This is not a lesson about divorce healing.
It’s not advice.
It’s a pause.

Day 12 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is simply a blessing—offered to you exactly as you are.

If these last 12 days stirred grief, relief, exhaustion, hope, or something you can’t quite name, this episode is here to hold that with you.

No fixing.
No reframing.
No pushing forward.

Just a few quiet moments of being witnessed.

You’ve been strong longer than you should have had to be.
You’ve carried more than most people ever saw.
And nothing about what you needed was wrong.

As we step into a new year, this is our prayer for you:

That you feel chosen.
That you feel wanted.
That your nervous system learns what safety feels like again.
And that you remember—you were never meant to do this alone.

Let yourself rest here. Sending all our love,

Dawn, Joy & Tiffini

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If New Year’s resolutions have never worked for you...especially after divorce, it’s not because you lack discipline, motivation, or follow-through.

It’s because the version of you who survived divorce is not wired to safely become the woman you’re trying to create.

After divorce, most women try to change their lives by changing their behavior.

But behavior never sticks when the nervous system doesn’t feel safe expanding.

In this New Year’s Day episode, we break down why resolutions fail specifically after divorce—and what actually creates change instead.

We talk about:

• Why “New Year, New You” language backfires on a nervous system shaped by loss
• How inherited roles, survival strategies, and emotional suppression block capacity
• The real reason desire alone isn’t enough to create change
• Why your brain will offer a thousand excuses—and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing
• What permission has to do with confidence, worthiness, and follow-through

You’ll be guided through a powerful journaling exercise we call the New Year Permission Slip—not focused on what you want, but on who you’re willing to become to receive it.

Because the woman who calls in a fuller life after divorce:

• has more capacity
• feels safer being seen
• trusts herself more deeply
• and no longer abandons herself to stay comfortable

And she doesn’t arrive by accident.

🎯 Your Invitation

Ask yourself:

• What am I calling in this year?
• And what am I willing to put on the line to become the woman who can hold it?

We believe in you.

The real question is—will you give yourself permission to believe in you too?

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New Year’s Eve has a way of turning self-criticism up to full volume after divorce.

The comparisons.
The sense that you should be further along.
The quiet question of what’s wrong with me that this still hurts?

If you find yourself being unusually hard on yourself today, this episode isn’t here to tell you to “think positive” or try harder.

It’s here to explain why this happens—and what your nervous system is actually doing when self-doubt takes over.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why divorce retrains your nervous system to scan for failure instead of progress
• Why pride and self-validation feel uncomfortable or even unsafe for so many women
• How New Year’s Eve amplifies comparison, loneliness, and internal pressure
• A simple practice to help your system start noticing what is working

This is not about forcing confidence or pretending you’re okay.

It’s about understanding why self-criticism shows up when safety feels fragile—and how to interrupt the spiral without shaming yourself for being in it.

🎄 This is Day 10 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas—short, steady episodes designed to support your nervous system during one of the hardest weeks of the year.

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Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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The holidays after divorce don’t hurt because you’re single.
They hurt because they force you to confront how unsafe it feels to need support.

In this Day 9 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, we talk about the hidden, hardest part of life after divorce—asking for help. Not logistically, but emotionally. Not politely, but vulnerably.

If feeling safe, seen, and supported came naturally to you, this wouldn’t be the relationship you ended up in—and it wouldn’t be how it ended. So when the holidays raise the volume on need, asking for support can feel threatening, activating, or even shame-inducing.

Producer Joy joins me to explore what keeps so many women stuck in invisibility—especially during the holidays and heading into the New Year. We talk about worthiness, vulnerability, and the very real fear that comes with letting yourself be witnessed after divorce.

This episode invites you to slow down and ask:
 – What do I actually need right now?
 – Who has shown me they’re safe enough to ask?
 – What would it look like to make one honest, aligned request?

This isn’t about forcing vulnerability or asking people to give what they’ve never shown they can.
 It’s about reclaiming your right to matter—and letting it begin with you.

If the holidays after divorce are making it painfully clear how hard it is to need support, this episode will help you understand why—without judgment, pressure, or pretending you’re ready for more than you are.

You’re allowed to feel the fear.
 And you’re allowed to ask anyway.

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In this Day 8 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, Coach Tiffini joins me to unpack what actually happens inside your nervous system when you try to bring old traditions into a new life after divorce...especially in this in-between week between the holidays and the New Year.

Through an IFS (Internal Family Systems) lens, we talk about the protective parts that step in when traditions carry grief, memory, and expectation. Not because you’re doing it wrong—but because your system may not feel safe enough yet to repeat what once belonged to a different life.

This isn’t about mindset.
 It’s not about trying harder.
 And it’s not about forcing yourself to “make it meaningful.”

It’s about understanding why recreating traditions after divorce can backfire—and how to stop fighting the resistance long enough to listen to what your body is actually asking for.

If the holidays after divorce feel emotionally confusing, muted, or harder than you expected—especially as New Year approaches—this episode will help you make sense of that without judging yourself or rushing the process.

Your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s designed to do.

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How ya doing babe? We're on day 7 of "The 12 Days of Becoming HER Again" and it's all pretty raw.

Today we’re talking about loneliness after divorce...not as something to fix or outrun, but as something that moves in waves.

For many women, loneliness doesn’t stay constant.
 It rises.
 It crests.
 And when it hits, it can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, Joy and I talk about:

• Why loneliness after divorce often comes in waves
• How many women try to drown it out instead of ride it
• The difference between feeling lonely and being unsafe
• What actually helps when the wave rises
• Why resisting loneliness often makes it stronger
• How to stay present without collapsing into it

This conversation is about learning how to ride the loneliness wave — letting it move through you without letting it take you under.

You don’t have to force yourself to feel better.
 You don’t have to make it mean something about your worth.
 You just need a way to stay with yourself when it shows up.

If loneliness has been hitting hard this holiday season, this episode is for you.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily series supporting your nervous system and your heart through the holidays after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The full series is available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

If today’s episode helped you feel less afraid of the loneliness — or less alone inside it — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you.

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Or stay with us here today — and come back tomorrow.

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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Today's convo is about a specific kind of holiday pain after divorce...
 the Christmas cards knowing exactly how to **send you.

The smiling families.
The matching outfits.
The quiet comparison that starts to creep in and makes you feel like you no longer belong to the world you used to be part of.

In this episode, Joy and I talk about:

• Why Christmas cards trigger comparison so deeply after divorce
• How performance culture keeps women disconnected from themselves
• The grief of rebuilding your life in truth while others appear “settled”
• Why comparison pulls you off your own healing path
• What it means to shift from me vs. them to me vs. me
• Why becoming yourself can feel lonelier before it feels better

We also offer a simple, creative practice for working with the cards themselves...not from bitterness, but from transformation (well maybe a little from bitterness) as a way to reclaim your power and your perspective.

This episode isn’t about pretending the comparison doesn’t hurt.
 It’s about choosing not to let it delay your becoming.

If the Christmas cards have been making you feel like an outsider this season, come hang with us!

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Or stay with us here today — and come back tomorrow.

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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If you’re here today, it means your kids aren’t with you...and that absence lands in the body, not just the heart.

This episode is for the moms navigating holidays, weekends, or long stretches without their children after divorce. The quiet. The ache. The way your nervous system doesn’t know where to settle when the people you’re bonded to aren’t home.

Joy shares from lived experience what it’s like to be deeply, trauma-bonded to your children — through pregnancy, birth, illness, caregiving, and survival — and then suddenly have to function without them physically present.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• Why missing your kids after divorce can feel physically destabilizing
• How maternal bonding and trauma bonding affect the nervous system
• The urge to stay busy, numb out, or dissociate — and why that makes sense
• What actually helped during the hardest hours (movement, EFT tapping, nature, structure)
• Why “doing nothing” can feel unbearable — and what to do instead
• A simple candle ritual to honor the bond when your kids aren’t with you
• How to stay connected without collapsing or abandoning yourself

This episode is not about fixing the grief or rushing you through it.
 It’s about staying present with the truth that their bodies may be absent — but their love is not.

If you’re missing your kids today, you don’t have to disappear to survive it.
 You’re allowed to grieve and stay with yourself.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support women through the holidays after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper support for grief, loneliness, and identity after divorce — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

If this episode helped you feel less alone, the rest of the series is there to hold you through the days that follow.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Their love is not absent.
And neither are you.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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Christmas after divorce can hit your body before your mind ever catches up.

You can know logically that other people’s celebrations have nothing to do with you—and still feel the ache, the comparison, the quiet grief in your chest when you wake up.

Today’s episode is different.

This is a short quantum healing track designed to help your nervous system release the emotional charge that gets activated when you imagine other families celebrating—and then turn back toward your own reality.

Quantum healing works by bringing awareness to how your body responds to emotional contrast, then gently clearing the stored stress response without forcing positivity or bypassing grief.

By the end of this track, many women notice:
 – less heaviness in the chest
 – a softening of comparison and loneliness
 – a calmer, more grounded nervous system
 – more space to meet Christmas Day as it actually is

No fixing.
 No reframing.
 Just relief.

Press play when you’re somewhere quiet and let your body do what it already knows how to do.

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Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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Welcome to Day 3 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 Days of Becoming Her Again.

Today we’re talking about one of the hardest moments after divorce: going to the holiday party alone.

The explaining.
The questions you don’t want to answer.
The way your body tightens when you walk into a room where you used to belong as part of a couple.

For many women, this isn’t just social anxiety — it’s identity grief.
 You were someone’s wife.
 You had a role.
 You had a place.

And now you’re figuring out who you are without rehearsing strength or pretending you’re fine.

In this episode, Joy and I walk you through how to prepare for being single at the holiday party in a way that actually supports your nervous system — instead of leaving you depleted before you even arrive.

We talk about:

• Why your brain naturally rehearses what you don’t want to happen
• How that rehearsal increases anxiety and self-protection
• A simple journaling practice to shift from fear to preference
• How to decide how you want to feel — without trying to change other people
• Practical grounding tools you can use before and during the event
• What to reach for when you feel yourself starting to disappear

This episode isn’t about performing confidence.
 It’s about staying in Self.

You don’t need the night to go perfectly.
 You just need a way to stay connected to you while you’re there.

And we’ll walk you through that — step by step.

🎄 ABOUT THE 12 DAYS OF DIVORCE CHRISTMAS (WITH CTA)

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper grounding tools and preparation practices — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium, you’ll get:

• Full access to all 12 days of this series
• Episodes that help you regulate in real time (bathroom breaks, car moments, before-you-walk-in tools)
• Monthly premium workshops for grief, anxiety, loneliness, and identity rebuilding after divorce

If this episode helped you feel more prepared, more steady, or less alone — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you through the moments that don’t get talked about out loud.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and know you’re not doing this wrong.

You’re learning how to do it as you.

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