The Eating Coach

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ - Boundary Setting 101 Week starts on 17th May. 3 masterclasses - all completely free.

Possibly the worst titled episode in the history of this podcast. It makes you feel out of sorts just looking at it, doesn't it?

…and that's the point.

A TionQues is a question that is all wrong, just like the way I have spellt that very word here.

When you do something that causes you pain, like bingeing, the questions you ask yourself about it are absolutely key for the quality of solutions that you tap into.

The problem is that people often do not know what the RIGHT questions to ask are.

The TionQues you might ask yourself post binge are:

How can I make amends for my terrible greed?

How can I escape myself?

In this episode I give you some better questions to ask.

RESOURCES

Boundary Setting 101 Week

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/

Q: WHAT IS IT?

A: Three free masterclasses to help you start setting empowering boundaries, even if you feel like you are no good at this skill. You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.

Q; WHAT'S IN THE MASTERCLASSES?

Masterclass 1 ~ Turn Down The Volume on Your Fear of Setting Boundaries

Discover why you are already better than you think at boundary setting, and learn all about your fear centre. Something akin to a blind and stubborn bouncer living inside your head, your fear centre is actually trying to protect you by resisting setting boundaries. By the end of this session, you will understand how you have more influence over this part of your mind than you think.

Masterclass 2 ~ Setting Your First Empowering Boundary

Learn what the crucial difference is between reactive and empowering boundary setting. In this liberating masterclass, I take all the pressure off this challenge in two important ways that allow you to step into your power.

Masterclass 3 ~ From Struggle To Adventure

How to reframe this skill so that it excites you instead of fills you with dread. Step two foot to the side of the nonsense your inner critic tells you as we uses two powerful and inspirational reframes that will make you want to stretch your comfort zone.

Q: HOW DO I ACCESS THE MASTERCLASSES?

Make sure you sign up https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/

You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.

Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ Boundary setting 101 Week starts 10th May.

Today I bring you an interview with Jamie Vine from Beautiful Disaster, a multi-million dollar clothing brand the like of which you've never seen. Their lines are not only size inclusive, but they have empowered slogans I absolutely love like Perfectly Imperfect.

Film of The Week

…is The Sound of Metal starring Riz Ahmed. Some uncommon wisdom fr binge eating from the experience of deafness

Jamie Vine Interview

In this interview, Jamie talks very frankly about:

• Dealing with weight gain at college
• The struggle to love herself and how the Beautiful Disaster tribe has helped her
• How embracing failure is part of her business success
• What happened when Beautiful Disaster stopped trying to sell hoodies and did something radically different instead
• How she connects with her tribe every day and how this contributes to their success

Quote of the interview: "The bigger part of being curvy is loving yourself"

RESOURCES

Boundary Setting 101 Week info is at

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/

The Beautiful Disaster blog

https://www.bdrocks.com/

https://www.bdrocks.com/blogs/tellingyourstory

IG @beautifuldisasterclothing

The Body Confident Project taster

http://www.theshiftinside.com/tryit/

Join the free No Struggle Intermittent Fasting Group on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/2557248144399072

This is a replay of episode 34 from 2018.

What cover stories do we tell ourselves to legitimise a binge? More importantly, how is that binge a cover story for a deeper problem in your life? These can be uncomfortable, yet incredibly liberating questions. Come with me and let's find out the answer.

Stupid Idea of The Week Is the concept of loss when applied to weight. Find out why it is a stupid verb to use in this context, and what to replace it with

Food Lies Let's look at some of the untruths we deceive ourselves in order to continue diminishing our lives with compulsion, and how we use food as a really understandable invisible cover story for deeper issues.

Find out:

- The difference between a lazy and safety cover story

- The difference between the lies you tell yourself ABOUT food and how food ITSELF can be a cover story - a deeply self-critical one that masks a far more neutral, compassionate truth. Don't you want to discover what that is?

- What Cavebrain is

- How you can start to uncover your own cover stories right now

RESOURCES

Join the free No Struggle Intermittent Fasting Group on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/2557248144399072

Episode 19: Me Too http://www.theshiftinside.com/podcast-me-too-release-your-trauma-and-put-food-out-of-a-job-it-was-never-meant-to-do/

Harry Potter Saved My Life podcast http://www.harrypottersavedmylife.com

www.theshiftinside.com/coaching

Sound Effects by www.zapsplat.com

Get your free video course: The 3 Mindshifts To Stop Binge Eating at

https://www.theshiftinside.com/gift/

This is a partial replay (with added nutrients for the mind!) of the episode I put out this time last year. It is a mix of practical to dos and powerful reframes to get you to alienate yourself from those Easter eggs.

RESOURCES

Freedom from Sugar Course details are here

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freedom/

www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com – episode 19: Silent Agreements

Welcome to The Shame Starvation Diet: The only regime in the world with no set meal plans, but offers side effects like freedom from deprivation, feeling awesome at last AND reclaiming your life from food AND stupid toxic guilt!

STUPID IDEA OF THE WEEK

Diets and wellness programmes that tell you exactly WHAT TO DO. Your Inner Food Rebel will not stand for that AND they are a breeding ground for toxic shame.

THE SHAME STARVATION DIET

This is divided into several sections

#1 How food can be used to manage shame

-The difference between appropriate and inappropriate shame

-How compulsion expresses instead of proves the 'truth' of shame

- guilt vs shame

- The double function of compulsive eating when it comes to toxic shame

#2 What Is The Shame Starvation Diet

-Definition

-Discussion of dealing directly with issues so you do not have to use food to deal with them vs shame that cannot be exactly 'solved'

#3 Actions Change Beliefs

If you take actions that disrupt what your toxic shame is telling you is the truth (even though it's a lie), you start to change a negative sense of self.

• An example is given with meal planning
• How your favourite film can help this process

RESOURCES

3 Mindshifts to End Binge Eating Video Series free at:

https://www.theshiftinside.com/gift/

Stop people Pleasing podcast

Email me: info @ theshiftinside dot com

Yup, indeed.

Email me

info @ theshiftinside dot com

RESOURCES

The 3 Mindshifts Video series can be accessed at

https://www.theshiftinside.com/gift/

https://qz.com/work/1947585/earnups-matthew-cooper-im-leaving-as-ceo-due-to-mental-health/

https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/

info {at} theshiftinside.com to contact me about the upcoming March audio intermittent fasting offer.

The locus of control refers to your perception of how much power you or the world outside has to affect events and outcomes.

An internal locus of control means that you feel powerful and an external locus means the opposite.

In today's episode, I talk about how these two concepts can apply to eating, and how it is Not a black and white distinction. I give some practical ideas for moving from external to internal.

Freedom from Sugar Programme

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freedom/

Very Well Mind article

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-locus-of-control-2795434

Saturday Question

Uses a quote from the late, great Stuart Wilde in his book Infinite Self

Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/fast/ to secure your place for the experiment next week. It's free, so this should be an easy yes!

In 2018 I did an intermittent fasting experiment. In this episode I discuss my recent learnings from a new experiment I have been doing, as well as listeners' views on the matter.

I discuss if this mode of eating is restrictive or freedom giving.

Listener quote

'IF has so many options, that's what works so well, it's finding what works with your circumstances. It's endlessly flexible, this removes the common feelings of failure that are a part of 'diet plans'. If you have an opportunity to enjoy food and company, just change things around. I don't know that there is one person who has ever fixed the problem, it's a matter of management over a lifetime, a lifetime that you want to be enjoyable.'

Victoria

IF EXPERIMENT – W/C 15th February

This is two-day experiment that will take place on Tuesday 16th and Thursday 18th February. If you want to move the two days you are welcome to, but be aware that there will be some Zoom calls so you may want to do this alongside others/

Be aware that it will also require some preparation time.

This experiment has been designed for anyone who is interested in intermittent fasting (IF) but has misgivings or questions about its workability, especially if you have a history of compulsive eating.

You are also welcome if you have some experience with IF and are looking to optimise it or try out a different approach.

How It Works

You can do the experiment alone, or join the Zoom and/or Facebook group. This will open on Saturday 13th Feb.

There will be a Zoom call on Monday 15th at 8pm GMT where I will answer any questions you might have. I will also share some ideas on the experimental mindset and how important this is

Day One is Tuesday 16th February. On this day, you are going to try IF on this day anyway you like. You choose the eating window and what foods you eat.

I will lead another Zoom call on Tuesday at 4pm then again at 9pm GMT, when I will release the 3 guidelines for Thursday's IF day.

Day Two is Thursday 16th February. On this day you will be following 3 guidelines that I will release on Tuesday evening. These are the guidelines I use myself and have found to be very user friendly for any recovering compulsive. You then have Wednesday to get ready for Thursday, in terms of buying and preparing food. I suggest setting aside 60-90 minutes on Wednesday, although you may not need all of this time. NB You do not need an hour and a half a day for the rest of time to implement my IF approach ! Hurray! !

There will be a third Zoom call on Thursday at 4pm and again at 9pm to wrap things up.

Resources

The first IF episode

https://eatingcoach.libsyn.com/ec-70-my-intermittent-fasting-experiment

Email me

info {at} theshiftinside.com

This is a replay of episode 64 on making clean eating actually work for you.

Clean eating is neither good nor bad. However, when it gets used as a tool for some perfectionist search for 110% health, the chances of it backfiring are about 110%. In this episode, I tell you how to make it work for you by approaching it differently.

PODCAST OF THE WEEK

…is Species, hosted by Macken Murphy and my absolute favourite podcast discovery of 2018. Listen to this to de-stress and take a break from your self-help podcast addiction. Funny, dramatic and full of NO REALLY?!? moments.

MAIN SECTION: AN ALTERNATIVE TO CLEAN EATING

You cannot apply the 2D idealism of detoxes and so forth to something as multi-faceted with so many meanings (social, pleasurable etc) as food is.

In this episode….

*I give you my alternative to clean eating – one that is sustainable and involves one single syllable!

*The real reason many people try clean eating (you won't like this one!)

For more on my thoughts about this, listen to my interview on The Simplifiers podcast at https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/022-harriet-morris/

RESOURCES

For more information on coaching with Harriet, go to http://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

Species: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/species/id1334821500

Episode 26: http://www.theshiftinside.com/audio-real-vs-fake-pleasure/

Episode 35 http://www.theshiftinside.com/audio-why-cant-i-stop-stress-eating-ask-your-cavebrain/

What do you do when you not only fall off the wagon, but's disappeared round the corner and a world-wide motivational wagon shortgage has just been announced?

The answer: Imperfectly does it.

We need to give ourselves leeway when it comes to making change…while avoiding the trap of complacency – the 'just do what you can' get out clause.

This episode finds a healthy and inspiring middle ground between harsh perfectionism and lax apathy that fits perfectly with the Heroine's Journey thinking described in the previous episode.

The Map

I include a reply of episode 54. This is a short thought-provoking piece called The Map.

RESOURCES

The James Clear Quote

https://jamesclear.com/habit-tracker

More information on coaching:

http://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/