The Eating Coach

Grab your link for the 5 Minute Appetite Suppressant Zoom session on 28th July:

https://www.theshiftinside.com/sessions/

Pop Quiz:

#1 Would you give a five-year-old Tolstoy's epic War and Peace as reading homework?

#2 Would you ask the office junior on their first day at work to present to the board of directors?

#3 Would you get a learner driver to tackle a Formula One racetrack?

No, no - and once again NO!

So why do millions of people regularly do the equivalent in terms of managing their health and weight?

War and Peaceing your health means taking steps that are far too advanced for you.

In this episode I talk in more depth about this, and give an alternative.

Heads up: Join the Eating Coach Facebook group here to access the Live talk on parent-child dynamic: https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

You've heard of dinner dates, right?

But have you ever thought about dating your dinner???

You: What madness is this, Harriet?

Me: This quite ludicrous title hides a very powerful shift that is the foundation for this work.

It is highly likely that for a long time you have been in a parent-child dynamic with how you eat.

Basically this involves the diet being the strict parent and the dieter being the naughty child who cannot be trusted to make their own food choices.

Looking to a diet or personal trainer or ANY external meal plan for instructions you must slavishly adhere to in meal planning and eating is to risk putting yourself in the naughty child role - because too often these meal plans etc are sold as temporary escapism.

Think: lose 10lbs in a week and so on.

No human (except those giving birth) can do so sustainably.

Instead, we are going to EXPERIMENT with trying new ways of eating. Think of me as a matchmaker, helping you find the best way to eat for yourself. If I was a dating coach, my job would not be to force my idea of Mr or Mrs Perfect onto you, but to help you meet someone who is good for you, but also that you want to date again.

Cheers now

Harriet

PS I will be in the Eating Coach Facebook group tomorrow (Wed 13th) for a new weeklyfeature - talks called What Really Works Wednesdays. I'm going to talk about something called the parent - child dynamic that is at the heart of so many compulsive eaters' food issues.

If you are not already in the group, join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

Harriet Morris

info (at) theshiftinside dot com

The Eating Coach is back with a series of short 5-6 min episode for your pleasure during the month of July. Today: How junk food is an anaesthetic (as well as being damn hard to spell!).

Check out the Facebook group where I will be posting more content. https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

Many people understand that emotional eating is trying to do the job of managing life, a bit like a sticking plaster or band aid.

But what I have realised is that it serves a much more subtle and invisibly powerful function - that of an anaesthetic.

If you've ever come down from any kind of high (be it from food or overstimulation) and used a takeaway to fill that emotional gap - you are using food as an anaesthetic.

If you binge because you are dreading the meeting with person X - you are using food as an anaesthetic.

If you use sugar as dutch courage before an interview in the same way alcoholics nip into the pub - you are using food as an anaesthetic.

The question is - does the anaesthetic ever work? If it did, then you would have renewed vigour, boss that meeting and ace the interview - you would be more confident with the help of food.

Of course not.

No anaesthetic can ever do more than a temporary job. That's what they are meant for. Great for dental work, rotten for emotional eating.

So the question to ask yourself before you anaesthetise yourself via the deli aisle is this:

Is it worth it?

The Eating Coach podcast is back and in this episode I have two more questions you can ask to alienate yourself from that anaesthetic.

Cheers now!

Next episode out within the next few days

Harriet Morris

info (at) theshiftinside dot com

Get free access to the introductory module of the Release programme to end emotional eating here:

https://shiftinside.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1128432

In this episode, I interview Lindsay, one of my clients, on her experience putting emotional eating out of a job.

In this empowering chat, you will hear about…

*Going from feeling like a broken sugar addict to being able to say no to dessert at a big social occasion

*The awesome question (starting with "What does….") Lindsay uses to bring herself to alignment with her higher self

*The shift from eating 7 pieces of wedding cake to not even wanting the junk after taking a bite of it

*How quitting sugar changed her relationship with herself

*Lindsay's PCOS diagnosis and the link with binge eating

*The awesome rebel-against-your-food rebellion strategy I taught her and how it meant saying no to sugar was actually FUN

*How this work gave her the confidence to quit another addiction

Release Emotional Eating Programme

Getting ready for this life-changing transformation and ending the toxic trash talk about yourself takes a specific framework:

The daily practice of shifting from passive sufferer to hero/ine's journey mindset

How to put a gagging order on your inner critic

The counterintuitive power of low commitment and gamification

You see junk food as your emotional saviour, but behind the scenes it is making things worse. Learn better coping strategies to use when you really need them

Discover how junk foods hijacks your brain chemistry

Practise eating a nutritious AND pleasurable diet that will elbow the mood-hijacking junk out of the way - without you feeling torn between what is right and what feels good.

How to use The Staircase Approach to transition from the addict's dependence to nutritional, craving-free eating.

Difficult emotions have been demonised, and it is also these feelings that trigger compulsive eating. Is it possible that there is some link between suppression and bingeing? Hint: Yes there is!

Learn how to use the emotions as messengers reframe as a positive constructive scaffold for managing them.

Step-by-step processes that support you in learning how to manage your feelings.

Dealing with anger and guilt: safely channel and release what you should not be holding on to. Imagine what a weight off that will be!

If you have been using mealtimes to squash your emotions, then it follows that when you use the strategy I have coined eating presence, you eat in a way that ensure you stop doing this. It happens in a very gradual, step-by-step process.

Slow eating games - it is impossible to eat emotionally when you slow down. Gamification reduces the pressure and makes it fun!

Meal planning for people who hate meal planning. Strategies, games and tapping into the power of the subconscious.

The 90% Beats Perfection rule - why you will never eat 100% consciously, and why you shouldn't even try.

Emotional eating is a very understandable but ineffective way to manage relationships where the dynamic is unbalanced. If you feel like other people walk all over you and you feel nervous about standing up to them, this module will be invaluable for you.

Subtle strategies to ward off energy vampires in a classy, no-conflict way

How to strengthen your boundaries in a way that feels emotionally safe

How managing your inner cavewoman is a gamechanger in making this process much easier

Contact: info @ theshiftinside.com

How can a woman in a cafe have a present for you, when not even I have ever met her?

Find out in this super short story from my life yesterday.

Get your free intro module to Release here:

https://shiftinside.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1128432

Harriet Morris

info {at} theshiftinside.com

Find out more about Release here:

https://www.theshiftinside.com/release/

Details below

Book an informal chat with me to answer any questions you might have about Release here

https://hmorris.as.me/?appointmentType=31373005

In today's episode, we look at the second major component (as well as emotional regulation) of freeing yourself from emotional eating: Eating Presence.

In a nutshell, Eating Presence means eating nutritious food slowly.

It doesn't mean being perfect and trying to turn yourself into a poster girl/boy for low carb/keto/paleo/no dairy/no sugar etc etc.

It means aiming for the most nutritious meals possible, while still allowing pleasure.

And it means eating them consciously.

In this episode I go into detail about what Eating Presence means in the real world, and we hear from on of my clients and how it has helped her.

Release

My group coaching programme to free yourself from emotional eating starts in early April.

https://www.theshiftinside.com/release/

I am only taking 8 people and two spots have already gone at the time of recording.

Got questions? Why not book a 20 minute Zoom call with me and ask me anything you like.

https://hmorris.as.me/?appointmentType=31373005

Info @ theshiftinside.com

HEADS UP – ZOOM CHAT - 8pm Sunday 20th March. I made an error in time zone calculations and wrongly converted this to eastern The correct time is 4pm Eastern and 1pm pacific.

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83561552905

PASSCODE 4321

Completely free – Just turn up, ask me anything and I will reveal the big mindset shift to put stress eating out of a job.

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Emotionally expensive foods are ones with a huge price tage – not necessarily financial, but mental, emotional, life purpose -wise – ENORMOUS

I am talking about fried foods, what, dairy and the big momma of 'em all : sugar.

In this episode I give you a reframe for how you see these foodstuffs that will allow you step two ft to the side of your ingrained belief that you absolutely cannot do without them.

Join the Facebook group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

Email me: info @ theshiftinside.com

Watch the follow up video in the Facebook group. Join here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

Imagine a postie (mail delivery person if you live outside the UK) who delivers a parcel to your home, and invites themselves in for a cuppa. Ten years later they are still there, drinking you out of house and home…

A ridiculous scenario, but if we replace the postie with difficult emotions you have a situation that millions tolerate, simply because they don't know how else to manage their anger, disappointment, guilt etc.

When you can learn to regulate your emotions yourself, you reduce 50% of your emotional eating issues….or should I say 'stuck emotional eating' issues.

Emotions are messengers, and never meant to stick around. AND they are not meant to be solved.

Join the facebook group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

…and watch the follow on video where I talk about one time where I regulated my emotions without trying to solve them. Warning: content involves being triggered by annoying teenagers 😊

info (at)theshiftinside.com

HEADS UP - ZOOM CHAT

You are invited to my informal Zoom call next Sunday 20th March, to talk all things emotional eating. I will talk about THE biggest shift most people need to make to reduce stress eating

TIME: 20th March

8pm UK time - 9pm CET - 4pm Eastern - 1pm Pacific

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83561552905

How do you deal with stress? Beating it? Escaping It temporarily? These solutions sound quite stressful in themselves!

In today's episode, I give you a reframe: managing your life better. And I explain three ways you can dothis, with one timy change you can make TODAY that will have a small but mighty effect on stress eating.

Join the Facebook group

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Email: info (at) theshiftinside.com

Watch the video accompanying this episode in the new Facebook group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/eatingcoachgroup

Today I correct what I think is a very unhealthy misconception about change: that everything springs from self belief. You will love this if you have ever doubted your ability too stop emotional eating – or indeed , you had zero self-belief, as was the case with me.

I still want to know your thoughts on emotional eating, so you can let me know in the following ways:

#1 Book a 15 minute Zoom with me here

https://hmorris.as.me/

#2 Email me: info (at) theshiftinside.com

#3 Join the Facebook group

Next episode in two days' time.