Are there things you want to do but keep pushing off? Do you keep making excuses about why this isn’t the day/month/year to make a change?

Life always has its ups and downs, and there’s never a perfect time to make a move. As easy as it is to fall into the victim trap, we are worthy of having the life we want. Ultimately, if you want more for yourself, you must start somewhere. This episode may feel like tough love, but host Chrystal Rose understands that making progress means taking a leap.

If you want to move forward, you can’t wait forever. Learn more about shutting down your excuses, why it’s normal to want more, and taking charge to get what you want.

Quotes

• “What are you waiting for? You deserve a better life for yourself if you want more.” (4:53-5:00 | Chrystal) 

• “I'm not going to wait and lick my wounds because I know I'm not coming from a place of “fix me, help me, I need you.” I'm coming from a place of, “I want this. I desire this. I deserve this. I'm worthy of this. Let's freakin go.” (7:35-7:50 | Chrystal) 

• “I don't have to wait. If there's something I want, if there's something I desire, I can do it. I can achieve it. I can work towards it.” (12:21-12:30 | Chrystal)

• “Take that step, work on yourself or learn something new. It may feel like a leap, but just start moving in that direction and trusting yourself.” (17:29-17:43 | Chrystal)

• “Please stop waiting. You are worthy. You are worthy of all the things you desire. Now, go freaking  get them.” (20:00-20:12 | Chrystal)  

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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“On the inside, it was just tight and twisted and so uncomfortable,” explains Sandy Woznicki, Stress + Anxiety Coach and Founder of the Grateful Resilience Method. After experiencing stress-induced insomnia for years of her life, Sandy knew she needed to make a change. Now, she helps other career-minded women rid themselves of their paralyzing anxiety to live fuller lives.

Like Sandy, many women do not realize they are struggling with anxiety. They may have stomach issues or assume they are forever insecure, but these are symptoms of a more significant problem. By evaluating the stories we tell ourselves, we can determine what is causing our inner lives to feel so agonizing and make the steps to move forward. Ultimately, we need to stop seeking external validation and realize we are enough at our core.

Even when it feels hopeless, you can work past anxiety and stress. Learn more about getting to the root of the problem, reevaluating your narratives, and Sandy’s upcoming self-love summit.

Quotes

“You have to just stay on top of your growth, and it's so easy when you're tired, and you're stressed, and you're overwhelmed to just fall back on those old habits and forget that you have an entire toolbox full of tools to take out when you need them. (2:29-2:42 | Sandy)

• “On the inside, it was just tight and twisted and so uncomfortable.” (12:06-12:10 | Sandy)

• “We work with women to help them change that relationship with the inner monologue they've been having and to learn the tools to take control and to step into the best version of their life.” (17:30-17:44 | Sandy) 

• “As you're learning how to be more self-compassionate and learning self-love, it sounds weird at first. It is you, but it's not what you're used to hearing, so you gotta keep practicing it. And over time, it will not feel weird anymore.” (21:09-21:23 | Sandy)

• “When you're going down that people-pleasing path, you’re seeking something you're not providing yourself.” (23:48-23:55 | Sandy)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you struggle to live outside of survival mode? Are you afraid to let yourself evolve?

Whether it be dieting or dating, it’s hard to admit we’ve grown past our basic needs. Men no longer need to procreate to keep humanity alive, and our bodies no longer need to be in weight-gaining survival mode, so realistically,“biology” doesn’t define us. With the world expanding every day, Chrystal encourages us to grow with it and let ourselves thrive. Ultimately, we have the agency to make better choices, and giving excuses will only hold us back.

No matter what society tells us, we have grown past basic survival. Learn more about not feeling stuck with our bodies, dealing with trolls, and how to stop using biology as an excuse for our behavior.

Quotes

• “If something someone else says triggers you, please know that that is a “you” thing.” (11:01-11:06 | Chrystal) 

• “We have evolved past our basic needs. We’ve evolved past survival. It's not about survival anymore, it's about thriving.”  (16:57-17:06 | Chrystal) 

• “We are no longer just about getting our basic needs met. We have expanded beyond that, so we don't get to use that as an excuse.” (17:44-17:56 | Chrystal)

• “Rather than making excuses and expelling the energy to convince people that we are a slave to our biology, why not just tell the truth?”  (19:46-19:58 | Chrystal)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Are you unsure of what it means to be self-led? Do you follow others more than your own intuition? 

Often in the coaching space, we think of self-leaders as people who need to be followed and listened to for everyday advice. In actuality, self-leadership comes from listening to your intuition and making decisions that feel good to you. No one should tell you what to do or how to be, so leaning into your true self will make you happier and more fulfilled. Ultimately being “self-led” means that if you make decisions aligned with who you are, everything will fall into place.

In a “follow-me” culture, don’t be afraid to be self-led. Learn more about following your truth, the bravery of saying no, and allowing yourself to evolve. 

Quotes

• “I get to lead myself so that when people see me leading, it sparks something in them. And they realize they're a leader too.” (7:52-8:02 | Chrystal)

• “Once we realize something is out of alignment, it is hard to go back.” (9:23-9:28 | Chrystal)

• “Self-leadership really boils down to you leading yourself from a place within your truth. And that place is for the greater good of all of us.” (14:58-15:28 | Chrystal)

• “I want you to know that your truth, your ultimate inner truth, who you are at your core, is the only thing that matters.” (17:14-17:22 | Chrystal)

• “When you are happy, in your alignment, and you are who you desire to be, everything falls into place. And the right people will support you and be there with you.” (17:41-17:53 | Chrystal)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you do a lot of self-work in private? Are you upset if you backslide when exposed to the rest of the world?

Through exploring a group travel experience, Chrystal shares her healing progress and the work she still needs to do. Although it’s normal to assume that the self-work you do in isolation will carry over with others, it’s often outside our comfort zone that we better understand ourselves. The main thing is not to be angry with yourself if you still have triggers because, after all, finding self-acceptance is a journey.

Although solo trips can be incredible for self-growth, group travel can really push you forward. Learn more about Chrystal’s recent travel adventures, dealing with triggers, and the benefits of being around others who are putting in the work.

Quotes

• “Solo travel is amazing, and a lot of self-discovery can be done. But truly working on things, I believe, requires exposure.” (12:19-12:30 | Chrystal)

• “If we're focused solely on an issue that requires an external thing, and then we take that external thing away, then we don't know how to gauge our progress with it. Which is why group travel will show you what you still need to work on.” (13:06-13:29 | Chrystal) 

• “Certain people can drag me into their negativity, and I need to look at that because that's not who I want to be.” (18:27-18:34 | Chrystal) 

• “It is so different when you're in a room with people working on themselves who have dedicated their lives to working on themselves. It is different because everyone walks into that room owning their shit.”  (20:10-20:24 | Chrystal) 

• “If you haven't gone on a group trip before, it might not be a bad idea. Because then you get to see those parts and pieces of yourself that are being poked and activated differently than what you're probably used to.” (22:49-23:06 | Chrystal)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you believe masculinity equates to aggression? Are you unsure of the real differences between beta and alpha males?

On today’s girlfriend chat, Deb returns to discuss dating and masculinity. To be masculine, many men believe they must be pushy, dominant, and intimidating. However, those are beta qualities stemming from insecurity rather than a true sign of manliness. In actuality, alpha males are quietly confident and demonstrate kindness to others without the toxic behaviors commonly associated with men today.

Despite societal misconceptions, masculinity can be positive. Learn more about Deb’s experience with a beta male, masculine and feminine energetics, and what an alpha male truly is. 

Quotes

• “People have a misconception on what it means to be an alpha male versus a beta male, and maybe people don't even know that that is even a thing.” (13:30-13:39| Deb)

• “When a man is an alpha male, he doesn't need to puff up and show you he's dominant. He just is.” (17:38-17:49| Chrystal)

• “It's not alpha to bully someone or try to push someone to do something they don't want to do.” (21:18-21:24| Chrystal)

• “I think people genuinely are confused and think to be alpha means being forward and confrontational. People have that misconception.” (21:41-21:56| Deb)

• “Why do men feel the need to posture, peacock, or puff their chest out? Is it a societal thing? Is it a history thing?” (37:46-38:00| Deb)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you struggle with self-confidence? Do you doubt yourself in everything you do?

Like all of us, Chrystal has a voice in her head that makes her feel undeserving of success. However, she also recognizes that those thoughts are not the truth. By walking through her achievements as a business owner and coach, Chrystal can push aside her doubts and see herself for the badass she truly is. Once we recognize that self-doubt is a response to fear, we can allow ourselves to grow.

There will always be a judgy little voice in your head, but you don’t have to listen to it. Learn more about Chrystal’s approach to coaching, dealing with self-doubt, and how your brain creates problems that aren’t there.

Quotes

• “I want to show up and hold space, guide, mentor, coach, and help women live these rockin’ lives that they thought wasn't even possible.” (5:05-5:14| Chrystal)

• “I've been living my whole life to get here. I have hopped on every lily pad. Every business, job, and relationship I've had has ultimately led me to guide other human beings through life.” (14:56-15:16| Chrystal) 

• “Many people get stuck constantly trying to solve problems their brain has just created because there aren't any. ” (20:27-20:35| Chrystal) 

• “Our brains are not always speaking the truth here.” (21:10-21:14| Chrystal) 

• “Growth does not happen without a little bit of fear. There's got to be fear. There's got to be uncertainty, and there's got to be a risk. Otherwise, we'd all be these enlightened evolved humans.” (25:00-25:17| Chrystal)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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“I'm going to put value back into what they say is the most valuable thing: love,” explains Hibby Bartlett, Founder of World LOVEbank. After losing her brother to addiction, Hibby realized the importance of saying, “I love you.” This tragedy led her to create the app World LOVEbank, where she has built a resource that allows others to give and receive love.

Hibby is the kind of person who wants to remind people that they are lovable no matter what. In a challenging world that prioritizes feelings of hate, it may seem like good things aren’t possible. By utilizing her app to create conversations around love and affirmations, Hibby demonstrates that better things are out there if you seek them.

Although love is seemingly intangible, there are ways to spread it to those who need it. Learn more about World LOVEbank, the personal accountability of self-love, and why you need to feel to heal.

Quotes

• “My goal is to connect with as many people as possible in life and to help people stay connected with others. So to bring love and the feeling of peace in their lives.” (1:26-1:40| Hibby) 

• “I'm going to put value back into what they say is the most valuable thing: love. And in that way, we can grow our bank. You can grow your savings account with those personal ones from people you care about most.”  (8:48-8:59| Hibby)

• “You have to feel to heal. If you don't allow yourself to feel the feelings, you can never actually move through them and get to the other side.” (24:16-24:22| Chrystal)

• “If you spend your time judging other people, your subconscious mind will tell you, “If I am judging other people, therefore, they have the right to judge me.” (28:46-29:00| Hibby)

• “There's our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. We have to be the warden of our minds. Whatever we're thinking out here, it'll implant into our subconscious.” (36:13-36:20| Hibby)

Connect with Hibby Bartlett:

http://www.worldlovebank.com/

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you have a goal that you’re determined to meet? Do you exhaust yourself trying to achieve it?

When we have an objective, whether getting a new job or finding a romantic partner, we often burn out trying to make it happen. We tend to stick to the rigid plan we laid out for ourselves, believing it’s the only way to make our dreams come true. Today, Chrystal shares the value of letting go of how we want to achieve our goals and evaluating what we truly want. Instead of shutting ourselves down, she encourages listeners to be open to new ways of doing things that may lead them down a better path.

Although it may seem counterproductive, sometimes you just have to discard the plan and embrace the possibilities. Learn more about how Chrystal met her husband, her step back from personal development, and why you should have a high energetic standard for yourself. 

Quotes

• “If you're trying to heal or improve, doing it from your brain is not the move.” (14:24-14:30 | Chrystal)

• “In my world, when I find a better way and something I want to do, I will burn everything else to the ground.” (18:12-18:20 | Chrystal)

• “I was at a point in my life where I didn't know what I needed. I had no idea exactly how to get where I wanted to go. I just knew where I wanted to go. And I knew that I was willing to do whatever it took to get there.” (19:30-19:46 | Chrystal)

• “It's not just about not looking. It's about holding a high energetic standard for yourself while you continue to live and find joy in your everyday life.” (22:57-23:07 | Chrystal)

• “Hold the standards of what you truly want, what you truly desire, what you will not settle for, and then let in the universe and your intuition. Let all of that stuff do its magic.” (24:03-24:16 | Chrystal)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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Do you feel pressure to exercise even when you’re on vacation? Do you punish yourself for simply needing a fitness break?

On today's Girlfriend Chat, Deb returns to discuss letting go of gym guilt. Feeling ashamed for not working out on a trip or during your typical week is easy. However, Chrystal and Deb are not afraid to point out that that’s disordered behavior. Exercise should be for helping yourself feel better and is not a reflection of your value. Ultimately, no matter what the scale says, you’re still a person who deserves self-love.

Working out may be fantastic, but our self-worth is not tied to our waistline. Learn more about Deb and Chrystal’s relationship to exercise, dealing with burnout, and accepting your body at every weight.

Quotes

• “It's hard not to tie your looks, weight, measurements, and all of that to your self-worth. Because it's not just an internal thing, it's a societal thing. That's what we've been taught. (12:26-12:39 | Chrystal)

• “Even though we've done so much work on ourselves, we constantly have to talk to ourselves and tell ourselves, “It's okay to feel this way.” (13:31-13:42 | Deb)

• “You're working out because it makes you feel better. You're not working out because you're trying to be like the tiniest, prettiest, coolest, or whatever.” (18:03-18:12 | Deb) 

• “We can't change until we accept what's here.”  (21:11-21:15 | Chrystal)

• “Why are you beating yourself up after a week of not working out? You’re beautiful. It's fine.” (23:38-23:44 | Deb)

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selfloveforbreakfastclub/

To join our Self Love Breakfast Club text community, text SLBC to 704-270-6577.

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