Fear, anxiety, and insecurity are enemies of marital intimacy. We all carry shame and insecurity as the fallen sons of Adam and the fallen daughters of Eve. To cover up those insecurities and shame, we wear “fig leaves” that become patterns of dysfunction in marriage.

God can redeem you, redefine your marriage, and renew your relationship. The love story in Song of Solomon can help us take a personal inventory of our fears and anxieties. When we are honest with our spouse, we are better able to exist in marital intimacy where we are more fully known and fully loved.

Three things to remember to love and be loved well:

1.) You don’t need to get married to be loved—you already are!

No one will love you better than Jesus! You will never love well until you rest in God’s perfect love.

2.) Your mate is not meant to complete you—only complement you.

God gives you a mate to complement who you are but not to complete who you are. If you look to your spouse to complete you, you will begin to compete.

3.) Marriage is more for your sanctification than your satisfaction!

Sanctification is the process of God making you become more like Christ. It is in the community of marriage that you’re healed from your sin.

The number one thing you can do in your marriage is pray together every day.

Jesus is the ultimate lover of your soul. Only as you rest in God’s love will you be able to give and receive love. Until you rest in His love, nobody else’s love will ever be enough.

Join Pastor Phil as he shares lessons from the Song of Solomon on how to guard against the patterns of conflict caused by insecurity, fear, and anxiety.