The Dider Show

Black mirror creator Charlie Brooker is a genius. Emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman, and heroes of Chernobyl.

I recommend highly this book Emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman. For too long I used to feel bad about myself because I failed to recognize my own sabotage and judging myself too hard. For example :

I play piano every day in the train station on the provided piano and I can get at times 20 people per week thanking me how good I play or how much pleasure they get from it, but once one guy came behind me asking what I was playing which I reply my own songs to get his reply: you and for 2 weeks this is all I was thinking about. This is madness and I don’t nor deserve this stress open myself.

Be aware of what you tell yourself on a daily basis is mindfulness and I do now watch myself when I do over criticism myself :-). If you suffer from this please do yourself a favor and read the book.

The other thing is how rude some people are, especially on social media. When you hear about celebrities going to rehab, we far too quick to judge: oh well that serve him right, he be ok he’s loaded, but they all human like any of us, and sometimes, me more the most, we fuck up, we make mistake, should be judged on that basis only and forgot about all the good work we have achieved before, who the fuck can be radius enough to judge others? Nobody is perfect period, and I would even go and most of those haters, hiding behind the computers of the phone would be sorry if we, in turn, look at their fucked up life.

So go fuck yourself the YouTubers thumbs down (Nobody forced you to watch that video, so go do something else) the racist commentator, the one who makes shit up to prove their stupid point, all those cunts...go find a pond and drown yourselves. This world needs love and compassion, not your hate and ass tower point of view.

I fucking love black mirror by Charlie Brooker. What I genius I used to love his Newswipe show on BBC, he used to make laugh so much I think I pissed myself once. Black mirror is an among the best series there is today on Netflix. His bander snatch where you get to choose what happens next is mind-blowing, I loved it so much I made my own mum watch it, and she loved it, thank you, Charlie, for making it on French too.

Breaking bad used to be the best show, not anymore, well it’s not comparable really, just like the Wire series is not comparable to a tree. Or narco another great show.

This week I watched the HBO mini-series Chernobyl and I loved it, I wasn’t aware of all the people that sacrifice and gave their lives to help stop more radioactive materials been exposed to the population without asking for getting anything or very little in return from their government. I have so much respect for the human been involved with the cleanup operation and all the those who help to get the truth out even if they knew they would be either kill or discarded by the owns. Watch it please you won’t regred it.

Thank you for listening.

Didier

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Topics:

Amanda Palmer, how she has given me hope to get back to be a musician again without the need of having a recording company.

Miscarriages, talking with my grandmother,

If you don’t confront your demons, they go into the darkest room of your soul pumping iron (Amanda)

How much crap women have to put up with (my fake profiles on Linked IN),

You help me towards my own recovery, so thank you, my listeners,

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Exercise, Meditation, 30 days without complaining and community mindset…

Thank you for listening to the podcast, this week this is what I gonna try to cover.

Topics:

Exercise (start slow, make it fun),

You help me towards my own recovery,

Monkey Brain Paradox (the two side of yourself),

30 days without complaining,

Meditation,

Doing something for your community,

Talent and energy,

Turn off all notification to be stress-free from your phone, don’t be a slave to it, you the boss,

Support this podcast (if you can of course)

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The podcast I recommend:

Tim Ferris:

https://tim.blog/podcast/

Joe Rogan:

http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Books I’ve loved:

Happy by Darren Brown,

Neil Strauss (The game),

This is going to Hurt by Adam Kay (recommended by Steven Fry),

Ready Player One by Ernest Cline,

The Count of Montechristo (my favorite book ever)

A life in Parts by Bryan Cranston (Walter White, Breaking Bad)

Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari.

Books I recommend for sex or porn addiction:

Out of shadows, Patrick Carnes.

Recovery to live by Christopher Kennedy Lawford.

Breaking the cycle, George Collins MA, and Andrew Adleman MA.

Always turned on by Robert Weiss and Jennifer p. Shneider.

Recovery, freedom from our addictions by Russell Brand.

Atomic habits by Alain Carr.

Rewire your anxious brain by Catherine M.Pittman Phd, Elizabeth M Karle.

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Didier Soulier

Sex addiction, it will never satisfy you. Porn is not real and shouldn’t try to act out what you see with your partner. Finding an intimate time with your partner is far more rewarding. Caress her for hours but not in the sexual parts. Just try it out. If you single, well too bad for you :-)

Addiction, understand yourself, find what trigger you, stop yourself before you feel the need to act out sexually.

Stay busy, when you feel the urges, just go for a walk, the feeling will pass

Stay away from the swimming pool, gym, beach where you may see attractive girls who will turn you on and start you off.

Scratch your beard, when you start to stair a girl and look away within seconds

See woman as little kids, this helps me to stop to sexualize them.

Don’t judge yourself too hard, you are better than you think, in fact having a sex-related issues means you have a big libido, and you are strong and can be very successful when you will find the way to use this energy to your benefit.

Drug addiction: if your friends are doing drugs, then you need to stay away from them until you are strong enough to say no. Be aware of your friends that do drugs will likely try to stop you in your tracks because they don’t want you to change. If they are truly good friends they will support you if they don’t, simple just ditch them, they are no good to you anymore.

Try to not compare yourself to other people, don’t compare with people that have the same age and that are already successful, you are you, and stay yourself, you will get there, just be yourself because everybody else is already taken.

The podcast I recommend:

Tim Ferris:

https://tim.blog/podcast/

Joe Rogan:

http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Books I recommend:

Happy by Darren Brown,

Neil Strauss (The game),

This is going to Hurt by Adam Kay (recommended by Steven Fry),

Ready Player One by Ernest Cline,

The Count of Montechristo (my favorite book ever)

A life in Parts by Bryan Cranston (Walter White, Breaking Bad)

Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari.

Books I recommend for sex or porn addiction

Out of shadows, Patrick Carnes.

Recovery to live by Christopher Kennedy Lawford.

Breaking the cycle, George Collins MA, and Andrew Adleman MA.

Always turned on by Robert Weiss and Jennifer p. Shneider.

Recovery, freedom from our addictions by Russell Brand.

Atomic habits by Alain Carr.

Rewire your anxious brain by Catherine M.Pittman Phd, Elizabeth M Karle.

podcast Episode Number 2:

Recap on the first episode.

Porn addiction, coke addiction, pot, Viagra…. The hell and cage I created for myself.

Importance to talk and seek help. See show note on 1st Episode which is worth checking out plus the book I recommend.

Been Successful? What does it mean to you?

Been a good dad, a good person, a good friend, spend time with loves ones and family is been successful.

Money? Of course, I feel happier when I have money in my bank compare to when I was totally broke. But Money won’t get you happiness, if you are not happy with yourself now, having money won’t help you. Fact, some millionaires are miserable, and someone in a poor country has a smile on their face all day long.

Now morning routine, why I exercise and do something for your community.

Some books I read about personal improvement:

The secret, (a lot of shit)

Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill (good but not enough to think about what you want)

If you want to be successful, read about successful people and follow what they do, not the assholes on a video you saw on facebook.

Have a great week,

Love

Autobiography and books I recommend

Richard Branson and losing my virginity,

Happy by Darren Brown,

I can’t make this up by Kevin Hart and Neil Strauss (the game),

This is going to Hurt by Adam Kay (recommended by Steven Fry),

Ready Player One by Ernest Cline.

Books I recommend for sex or porn addiction

Out of shadows, Patrick Carnes.

Recovery to live by Christopher Kennedy Lawford.

Breaking the cycle, George Collins MA, and Andrew Adleman MA.

Always turned on by Robert Weiss and Jennifer p. Shneider.

Recovery, freedom from our addictions by Russell Brand.

Atomic habits by Alain Carr.

Rewire your anxious brain by Catherine M.Pittman Phd, Elizabeth M Karle.

I suffered for almost 10 years with my porn and sex addiction, which led to a heavy use of drugs such as Marijana, Cocaine and alcohol.

I would watch porn up to 12 times a day on a bad day, which affected my own business, my self esteem and happiness. I would tell people I was doing great, but behind close doors I was crying and seeking help.

For me I was getting to the point that I told myself: if you can’t stop I will just have to kill myself at some point.

It took therapy sessions , NLP sessions talking to good friends and reading books about addiction but what really worked for me is the drastic measures I took:

At the age of 39, I decided to leave the UK and back home to France to give myself the best chance to succeed and change my bad habits.

Changing my environment, moving back to my to France to my mum and working every day at doing less and less really worked for me. I was committed for change, and I stopped judging myself when I failed some days.

In the first edition of my Podcast the Dider Show I share my struggles and how I changed for the better.

I would like to invite you to listen, because I thought I was totally lost and I would never overcome my porn addiction.

But I did, and it took less time than I thought, so I want to tell you guys out there that there is hope for you too if you are currently struggling with the compulsive behaviour that touches so many people that are too ashamed to reach out and seek help.

What about masturbation habits: how many times, most men do it once a day, sometimes 3 times a day.

Start, where does it come from?

How it crip on me, what damage it caused in my life.

What other bad habits came with it.

How it became impossible to concentrate, function, created my own prison.

The changes I made in the end.

Seeking advice, don’t judge yourself too hard.

Happy ending, change of environment.

Stay busy, there is hope, you can do it and change your bad habits and adopt new good one

Books i recommend:

Out of shadows, Patrick Carnes

Breaking the cycle, George Collins MA, and Andrew adleman MA

Always turned on by Robert Weiss and jennifer p. Shneider.

Recovery, freedom from our addictions by Russell Brand.

Atomic habits by Alain Carr

Rewire your anxious brain by Catherine M.Pittman Phd, Elizabeth M Karle.

Thank you for listening / reading

Didier

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