The Eating Coach

There is nothing wrong with New Year's Resolutions per se…but be careful you don't misuse them in an invisible bid at unconscious self-sabotage.

Eh???

Listen and find out about the important mindset shift you need to ensure you start 2021 strong. Plus...

PRINCIPLE #3 is temptation bundling. Temptation what?

PRINCIPLE #4 really breaks the back of traditional motivation. Your decidedly average positive thinker and Instagram poster will NOT like this. Incidentally, it works like gangbusters. Go figure. Find out what The Effortless Tipping Point is, and how you reach it.

PRINCIPLE #5 – Do a deal. Yes, but what kind of deal? And with whom?

PRINCIPLE #6 – I asked James Dean to pop in for this one. He said he was busy, but attends in spirit.

RESOURCES

14 Days To Freedom From Sugar Kickstarter course: http://www.theshiftinside.com/freedom

The Freakonomics episode on temptation bundling: http://freakonomics.com/podcast/when-willpower-isnt-enough-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/

The Willpower episode: http://www.theshiftinside.com/audio-better-than-willpower-ec29/

You can hear the rest of the Temptation Bundling episode here:

https://eatingcoach.libsyn.com/temptation-bundling-and-5-other-ways-to-stick-to-your-new-years-resolutions

Episode 28 – New Year's Resolutions for Food Rebels

https://eatingcoach.libsyn.com/ec-28-a-new-years-resolution-for-food-rebels

Find out more about coaching at http://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

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http://www.audibletrial.com/EatingCoach

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Get your free Hidden Sugars Checklist to print off at

http://www.theshiftinside.com/hidden/

Last episode was all about practical strategies to reduce binge eating this Christmas. Today is more philosophical. I want you to consider if you have been pitting the festive season against New Year, with Christmas as the pantomime villain and your New Year's Resolutions (NYRs) as the heroine?

The time to think about this is not 1.1.21, but right now.

What kind of heroine did your NYR turn out to be in 2020?

Here's an alternative: How about a mental ceasefire? What if your binge eating of late December was not actually your defective shadow side? What if you could step aside from that whole compulsive Christmas vs polish-your-halo January?

Food for thought indeed, plus Stupid Idea of The Week gets taken over by Documentary of The Week (zero yuletide jumpers involved, I promise).

RESOURCES

Find out about one to one coaching here

https://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

Last epsiode on reducing Christmas binge eating

https://www.theshiftinside.com/masterclass/ has all the details for my upcoming masterclass on stopping Christmas binge eating - 13th December.

How to stop Christmas binge eating? The answer to that is that you ask a very similar, but subtly different question. One that will empower you to do exactly what the title of this week's episode is seeking.

It is very important to avoid being perfectionist about this. Isn't that what has got you into that painful binge-restrict cycle before?

Harriet! How do you know me so well?

A: Because I was you. For almost three decades.

This episode is divided into 4 sections

THE PROBLEM

Your problem with compulsive eating at Christmas is NOT that you lack willpower and all that food is so hard to resist. The issue is more complex, and far more interesting.

The real issue is that the festive season has become so overloaded with pressure to conform and somehow be good at Yuletide. Provide the best spread. Make sure everyone is happy.

For my clients, especially women over 30, bingeing is really a wake up call. Their soul will no longer tolerate being good little girls anymore, but they haven't yet discovered a way to rebel against these unrealistic pressures directly,

So food becomes the fall guy.

Maybe this time of year is NOT the monent to face up to such existential questions. However, you CAN make things easier on yourself by understanding the true dynamic at play.

3 Strategies To Deal With Binge Eating At Christmas

#1 Replacements

...But not any old healthy snacks you have found in your local health food store. And neither will a boring old apple suffice.

Listen to this episode and find out the key distinctions you need to understand about replacements this Yule.

#2 Plan ahead

Planning ahead to deal with difficult situations is surprisingly effective. Listen to find out more

#3 Get some space

You need time for yourself, especially if you feel overloaded. The obviousness of this statement is not lost on me. The point I want to make here is that there is work to do for many compulsive eaters in actually allowing them that space.

Resources

Masterclass details here

https://www.theshiftinside.com/masterclass/

What Is Cavebrain?

https://www.theshiftinside.com/rum-what-is-cavebrain/

Hidden Sugars Checklist

https://www.theshiftinside.com/hidden/

Email me info (at) theshiftinside.com

I am putting together some helpful strategies to help deal with Christmas during this pandemic. All I want to know is: What is stressing you out about Christmas this year? Food or non food related.

Many thanks!

Harriet

Email me info (at) theshiftinside.com

We start off with a problem shared on a different podcast: what would you do if your partner wanted you to lose weight, under the guise of 'better self care'?

I dive deep into this topic and give this lady some uncommon wisdom that she definitely will NOT find in mainstream diet literature.

RESOURCES

The Body Confident Project free sample is here

https://www.theshiftinside.com/body-image-coaching/

https://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2014/09/the-evil-exit/

www.theshiftinside.com/coaching

The episode of The Savage Lovecast I refer to was released on 10 Nov 2020

Email: info (at) theshiftinside dot com

Listen to the new podcast starring Matt Damon & Robin Williams (!) here: https://rebelqueenempath.libsyn.com/04-how-to-play-the-hand-youve-been-dealt

The Barkley Marathons is regarded as one of the toughest endurance races on the planet. Why do I call it The Failure Olympics, and why does it offer a counterintuituve escape from failure?

Assuming you even get a place in this race, you are almost certainly guaranteed to not finish. However, the gift inherent in just participating is far more precious than the disappointment of the loss could ever be.

The Barkley Marathons is not only tough, but reaches levels of eccentricity previously attained only by English aristocrats such as Screaming Lord Such. 5 marathons in 60 hours. The entry fee is less than a cup of coffee, but you must bring a personalised present for the organiser. The trails are not marked and the combined altitude of all 5 marathons equals that of Everest. Only 15 people in 30 years have ever actually finished it.

So why do it?

And what has this insane event got to teach is about recovering from binge eating and food compulsion? So much - that's what. Even if - especially if - you'd rather cut your arm off than run a marathon, this episode is for you.

RESOURCES

Find out more about coaching at http://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

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Get your free Hidden Sugars Checklist to print off at

http://www.theshiftinside.com/hidden/

In this episode, one of my clients talks about her experience working with me and the changes that she has seen.

We discuss:

The crazy rollercoaster of happy-miserable and how she had given up before the coaching.

Putting food out the job that it was never meant to do in the first place

The importance of group support

The major positive changes she has made elsewhere in her life alongside dealing with her

The importance of meal planning for her wellbeing

Dealing with bright shiny object syndrome

More info on coaching

https://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

Today, a replay from way back in 2017 - episode #16

Ever wondered why you lost interest in that health plan you couldn't stop talking about two weeks ago? Dive and in a discover what is happening.

*Stupid Idea of The Week*

The world of fitness is full of increasingly over-engineered solutions to our less than flat stomachs. Today I go after the creators.

*Change Tourism*

People often make excuses about deserting their goals, and others give them a hard time about it. But is there a middle ground, where we allow our resistance to what we long to achieve to grow, without really understanding what is happening.

Quote of The Week: "It's not about how quickly I fall off, it's about how quickly I get back on again".

RESOURCES

https://www.theshiftinside.com/coaching/

http://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/facebook-more-needy-than-a-newborn-baby-say-experts-20171003136851

Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/to find out about next month's coaching programme for people pleasers who want to get their life back.

Have you ever stopped to consider that there could be a link between people pleasing and compulsive or binge eating?

In this episode, I explain what I believe the common root cause of both of these experiences is.

I also give you three ways to stop being so damn nice to everyone at the expense of your own self respect.

Quote of The Week

Comes from Rita Mae Brown

The Stop People Pleasing Coaching Programme - enrollment open now!

Do you long to accept yourself, but have no idea how to do this?

Would you like to develop emotional resilience and navigate life more powerfully?

Would you like to learn how to stand up for yourself and say no without being aggressive?

Do you want to build your self confidence in a real way, without having to fake it til you make it?

Would you like to learn how to put food out of the job of life manager?

Do you want to learn how to become the role model that you long to be?

Who Is This Programme For?

I have designed this programme for empaths.

An empath is someone who has a strong tendancy to soak up others' emotions. There are many positive aspects to being an empath such as an ability to read people well and high intuition. However, most empaths are so weighed down by how their emotional sponge nature has taken over their lives that they fall into the habit of people pleasing, finding it hard to say no and stand up for themselves.

The aim of this transformative 8 weeks is to shift how you are showing up in the world by learning to rein in these disempowering behaviours and start playing to your strengths.

How The Programme Works

This programme has two separate strands.

#1 The Empath Sessions

Managing your empath nature, self acceptance and how to start showing up in more powerful ways so that life becomes rewarding instead of draining for you.

1 x 90 minute session a week over 8 weeks

#2 Eating Psychology Sessions

Put food out of the job it was never meant to do.

This part of the programme comprises 4 x 90 minute sessions that give a solid foundation of how to eat better using the principles of eating psychology. You will dive in and try out doable food-rebel proof changes that are not too extreme. These changes have been shown time and again to reduce cravings and binge eating. We look at the HOW of eating, which is a hugely underrated part of reclaiming your life from food. I devote a whole session to sugar and give you some practical ways to free yourself from those little white granules.

IMPORTANT: If you have worked with me previously, or you do not have eating issues, you can choose to omit part 2. The programme fees will be reduced by 25% if you opt to just attend the empath sessions

…Indeed why not? Why can't you dismantle your addiction to junk? Whoever said that was out of your league? An inspirational piece to motivate you.

Also: what stand up comedy has to teach us about living more empowered lives, and the return of Stupid Idea of The Week, courtesy of Gwyneth Paltrow.

RESOURCES

The empath survey:

https://www.theshiftinside.com/survey/

Comedian's comedian interview

https://www.comedianscomedian.com/26-stephen-grant/