Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.

Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.

Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains the three levels of conflict: positions ("I want the house"), interests ("I need stability"), and meaning ("I am a good parent"), and why most couples argue at the surface level.

If you are overwhelmed and want practical ways to negotiate more effectively, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers clear tools and real stories that will help you feel less alone and more strategic about what comes next.

Resources mentioned:

The Emotionally Savvy Divorce by Katherine Miller 

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind Podcast with Corey Shapiro: A New York City divorce attorney on thinking clearly when divorce makes it almost impossible, and the pivotal choices most people never see coming.

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This podcast is intended to entertain and inform, not to provide legal advice. For any legal advice about your divorce or otherwise, please consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.