find comfort and gratitude within your own skin.

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Self love is a simple, though perhaps not always easy, practice of maintaining an accepting attitude towards yourself and treating yourself with kindness and respect.

Often misconstrued as self-importance, self-indulgence or toxic positivity at the expense of our ability to love and care for others, true self love embraces the coexistence of frustration and understanding, disappointment and compassion, allowing space for each.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I exemplify how the concept of self love translates to actions that can be incorporated into your day-to-day. Rather than being antithetical to self-improvement, I emphasise how cultivating this valuable skill promotes increased confidence, improved ability to reach your goals, closer relationships and an increase in overall life satisfaction.

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The human mind is a double-edged sword. While it has the remarkable ability to help us survive, problem-solve and innovate, if allowed to roam unchecked, it can easily succumb to unhelpful programmed thought patterns that cause stress and suffering, latching on to rumination, self-criticism and limiting beliefs.

Cultivating the skill of mindfulness, dropping out of the mind and into awareness, allows us both to unhook from destructive thought cycles and draw upon an enormous reservoir of wisdom, calm and inner strength that already exists within us.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I introduce the seven qualities of the self that are awakened when we learn to inhabit the present moment and anchor ourselves in a deeper awareness. I guide you through a simple breathing exercise to practise mindfulness, connect with your core self, find a place of wholeness and work towards mental, emotional and spiritual strength.

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We've equipped our mental strength toolkits with tried and true mindfulness and mindset techniques, but what about when these fall short? Sometimes, even the strongest mind is not enough to pull us through our toughest days or lift us from our lowest lows.

While these evidence-based techniques offer immense value, they can overlook our deepest wellspring of inner strength as human beings. The Deep Resilience method integrates and enhances these modalities within a four-step framework, adopting a holistic approach and allowing us to tap into our deeper nature and access the innate intelligence of the mind, body and spirit.

In this episode of Deep Resilience, I invite you to try on a different paradigm of human nature and drop into a new depth and richness on this journey of becoming stronger together. I share my personal story that led me to recognize the importance of deep awareness, expanding the horizons and definitions of inner strength while unlocking the power to rise not only to individual challenges but also to collective ones.

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Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com

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Deep resilience is a state of mental-emotional and spiritual integration and strength that can change everything. The way you live, the way you lead, the way you love and the way you handle life's challenges.

This podcast will help you unlock your own deep resilience. In this way you can use this podcast as your weekly training ground to build inner strength in bite sized chunks, one step at a time.

In each weekly episode of the Deep Resilience podcast Melli O’Brien shares one key insight or skill to help you grow your inner strength, allowing you to reduce your stress, rise to your challenges and unlock greater freedom and peace of mind in the middle of it all.  

After 15 years as an entrepreneur educator and coach in the mental health space and having the blessing of a successful career where her courses, retreats and app helped over 1 million people globally become mentally stronger, Melli created the deep resilience method, a radical new approach that is helping thousands of people remain resilient, empowered and centred even in the face of formidable challenges.