The Done Bingeing Podcast

Guilt and shame aren't the same. And it turns out that it pays to understand how they differ and what their relationship is with binge eating.

This episode explains the difference between guilt and shame, why we feel these emotions, and what they often lead us to do. When enough compassion is present, it's possible to see how our parts that feel guilt and shame interact with harshly critical parts of us that can inflame these emotions, and with a binge eating part that tries to ease the pain and return harmony.

Listen to the episode here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/74.

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On my road to recovery, I sometimes didn't binge for weeks or months. And sometimes all it took to slide back into bingeing was a holiday meal—a slide that could glide on for even more weeks or months. As it turned out, I'd rock like this . . . forward, backward, forward, backward . . . for decades.

This episode is about how sometimes our bingeing can worsen or come back during the holidays, even when we're celebrating with those we love. If there's lingering guilt or shame about this, we can feel isolated and reluctant to reach out for help.

Listen in as I talk about how to ease shame and blame about binge eating. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/73.

If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.

This time of year, Ramadan, Passover, and Easter are celebrations that honor what we believe, who we are, and whom we love. There are open hearts and open homes. Whether it's sharing a tradition, a meal, or a hunt for special eggs, there are many opportunities to nourish ourselves and our relationships.

The promise of renewal is everywhere. And so is food. Food could be right in front of us at a meal or circling in our minds as we wait for a meal. Either way, holidays like these can be both beautiful and challenging. If this sounds like you and you'd like some help to avoid bingeing over the holidays, you're not alone. Episode 72 is for you! Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/72.

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In this episode, we briefly review the food feedback loop and take a closer look at pain and desire feedback loops.

If we fear a painful experience enough to escape it with food, our brains note that and determine that the pain is a threat. The more we try to muffle the pain with truffles, the more threatening the pain becomes. We shrink and the pain looms. And when the pain comes again, we're already laced up and ready to race.

To not live to our full potential is to be alone inside ourselves, to lose hope in possibility, to watch dreams wash away. As Nelson Mandela once said, "There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living."

Remember Captain Marvel from back in the day when he used to wear red tights with a gold lightning streak across his chest? Well, he just yelled, "Shazam! We have our positive feedback loop."

Listen to episode 71 of The Done Bingeing Podcast where we go deeper into painful positive feedback loops that are so common among binge eaters and where we ponder the superhero in you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/71.

I may not quite be Bat Woman, but if you flash the Bat Signal across the sky, I'll fly to your side. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.

Sometimes it starts like this: We have food that's concentrated in some way—maybe it's extra savory, extra crunchy, extra sweet. And we have an amount in excess of what we need. Then we get more from the food beyond an ordinarily enjoyable way to nourish and sustain our bodies—we get an amplification of pleasure and fullness, a spike in energy, and a numbing of any pain that might be hanging around.

So far, so good, perhaps. But what next? When the eating stops and the effect of the food wears off, the amplified pleasure not only goes away, but we may feel a sense of withdrawal from it. The energy spike now becomes an energy drop. And the pain comes back.

Remembering that food gave us the heightened pleasure, increased energy, and escape from pain in the first place, we may go back for more. And now? Houston, we have a problem—a positive feedback loop in which the solution deepens the struggle.

Listen to episode 70 of The Done Bingeing Podcast where I explore three positive feedback loops central to the experience of binge eaters. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/70.

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Are you making resolutions, writing down goals, envisioning dreams? This can be a tough time for binge eaters because where a binge eater is on their journey is often quite far away from where they want to be. And when something is desperately wanted that feels far, far away, our instinct at New Year's—especially with all the messaging that's come our way—is to do an about face. For many binge eaters, that means a new diet starting January 1.

This episode is about thinking about the new year to come, grounded in an understanding of how meeting critical needs makes living our dreams so much more possible. When our needs are met, we experience a different set of emotions than when our needs are not met. So let's focus in on well-being! When we take care of this, we feel better, and when we feel good it's so much easier to eat the way we dream of without the 180 that often swings back to 0 a few weeks into the year.

Want to skip the 180 flip? Let's talk. Go to www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar today for a free, 30-minute consultation.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/69.

Tis the season to be jolly, we're told, so you know what? Let's talk about that. Why? Because this season really can be jolly, where feelings and festivities align.

I had so many holiday seasons where I felt much love, much togetherness, and was left enthralled. Maybe you're feeling something like that right now. This is the bliss of having our physical, social, emotional, and spirituals needs met. In this peaceful vibrancy, our feelings show it and so does our eating. Why is this important? Because when our needs aren't met and our feelings signal that, we are far more likely to binge. Listen in to learn more!

What if you imagined me all wrapped up in a bow—but nothing too sketchy, ok? Let me be a gift to you. You know in your bones that something profoundly important awaits on the other side of bingeing. And I know in my bones that the purpose of my life is to help you get there. Let's talk. Go to www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar today.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/68.

It's one thing to feel alone when you are alone. It's another thing altogether, when you're surrounded by flickers and family, twinkles and tales, singers and song, and colors and the glory of freedom. In this episode, I take you through three steps to begin to transform the experience after a binge into something completely different. For decades, I spent this time of year feeling alone among the many, dark within the luminescence, divided amid the communion.

I've been there before, my friend, and I'm here for you now. Hang out we me for a free 30-minute chat and let me show you how I can help you through it all. Not a pressured sales call, just a friendly conversation. To get on my calendar today, go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30. There's no better time to have me by your side!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/67.

When a binge has started it can seem as if you're veering off-course with no way back. But there is a way forward, even as you're already eating off protocol. Listen in for the 6 steps to take when it feels as if failure is upon you.

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This episode is about what to do if you feel you won't be able to have a day without bingeing, or without going off a diet or protocol. You may recognize all-or-nothing, aka black-and-white, thinking if you've ever thought something similar to, "I know I'm going to binge, so I might as well make it count." Episode 65 offers five ideas for the times you sense an oncoming urge to binge and that you won't be able to stop. I invite you to personalize them in whatever way feels right for you.

If you're ready to apply the concepts in this podcast at a deeper level, join me in The Soulfull Academy membership program. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.co/join/ to learn more. Or, if now's the time to dive in and do this profound work with exclusive 1:1 access to me, go to www.holdingthespace.co/apply and apply to work with me privately. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/65.