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This episode is fantastic and goes into mental health issues, that many of us experience or will experience at some point. I loved talking with Mark, he’s such a great guy and a lovely soul. We talk about his best selling book and his own personal life experience.

Mark gives a few good advice to fight back mental health, and his own perspective on the subject which he’s passionate about. It was a pleasure to have this conversation and I hope to catch up with Mark next year.

I ask Mark the following:

How did you end up with your current line of work, as an author, keynote speaker, and Coaching?

How did you cope with your own mental health issues?

What does The Mind Work out mean to you?

How did you end up writing this book?

How long did it take you to write it?

What are the best tips for people suffering from mental issues?

What is the if any one of the big catalysts for mental health in today’s world?

Where can we find you?

What do you do for fun?

What do you do to relax?

Any books you can recommend to me, that has changed your life?

Mark recommends this book: Moneyball.

https://www.amazon.com/Moneyball-Art-Winning-Unfair-Game/dp/0393324818

You can find Mark Freeman on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/thepathtochange

And on his website:

https://www.markfreeman.ca/

Thank you for listening or reading,

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Hi there lovelies,

This week we are going back in time in 2016, when I first started my podcast, called back then Successful entrepreneurs.

I had the pleasure to interview Carl Williams, to get a better understanding of the beginning of both the Jazz and Folk festivals. How he and Gerv got started and how they got to where there are today, as one of the most famous festivals right in the center of the UK.

The festivals have included the likes of Chaka Khan, Soul II Soul, George Clinton Parliament Funkadelic, De La Soul, Gregory Porter, Fun Lovin Criminals, Chic Feat. Nile Rogers and Public Enemy and many more…

This episode is one of my first interview, I apologise for the quality and my style of the interviewer. I used to come to both festival and provide aerial views for Carl, and used to love it. It’s an amazing place to be if you are into live music.

I do hope you enjoy it thought. If you are thinking of starting a music festival there is good advice from Carl to get you started.

The link for the festivals below:

https://mostlyjazz.co.uk/

https://www.moseleyfolk.co.uk/

Have a great weekend my friends and see you next week.

Didier

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Hello my lovelies,

I’m writing about this article by Kevin Kelly (https://kk.org/thetechnium/1000-true-fans/) which I suggest you read if you are an artist, musician, podcast host, painter, blogger or anything else creative.

Kevin explain a simple idea, you do not need to be famous, or have millions of fans to have a good life.

If you can find 1000 true fans, by that Kevin means, people that love you so much that they will buy anything you are selling, then if you can produce a product (album, art piece, content, podcast…) for $100 every year, and that your true fans buy it from you, that is an income of $100000 a year, that is pretty good, since research shows that anything anything after between 70 000 to 100000 will not make any happier.

If this is still too high for you, you could start by aiming at 500 true fans and produce something in the rage of $60 per year, that amount to $30000 per year.

Let’s be honest, $30000 a year to do what you love is not bad at all right? It’s pretty awesome if no?

This is of course not for everyone, you need to maintain a great relationship with your true fans, and be consistent as well, offer them more than to become an investor in whatever you are doing as opposed to your free blog for example you put out every week or month.

You can use sit like Patreon, which allow you to give selected packages to your audience based on their wallet, or needs.

For example, you could give your true fans special content only available to them, if you podcast you could send them first your next episode before anybody else, you could create a blog only for them...

I think this is a great way to look at things.

This brings me to my second point. I have set myself to be a millionaire for fare to long, thinking this was a good number, but would it make me happy, as I said early and this is backed by studies, it wouldn’t, of course, it's nice to have money, but with this new target of $30000 to $100000 per year, it’s more attainable, plus I think aiming too high can cause extreme stress and can set yourself for failure from the start.

When you get to $100000 a year, then you can start raising the bar. I think I did that mistake of aiming too high over the past years, and I can see now how this causes me much stress and feeling of failure for myself if I did not got that number in my bank account.

It’s clear to me now, but this is for me, I just like to mention how I feel about, this is maybe not for everyone, for me it was the wrong way of looking at things.

So now I am on a quest to look for my true fans, and if you are one for them, please let me know because I need to support my art, my music and my podcast.

Of course as mentioned above my true fans will get more than my normal followers, but I’m currently working on this so bare with me and let me know now by a simple comment, or email, so I can start grow my army of true fans and get personal with you.

I have ideas of video Q&A, songs votes, by email subscription to stay in touch with you, and write special content just for you.

If you do want to start now, please use the link below, and become a patreon with me, you can give whatever you wish right now, as I’m in process to create different package to suit people wallet.

As of today, I reckon $5, $20 and $50/year package selections, but as I said it’s a working process.

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At the end of this podcast I’m putting a song I wrote, got a good singer of mine to sing it for me, so this is what you will be supporting if you decide to be a supporter of mine and help me create more songs, by helping me record new songs.

I want to thank you for following this podcast and I will speak to you very soon

Didier

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Hello Lovelies,

Sorry I have been away last week, I did what I do when I’m overwhelmed, I hide from the world and isolate myself.

Not the best tactic I agree, but sometimes it helps me put things into perspective, plus there so much time you can spend feeling sorry for yourself, that after a while it becomes boring, and you have to get up and face the world.

Yes I think this period of reflection do have there place in life, it does in mine anyway.

The only way is up and your face is in the floor. Like a phoenix rising from the flame.

Of course this practice is not recommended, but I have to admit I do this once in a while, I feel sorry for myself, think the whole wide world don’t understand me, that life sucks, and I kinda drink my pain away, till I pass out.

As I write this I see this is my old self fighting back to get control again, but since I know better know, I don’t judge myself too much, because in small set back and I learn about myself, It’s not a failure, I’m working at it, I’m working on me, I’m creating a new me since I have been back from cage I built myself in UK.

It’s funny to me now when I watch myself saying inside my head, you a failure, you see you may as well give up now. It’s quite laughable to observe.

But in order to just observe, I had to work on it, with daily meditation, constant observation of my inner thoughts, and I’m starting to enjoy results. Of course I’m far save and still in the woods as they say, but the path is slowly been carved by my actions.

It’s a multitude of factors, of course living in place like Vichy in France does help, where I can enjoy my family much more than from my 20 years in the UK, the weather certainly is great factor, since March this year it has been mainly sunny days and bleu sky.

But it has also came from the books and podcasts I listen to daily, all of this ammo for me to use against anything life throws at me, which is always can bring the old me.

What I need to embrace more when it comes is sadness or loneliness, and just be at peace with it, those feelings won’t kill me, I just find it is still hard to deal with it, and here my tool is my music, I write songs.

Last few weeks I have been writing this song for an old girlfriend of mine, Maria. It’s quite funny since when I was with her (7years) she asked me once to write a song for her, it only took another 6 years to do it.

Well anyway, it's for me redemption, I wish her the best of things to come (this last line is actually some of the lyrics).

I just felt deeply sad at remind me of her and what I knobhead I was with her, that I start to play my guitar and the song kinda came. I actually share a tears the very first time I played it.

Which is a shame, because that moment was beautiful but I the emotion within is gone now, I have played far to many times now and the first take was raw, I reckon this will comes back after a few months, when I have forgotten about it and it surprises me again. I just don’t think I will be intense.

Anyway, I am proud of the song very much, and this is therapy for me, letting it out, writing down something that is upsetting me right now, and be at peace with it.

And I’m going to sing it for you right now. But first a last word about my anxiety and the episode I had last week.

I think it’s ok to have set backs and times, we should not see them as failures, and this is shoud esxuses for us to say, oh well fuck it, I’m just never going to break through, I may as well just go back to what I know, gamble online, go watch online pornography, got eat something to feel good, drink exesiviley, or something else that doesn’t emporing us to take control fo our life but react and act to elliminate a particular feeling of state of mind at a given time.

I say this, watch what your brain is feeding you, because most of the time it may not serve you at all, just an old patterns that is been programed so well you don’t even think, y(continued)

Hello my dear listeners,

This mini episode is dedicated to Kevin Hart autobiography. I loved this book so much I try to read it once a year, as I find it inspiring and full of great life lessons. Plus Kevin audiobook is hilarious, the guy is very funny, don’t just take my word for it just read it and I promise you will love it too.

The one thing I really enjoy and try to follow as philosophy is what he calls, shoulder shrug. By that is that whatever bad things are there no point feel sorry for yourself ,which is by the way the ego talking, not the real you.

You just take it and move forward, if your dream is big enough, you will find a way. Kevin says that if you are committed to better yourself, then little step back are not the end of you, life is a big test and you should see those moments as such.

I got the most respect for the guy, going through his comedy material in his early days in ostile clubs, been ackle, get a chicken wings thrown at his face while introducing others act on stage, getting rejected for his multiple on his tv shows, been broke and still believing in himself, even when he was getting somewhere with his act.

Kevin tells that success is been a lovable guy, not been the best at what he did, but been himself count first which he had to learn. Kevin owns his success to the team and community he built around him, the networking, the hours spent giving out flyers, time spent getting to know his audience after the shows, taking pictures and simply taking with his fans.

If you are a comedian, this book is for you, be prepared for the hard work, Kevin says it was 16 years in the making, to be where he is today.

Other than the fantastic live lessons and anecdotes within this book, I love Kevin for his dedication to his work, his honesty and the way he sees life.

Kevin Hart, to me an inspiration and I’m grateful I have been lucky enough to come across this book.

https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Make-This-Up-Lessons-ebook/dp/B01MYWFGRM

Thank you Kevin, thank you

This is it people, have a great weekend and I see you next week.

PS: Would you mind getting me some stars on the links below please? Thank you so much in advance.

Love you.

Thank you for listening or reading,

Didier Soulier

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Hello my lovelies

Break through having bad start of your day

1- Move your body (exercise, run, walk, cycle…)

Anything you enjoy doing, just get out and do it, within minutes you will start to feel better, it works, trust me, try it and see

2- Read your favorite book, play your favorite music, play your favorite game or instrument for 20 minute or so.

This is a great way to lose yourself in another thing that is not your own head. My head is like a bad neighbourhood, I don’t like to go there alone :-)

3- Remember a happy memory, smile, watch a funny video (fail videos always works for me)

Another great way to switch your mindset, your brain cannot have opposite feelings at the same time. You can’t cry and be happy at the same time, you can’t feel sorry for yourself when you are happy and smiling.

The main thing is quite simple, do something else than think about how crap you feel right now, and you will see that bad mood will go away.

What can be a bad start of the day?

The more you body is moving, the better, in order to change a state of mind, moving is key really, the other 2 works too, but if you are struggling, reassure that the first option will never let you down and work everytime.

Breakthrough this week, I have found what my mentor suggested I start doing, and here it is. I’m about to start my own Life Coach business, ….. Thank you to the universe unlimited powers for letting me know about this certitude this morning while chatting with one of my best UK friends.

I makes total sense, I know I’m capable of helping individuals with pretty much anything they will ask me help for, well I have still things to learn, of course.

I’m just so happy to let you guys know about this new venture, I’m actually super excited. More on this soon.

Now I have just come across the chanel in france purely dedicated to bloody petanque. This is a france game you play on sand or small gravel before the Apero (french fancy word for drinking alchool). Honestly what will they come up with next, swings competition?

It’s to me as amusing a darts, (Great Britain contribution to boredom heaven) Sorry my UK friends, I think darts should be left for Pubs environment, I don’t get it, what next a fruit machine competition? By that I mean the casino like machine you get in pubs, where most drunks lose most their doll money (that is the universal credits now I think, what a posh name for it.)

I’m sorry if I offended anyone, this is my option, and since this is my show I can do what I like. :-)

I’m full of it ain’t I?

Anyway this is it for today. I love you and thank you supporting me, I’m proud to say the Dider Show as been on the top 10 for a whole month, how cool?

Love ya.

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Didier Soulier

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Hello, my friends,

This week I have a special request for you guys, What is your best movie of all time, top 10.

I know it’s pretty hard but this is mine, and this could change a bit but there it is:

Shawshank Redemption

Gladiator

Big fish

Pulp fiction

The Dark Night

The GodFather

Good Will Hunting

Fight Club

The Sea inside

Untouchable (French version)

Interstellar

Alien

The good, the Bad and the ugly

The House behind the pins

Senseless

Dancing with wolves

Citizen Kane

Some like it hot

No Country for Old Men

Persepolis

The Bellevue Rendez-vous

Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy

Zoolander

The Incredibles

Toy Story

Blow

The Wolf of Wall Street

The Grand Budapest Hotel

Team America

Papillon...

So many but please use the link below and give me your best 10 favorite movies, I always love new movies to watch.

Thank you for listening or reading,

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Bonjour my friends,

Mini series about one of the best selling book of all time, the Alchemist.

I do not want to spoil the fun so I will be brief in describing this book to you to inspire you to read it.

The story is a spanish boy called Santiago, a shepherd who get this dream about a tresor by the pyramid of Egypt, and go to find his personal legend.

This book is full of great moral and spiritual aspect of life, I can only say it’s a must read and you will take on what will speak to you.

Santiago embarks on his journey through north africa and meet friends and thief along the way. I love that at some point the book reveals that when you are doing good with your life it affect others around you and in terms of the rest of the world.

This is a short novel but is really a joy to read, it’s relevant for today's world and our envie to listen to life opportunities, unless we discard it and at some point the signs stop coming to us and we accept who and where we are.

I honestly recommend this great book and you won’t be disappointed after you finish it.

I don’t want to tell you too much about because it would spoil the fun, so this is a short review.

Please get the book and let me know what you think of it.

On another note, I have now a business / life coach Lena Kay, and I will be asking you guys to help me out on a new project that I’m currently working on, I can’t wait.

Or another thing, I’m reading another book by Dr. Joe Dispenza called Breaking the habit of being yourself, and I’m going to test out some of the great idea within the book, so watch out as this is going to be awesome but more on this on next episode.

As always, I love you, thank you so much for listening and I see you soon.

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This is part two from Mel Robbins book the 5 second rules.

I‘d like to talk about discipline here, which is what the 5 second rule is I reckon, is the commitment to actually do the things you know you should be doing, and do them on a regular basic. It’s to start moving, doing whatever that is for you.

Yesterday I did not feel like waiting for my mastermind group video session, but I forced myself out of the flat, wen for a ride on my bike and listen to my book which is this week the Alchemist. Such a great book, I’m doing a review on that one, it’s full of empowering metaphors about life and getting where you want to go in life.

After 20 minutes riding my bike I was pumped up and my mind swing from not wanted to do anything to attend the mastermind online seminar.

Is it maybe I have ADHD and so I need to be constantly moving to do my best thinking, maybe, but in getting myself out of negative mind set, I changed and wanted to improve my life, and right there and then, I realised I have to physically move if I want to switch from a negative mindset to a positive mind set with an optimistic outlook on my life.

I already know this, and you do, we are all capable of doing amazing things with our life, this is not to say oh look at me, how great of better I am than most people. No it’s not that we are somewhat better, or clever, or more driven, I believe we all are so much to give to this world, and it’s start from believing in ourselves, if we love ourselves and make the changes needed inside our own self talk our how we see ourselves, we can move mountains, and be whatever we wish to be.

I think we all sell ourselves short, because of the stories we tell ourselves, and In believing in yourself is not to say we better than anyone, we just claim what it is our to take in the first place, from birth right.

Someone said this before, we are born to win, but program to fail. It’s not been arrogant to wanting to do more of what we are currently doing with our life, when we know deep down we can.

It all depends on how much you are prepared to give, to do, to work towards a goal.

Old people do not regret the things in life they have done, only everything else they did not do or try. Who do you want to be, what kind of person are you?

Will you claim your rights for a better, more fulfilled life or will you just give up, finding all the excuses to keep you where you are and not live your life to the full?

This is it, life is happening, there is no rehearsal, it’s happening right now, try something, even if you fail you will learn something. Not knowing what could have been has got to be worse than not trying in the first place, no?

Be yourself, just listen to your heart, your guts, make small changes daily and be on your way, who knows where you will be this time next year, you will be surprised what is waiting for you.

Life rewards those who try and keep going.

I love you and I know you can make it.

Check Mel Robbins book below:

https://www.amazon.com/Second-Rule-Transform-Confidence-Everyday/dp/1682612384

The Patriot Amazon Prime Series link: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4687882/

Thank you for listening or reading, and please subscribe to your favorite platform or why not leave a rating on Itunes, please, that would help me with the show ratings, I would deeply appreciated.

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Bonjour me lovelies,

How are you doing on the great October 2019 month?

Mini Episode today, on one amazing book by Mel Robbins: The 5 second rules.

Mel explained why this rules will change your life. I totally get it, Mel explained how the your brain is constantly working against you, when you want to make changes in your life, and become the person you know you what and are capable of being, but your brain wil get in the way because it does not want you to fall short, to fail, to be disappointed in trying something new, and keep you in a safe position.

Mel explained something I call the monkey on your shoulder, the fact that we doing things in ife not because of logic, but how we feel about it, and this can be a problem.

You will not feel like exercising, most days, you will not want to start on this new project of yours, you will not feel like waking up early and so on.

The trick is to stop thinking, and doing. Mel use a 5 second rules, count backwards from 5 to 0, and move, do, start.

If you leave enough time, your brain will find excuses as to why you should not do something or act.

I love Mel Robbins rule and I’m going to use it now, I have been using something similar, but more brutal. When I know I need to wake up, get going, do my exercise, meditated or start writing or working on a project, I would hear myself saying, oh not today, I don’t feel like, can we do it another day?

I simply say, fuck off and get over it, now get going, and I feel awesome within minutes. This works most days, but I gotta be honest old habits creep back so this now tool the 5 second rules is going to be a very good allie.

The other thing I love about this book, is that I learned something I kind of knew without knowing, is that there is a good form of procrastination. Yep that’s right, sometimes you brain needs a little break from a project, to get more perspective. I told you before you subconscious is the boss here and if you leave it a little time, it will bring some answers to your prays and frustrations.

No don’t get me wrong, this does not mean you can just relax and let your subconscious do all the work, and hope that magically everything will come to you, you lazy git.

No you know deep down when you are opting towards distraction rather than do the work you know you have to do.

Or by the way, I said it before but for crying out loud, Mel also tells you to get rid of distractions, like pops when you get an email, facebook, messages.

Take it all off, this is stopping you doing what you should be doing, set a time in the day to check your emails, your facebook or instagram profiles. Please do it, try it. You will be amaze first how much more you get down, but also how much more relaxed you feel.

Just get the book, it’s another life changing book, I know I use that term for pretty much every book I review here, but there are in their own rights. Read or listen to them and you will see, and leave me a comment on the social, of course when you have time managed that, so not right now when you decide to do so, not when you phone beeps.

Check Mel Robbins book below:

https://www.amazon.com/Second-Rule-Transform-Confidence-Everyday/dp/1682612384

Now on another lighter note, have you seen the Boys on amazon, boy oh boy. I love this Tv series, it was suggested by Matt Huntley last week, if you been listening that is.. And another great pal of mine in Birmingham UK. It’s so good, the plot is super heroes turn dark. You have this super man kind of guys, who is leading the team of 7 superheroes that do good for the planet but get it totally wrong at times and a big corporation clean up the mess and silence pretty much anyone who stands in their way.

It’s really, really good and you won’t regret it, for those of you that enjoyed many moons back the series heroes with the crazy guy mad about clocks and taking powers from the brain of superheroes you in for a treat. Here is the link below:

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