By Amie Woolsey Brainspotting Practitioner, ICF-PCC, CPC, APSATS-C, ELI-MP, C-DGS
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I sit down with Kimberly Day, LMFT, to delve into the complexities of navigating second divorces—a topic many of you have expressed interest in, especially as you confront the stigmas and shame often associated with multiple marital endings. Kimberly brings a refreshingly empowered perspective to the discussion, challenging the societal narratives that frame second divorces as failures. Her insights are not just about personal experiences but about the broader implications of how we perceive and internalize these significant life changes.
Episode Highlights:
Self-Reflecting Questions:
01:35 Addressing Shame and Stigmas of Multiple Divorces
05:41 Kim's First Marriage and Divorce
08:09 Kim's Second Marriage and Divorce
16:38 Empowerment Through Divorce
27:30 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
36:54 The Importance of Healthy Relationships
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Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
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I address a common yet deeply personal question many face during the life-saving divorce process: What do you do with the physical reminders of a past relationship? This question isn't trivial—it's a significant part of moving forward. Deciding how to handle these items can stir a range of emotions, from sorrow to relief, and is often a crucial step in the healing journey. Whether you're contemplating whether to keep, repurpose, or let go of your wedding ring, dress, or other memorabilia, this episode offers thoughtful insights and practical advice to help you navigate these choices with care and intention.
Self-Reflecting Questions:
Join me as we delve into these questions, offering you support and guidance on how to make these difficult decisions in a way that honors your past and embraces your future.
00:54 The Importance of Self-Connection
02:54 Addressing a Common Question
03:57 Dealing with Wedding Rings and Dresses
08:01 Handling Memorabilia and Photos
12:14 Making Decisions About Keepsakes
18:32 Practical Tips for Sorting Items
24:42 Creating Rituals for Letting Go
26:41 Empowerment Through Decision-Making
28:39 Coaching Membership Invitation
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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In this episode, I continue my conversation with Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as we dive deep into the concept of 'pathological kindness' and its impact on individuals, especially in the context of divorce. We discuss the importance of registering for free divorce support sessions, the significance of emotional self-care, and how to avoid repeating toxic relationship patterns. We also explore the dynamics of kindness and empathy, the complex emotions involved in divorce, and practical steps to reclaim one's identity and self-worth.
00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:45 Continuation of the Conversation with Tony Overbay
03:25 Understanding Pathological Kindness
07:56 Exploring Pathological Traits
17:21 Challenges of Highly Sensitive Individuals in Relationships
22:33 Understanding Narcissistic Discard22:59 The Challenge of Emotional Change
23:32 Exploring Gender and Emotional Depth
25:08 Wise Femininity and Emotional Balance
27:10 Trust and Betrayal in Relationships
30:23 Identity and Chronic Pain
33:37 Finding Your True Self
38:58 Healthy Relationships and Self-Connection
40:56 Journal Prompts for Self-Reflection
*Reflect on a time when your kindness may have crossed into self-sacrifice. What were the circumstances, and how did it affect your emotional well-being? Moving forward, how can you maintain your kindness while also prioritizing your own needs?
*In what ways have you noticed your identity being overshadowed by the needs of others? Moving forward, what are three steps you can take to reclaim and celebrate your individuality?
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Find more about Tony HERE
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BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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As the holiday season approaches, let's come together to support each other! Many of our incredible listeners, including divorcees working hard to support their families, have started their own ventures, from crafting adorable knitted animals to organizing engaging flute circles. Before you head to big retailers for your holiday shopping, why not check out our Facebook page to discover unique and heartfelt gifts crafted by members of our community?
Have something to share? Add your business to this facebook page! I want to support YOU.
Why Shop Small This Holiday?
How Can You Participate?
Let's use the next few weeks to grow our community and our businesses together.
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Shop small, support big dreams, and make this holiday season especially impactful!
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BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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In this episode, I am joined by Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism podcasts. We explore the complexities of breaking free from relationships with narcissists, focusing on the challenges and strategies to regain emotional autonomy. We delve into the concepts of differentiation, trauma bonding, and the importance of self-validation. Tony shares his insights on how narcissistic behaviors escalate during divorce and separation, and how to maintain a sense of self amid these challenges. This episode is divided into two parts, with the continuation airing next week.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:29 Understanding Narcissism and Separation
03:51 Personal Story and Impact of Narcissism
06:42 Emotional Immaturity and Narcissistic Traits
14:19 Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement
20:02 Weaponizing Therapy Tools
24:54 Five Rules for Dealing with Narcissists
25:13 The Challenge of Setting Boundaries
26:00 The Narcissist's Need for Validation
27:40 Therapist's Perspective on Narcissism
30:07 Differentiation in Relationships
36:19 The Concept of Control Bubbles
42:09 Constructing Your Crucible
47:25 The Pathologically Kind Person
49:09 Conclusion and Next Steps
Find More on Tony and his work HERE
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BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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Because you are having a LIFE SAVING DIVORCE!
It's beyond challenging to find yourself still dealing with the abusive behaviors and destructive communication with your ex, AFTER DIVORCE! You want to feel freedom, others are perhaps expecting you to- so why can't you?
Join me today as I talk about why and how to actually begin feeling freedom when you shift your focus back towards you and have an EMPOWERED divorce.
Key Points:
Strategies for True Freedom:
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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Are you finding yourself still waiting for ownership from your ex about his choices and actions? Perhaps it's even subconscious and yet you find yourself feeling resentful angry or stuck in moving on because you are waiting for there to be some decency in a human to take accountability of their choices which led to the situations you are experiencing. Im sharing my thoughts about this today and offering a few things that I believe will hep you to heal and move forward, having an EMPOWERED DIVORCE.
Highlights:
Release Expectations for an Apology: Letting go of the hope for an apology frees you from emotional ties to your ex and aids healing.
Prioritize Personal Healing: Shift focus from your ex’s actions to your own recovery, finding internal closure.
Set Personal Boundaries: Avoid interactions that trigger emotional responses used by your ex to deflect responsibility.
Legally Follow Through without Emotional Engagement: Handle legal matters like child support reporting without emotional involvement.
Minimize Emotional Interactions: Keep necessary communications with your ex strictly business-like to prevent emotional manipulation.
Adjust Internal Dialogue: Focus on your healing rather than your ex’s unwillingness to acknowledge their faults.
Recognize Root Issues: Understand that your ex’s failure to accept responsibility reflects their limitations, not your value.
Stay Present and Accept Reality: Live in the present and accept things as they are, reducing the influence of external factors.
Focus Inward for Growth: Turn inward for self-reflection and growth instead of seeking closure from your ex.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one AUGUST 29th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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Does this feel confusing to you? Divorce after betrayal and abuse can leave you with a lot of unresolved feelings. The pain and hurt from your partners actions can still feel shocking. You don't want to be with this person anymore, so why is there also this felt sense of "missing them"?
I validate this cognitive dissonance today and offer some ideas that might help ease the confusion and help you heal.
Different Aspects of Missing Someone:
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Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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In today’s episode, I dive deep into some of my favorite quotes from the movie Kung Fu Panda. Have you ever noticed how philosophical it is! Join me as i share some insights that will surely inspire you to keep going, to not give up and to be the chooser in your life! One day at a time.
Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:
Recognizing Your Inner Strength: We’ll discuss the importance of acknowledging your inner resilience, especially when it feels like you're facing insurmountable challenges. Remember, you are stronger than any storm that comes your way.
Trying New Approaches: Learn how stepping out of your routine and trying something different can lead to breakthroughs in how you handle difficult situations. It's about doing something other than what you usually do, to see what you truly can achieve.
Reflecting on Your Thoughts: I'll guide you on how to become curious about your thoughts surrounding the challenges you face. This reflection is crucial because if you always think the way you've always thought, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.
Staying Present: We'll explore the power of presence and how focusing on the now, rather than ruminating on the past or fearing the future, can significantly alter your ability to manage life's challenges.
Harnessing a Higher Power: Discover how connecting with a higher power or a deeper inner strength can provide comfort and guidance through tough times. Letting in that strength can be transformative, leading you to realize your full potential.
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Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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Musicbed -January 8, 2024
Following up on last week's episode where I was talking about believing that you are 100% of WORTH & VALUE. Today I wanted to talk about IFS ( internal family systems) developed by Dr Dick Schwartz, otherwise known as parts work. Understanding yourself in this way can help you believe that you really do have a CORE SELF and that, that CORE SELF is NOT impacted by your trauma.
Here are the journal prompts from today's episode:
Journal Prompt 1: What qualities do you admire about yourself? This is aimed at discovering more about your inner worth.
Journal Prompt 2: What negative beliefs do you hold about yourself that might be blocking your sense of worth, and how does this impact your day-to-day life? Identify these negative beliefs, examine how they block your sense of worth and value, and explore how they affect your daily life.
Journal Prompt 3: What does your higher self look like and feel like? Describe this part of you in detail, focusing on what you see this part doing, feeling, and looking like. Then, list two ways in which you will remember and connect with this part of yourself.
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Join me in BELIEVING IN YOU coaching membership where we will start diving into the 8 characteristics of the higher self.
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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Musicbed -January 8, 2024
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