The Divested Diary

Today's episode is a thought-provoking one as we delve into the topic of why women should stop dating the "ghetto thug." Now, before we dive in, let me clarify that when I use the term "ghetto," I am not exclusively referring to the Black community. However, in my experience, I have noticed that a significant number of Black individuals embrace aspects of ghetto culture, such as certain music genres and aesthetic choices.

Now, let's get to the heart of the matter. It seems like there is a silent epidemic in the dating world, particularly among women who are attracted to black men, specifically those from the ghetto or hood. These women often adopt the personalities, language, and aesthetics associated with this culture. Unfortunately, this often leads to becoming a baby mama. While not all ghetto men are bad fathers, it is silently encouraged within the African-American community for men to neglect their parental responsibilities in favor of pursuing their music careers or other endeavors.

The allure of dating a ghetto thug stems from the hope that he will provide a glamorous and financially abundant life. However, the reality is often far from that fantasy. Many of these men have limited prospects and are unlikely to achieve the success and wealth that women hope for. It's important to let go of the notion that your ghetto thug will reach his potential and sweep you off your feet into a life of luxury.

I understand that love is love, but we must consider the long-term implications beyond our attractions. If the man you're attracted to has a criminal record or exhibits violent behavior, it's time to reconsider. Dating someone with a limited vocabulary and a propensity for aggression is not a safe or healthy choice. We've seen this play out in reality TV shows like Love After Lockup, where delusional women hope for a better future with men who may not have the best track record.

It's disheartening to see women who have built their lives around these men face disrespect and ridicule, even from within their own community. We must recognize that aligning ourselves with individuals who perpetuate negative stereotypes only hinders our progress as a community. It's time to prioritize our safety, our children's well-being, and the betterment of our neighborhoods.

I speak from personal experience, as I, too, used to date ghetto thugs in my younger years. However, after experiencing violence firsthand, I realized the importance of distancing myself from that lifestyle. It's not about being racist or discriminatory; it's about protecting ourselves and making choices that lead to a safer and more fulfilling life.

We must reject the idea that Black women's rights are inherently tied to Black men's rights. Black women deserve support and resources that empower them as individuals and mothers. By investing in women's education, providing access to transportation, and offering opportunities for personal growth, we can transform struggles into success stories.

I invite you to visit DivestedDiary.com to learn more about my organization for women's rights and to contribute to our cause. Together, we can uplift and empower women, creating a brighter future for ourselves and our communities.

In conclusion, it's time to let go of the allure of dating the ghetto thug. We must choose partners prioritizing our safety, well-being, and personal growth. By breaking free from negative stereotypes and investing in ourselves, we can create a better future for Black women and our communities.

Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Divested Diary podcast. I appreciate your support, and I look forward to continuing these important conversations in the future. Stay tuned for weekly episodes on your favorite podcast platforms and my website. Together, we can make a difference.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

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Are you ready to make a difference? Join us at "Divested Diary" in our mission to uplift and empower women, especially Black women who face unique societal challenges. As the backbone of their families and often the primary financial providers, these incredible women deserve our support and recognition.

What Can You Do? Visit Divested Diary to learn more about our cause. Whether sharing our message, donating, or simply offering encouragement, your contribution can significantly impact you. From providing cars for better mobility to supplying educational materials, every bit of help turns a struggle into a powerful testimony of resilience and hope.

Be a Part of the Change: Your support is not just a donation; it's an investment in the lives of women and children striving for a better future. Let's work together to build a world where every woman has the resources and support they need to succeed.

Act now: Visit Divested Diary. Your involvement could be the hand-up that someone needs to transform their life. Let's turn challenges into opportunities and struggles into success stories.

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As I sit here, preparing to write about the latest episode of my podcast, "The Divested Diary," I can't help but feel a mix of frustration and disappointment. In today's episode, I tackled the topic of Black media and its impact on the image and representation of Black Americans. It's a subject that hits close to home for me as a Black woman passionate about uplifting and empowering my community.

Throughout the episode, I delve into the problematic nature of certain Black media outlets, such as Bossip, Zeus Network, and Now That's TV. These platforms often prioritize sensationalized and negative content, perpetuating harmful stereotypes about Black people. From fights between baby mamas to rappers in prison, the focus is on the lowest common denominator rather than showcasing the diversity and achievements within the Black community.

I express my frustration with the fact that these outlets are not only creating and promoting this content but that there is also a demand for it. People willingly participate in these shows, perpetuating the negative image of Black people. It's disheartening to see how this type of media reinforces stereotypes and hinders progress in the fight against racism.

I also touch on the responsibility of Black media to uplift and inspire. I question why positive Black media that is engaging and empowering is so hard to find. It's crucial to highlight the achievements, talents, and stories of Black individuals who positively impact their communities. Doing so can challenge the negative narratives and showcase Black culture's diversity and richness.

In the episode, I also discuss the need for divestment from toxic Black media. I encourage listeners to scroll past content that perpetuates negative stereotypes and instead seek media that uplifts and empowers. By consciously supporting positive Black media, we can change the narrative and promote a more accurate and positive representation of Black Americans.

As I wrap up the episode, I hope listeners will join me in divesting from toxic Black media and supporting platforms that celebrate the achievements and diversity within our community. It's time to challenge the status quo and demand better representation. Together, we can create a media landscape that uplifts, inspires, and empowers Black Americans.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of The Divested Diary. I appreciate your support and look forward to continuing these important conversations. Stay tuned for more episodes on your favorite podcast platforms and at Divested Diary.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

Divested Diary Website

Join the Movement at "Divested Diary: Empowering Women's Voices."



Are you ready to make a difference? Join us at "Divested Diary" in our mission to uplift and empower women, especially Black women who face unique societal challenges. As the backbone of their families and often the primary financial providers, these incredible women deserve our support and recognition.

What Can You Do? Visit Divested Diary to learn more about our cause. Whether sharing our message, donating, or simply offering encouragement, your contribution can significantly impact you. From providing cars for better mobility to supplying educational materials, every bit of help turns a struggle into a powerful testimony of resilience and hope.

Be a Part of the Change: Your support is not just a donation; it's an investment in the lives of women and children striving for a better future. Let's work together to build a world where every woman has the resources and support they need to succeed.

Act now: Visit Divested Diary. Your involvement could be the hand-up that someone needs to transform their life. Let's turn challenges into opportunities and struggles into success stories.

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Today's episode was a thought-provoking discussion on racism in the modern world. We delved into whether it is malicious or if there's more to the story. Let's dive right into it.

In this digital age, it seems like the conversation around racism has become muddled. We see people on social media complaining about trivial things like white women wearing braids, and it makes me wonder if that's what racism is about. I can't help but think about the struggles that our ancestors faced during slavery. Is this what they fought for?

Now, I'm not saying that we should be grateful for white supremacy, but let's be real. We live in a modern society with access to smartphones and other technological advancements. We have opportunities, resources, and the freedom to move around. So, why do we keep talking about racism as if it's still 1865?

I find it absurd when I see people on social media screaming about white supremacy and how evil it is. Still, they post pictures of themselves enjoying their lives in white establishments. It's contradictory and undermines the seriousness of the issue. If a restaurant is racist, why not just go to a different one? There are plenty of welcoming places out there.

I believe that racism isn't always malicious in the modern world. Sometimes, people don't like each other, and that's okay. We can't force everyone to like us. And let's not forget that racism exists in all races, not just between Black and white individuals. It's important to acknowledge that and not turn a blind eye to it.

Instead of constantly focusing on the threat of racism, I think it's time for us to focus on ourselves. We need to be selfish and prioritize our own well-being. That doesn't mean we should ignore the issue, but rather, we should approach it with a balanced perspective. Let's care individually for those who matter to us and not feel obligated to dedicate our lives to fighting for everyone we've never met.

Racism is a complex issue, and it's not going to be solved by constantly re-passing laws or expecting everyone to like each other. We need to change our perception of racism and understand that it's not always a direct threat to our lives. We should save our energy for the battles that truly matter and not let ourselves be consumed by constant outrage.

So, let's focus on ourselves, save energy, and live our lives to the fullest. Racism exists, but it doesn't have to define us. We can rise above it and create a better future for ourselves and future generations.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

Divested Diary Website

Join the Movement at "Divested Diary: Empowering Women's Voices."



Are you ready to make a difference? Join us at "Divested Diary" in our mission to uplift and empower women, especially Black women who face unique societal challenges. As the backbone of their families and often the primary financial providers, these incredible women deserve our support and recognition.

What Can You Do? Visit Divested Diary to learn more about our cause. Whether sharing our message, donating, or simply offering encouragement, your contribution can significantly impact you. From providing cars for better mobility to supplying educational materials, every bit of help turns a struggle into a powerful testimony of resilience and hope.

Be a Part of the Change: Your support is not just a donation; it's an investment in the lives of women and children striving for a better future. Let's work together to build a world where every woman has the resources and support they need to succeed.

Act now: Visit Divested Diary. Your involvement could be the hand-up that someone needs to transform their life. Let's turn challenges into opportunities and struggles into success stories.

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I am excited to delve into the thought-provoking topics surrounding black culture, relationships, and the need for open and honest discussions. In this episode, I address the concept of divestment and its significance for black women.

Divestment, in this context, refers to a conscious decision made by black women to distance themselves from the financial, physical, emotional, and even sexual abuse prevalent within their community. It is a movement that challenges the focus on black men who engage in criminal activities and the expectation for black women to support them unquestioningly.

The statistics presented in the episode shed light on the harsh realities black women face. The Institute for Women's Policy Research report reveals alarming rates of violence, psychological abuse, and rape experienced by black women. Additionally, black women are disproportionately affected by murder, with the majority of perpetrators being individuals known to them.

The divestment movement aims to shift the narrative and prioritize black women's and their children's well-being. It encourages black women to put themselves first rather than being burdened with the responsibility of supporting men who perpetuate violence and crime. Divestment is not about abandoning all black men but rather distancing oneself from those who exhibit toxic behaviors.

It is essential to recognize that divestment does not imply a rejection of black culture as a whole. There are undoubtedly positive aspects of black culture, such as the celebration of natural hair and the emphasis on skincare. However, it is crucial to acknowledge and address the elements that promote crime and predatory behavior towards vulnerable individuals.

The divestment movement extends beyond romantic relationships. It encompasses a rejection of toxic cultural norms that perpetuate aggression, intimidation, and criminality. It challenges the notion that being black is synonymous with being ghetto or speaking in Ebonics. Divestment calls for a collective effort to dismantle these harmful stereotypes and create a healthier, more empowering environment for all.

As the Divested Diary podcast host, I am committed to fostering open and honest discussions about these important issues. I invite listeners to join me on this journey of empowerment, where we can explore the complexities of black culture, relationships, and the need for change. Together, we can challenge the status quo and create a better future for black women and their communities.

Thank you for tuning in to the Divested Diary podcast. I am Sharika Soul, your host, and I look forward to engaging with you in meaningful conversations. Stay tuned for weekly episodes on your favorite podcast platforms and my website at divesteddiary.com. Let's divest from toxicity and embrace a future of empowerment.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

Divested Diary Website

Join the Movement at "Divested Diary: Empowering Women's Voices."



Are you ready to make a difference? Join us at "Divested Diary" in our mission to uplift and empower women, especially Black women who face unique societal challenges. As the backbone of their families and often the primary financial providers, these incredible women deserve our support and recognition.

What Can You Do? Visit Divested Diary to learn more about our cause. Whether sharing our message, donating, or simply offering encouragement, your contribution can significantly impact you. From providing cars for better mobility to supplying educational materials, every bit of help turns a struggle into a powerful testimony of resilience and hope.

Be a Part of the Change: Your support is not just a donation; it's an investment in the lives of women and children striving for a better future. Let's work together to build a world where every woman has the resources and support they need to succeed.

Act now: Visit Divested Diary. Your involvement could be the hand-up that someone needs to transform their life. Let's turn challenges into opportunities and struggles into success stories.

Listen to Divested Diary Wherever You Listen to Podcasts

Apple | Spotify | iHeart | Amazon | TuneIn | Pandora | Deezer | Google | Stitcher

Welcome to The Divested Diary PodcastI am excited to delve into the thought-provoking topics surrounding black culture, relationships, and the need for open and honest discussions. In this episode, I address the concept of divestment and its significance for black women.

Divestment, in this context, refers to a conscious decision made by black women to distance themselves from the financial, physical, emotional, and even sexual abuse prevalent within their community. It is a movement that challenges the focus on black men who engage in criminal activities and the expectation for black women to support them unquestioningly.

The statistics presented in the episode shed light on the harsh realities black women face. The Institute for Women's Policy Research report reveals alarming rates of violence, psychological abuse, and rape experienced by black women. Additionally, black women are disproportionately affected by murder, with the majority of perpetrators being individuals known to them.

The divestment movement aims to shift the narrative and prioritize black women's and their children's well-being. It encourages black women to put themselves first rather than being burdened with the responsibility of supporting men who perpetuate violence and crime. Divestment is not about abandoning all black men but rather distancing oneself from those who exhibit toxic behaviors.

It is essential to recognize that divestment does not imply a rejection of black culture as a whole. There are undoubtedly positive aspects of black culture, such as the celebration of natural hair and the emphasis on skincare. However, it is crucial to acknowledge and address the elements that promote crime and predatory behavior towards vulnerable individuals.

The divestment movement extends beyond romantic relationships. It encompasses a rejection of toxic cultural norms that perpetuate aggression, intimidation, and criminality. It challenges the notion that being black is synonymous with being ghetto or speaking in Ebonics. Divestment calls for a collective effort to dismantle these harmful stereotypes and create a healthier, more empowering environment for all.

As the Divested Diary podcast host, I am committed to fostering open and honest discussions about these important issues. I invite listeners to join me on this journey of empowerment, where we can explore the complexities of black culture, relationships, and the need for change. Together, we can challenge the status quo and create a better future for black women and their communities.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

Divested Diary Website

Join the Movement at "Divested Diary: Empowering Women's Voices."



Are you ready to make a difference? Join us at "Divested Diary" in our mission to uplift and empower women, especially Black women who face unique societal challenges. As the backbone of their families and often the primary financial providers, these incredible women deserve our support and recognition.

What Can You Do? Visit Divested Diary to learn more about our cause. Whether sharing our message, donating, or simply offering encouragement, your contribution can significantly impact you. From providing cars for better mobility to supplying educational materials, every bit of help turns a struggle into a powerful testimony of resilience and hope.

Be a Part of the Change: Your support is not just a donation; it's an investment in the lives of women and children striving for a better future. Let's work together to build a world where every woman has the resources and support they need to succeed.

Act now: Visit Divested Diary. Your involvement could be the hand-up that someone needs to transform their life. Let's turn challenges into opportunities and struggles into success stories.

Listen to Divested Diary Wherever You Listen to Podcasts

Apple | Spotify | iHeart | Amazon | TuneIn | Pandora | Deezer | Google | Stitcher