The Executor Help Podcast

"I think they know."

Those four words can leave a family with more uncertainty than we realize.

In this short solo episode, David talks about the difference between having the paperwork done and making sure your family actually knows what you want.

A will and power of attorney may be in place. The important papers may be organized. But families can still be left wondering:

What did Mom really want? Why did Dad make that decision? Am I doing the right thing?

David shares why clarity can be one of the kindest things we leave behind — especially for the Responsible One who may eventually have to step forward.

And he leaves listeners with one simple question:

What might your family still have to guess about?

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

What happens when you can't find the words for what you've been through?

For Liliana Del Vedova, photography became a way to express what words couldn't.

In this episode, David and Liliana talk about grief, trauma, healing, and why people sometimes don't need someone to fix them or tell them how to move forward.

Sometimes they simply need to feel seen.

Liliana shares how her own difficult experiences led her to healing arts and how she now uses analog photography and the darkroom to help others process experiences that can be difficult to explain.

They talk about why grief doesn't follow a timetable, the shame people sometimes carry about how they're feeling, and why healing doesn't necessarily mean moving on.

This is a conversation about making space for what we carry—and allowing ourselves to be where we are.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

How often do we spend so much time preparing for tomorrow that we forget to enjoy today?

If you're the Responsible One in your family, you probably know the feeling. There's always another form to complete, another conversation to have, another task to cross off the list.

In this solo episode, David shares the story of a couple who spent months organizing their affairs. When they finally finished, one of them looked across the table and asked, "So... what do we do now?"

The answer was beautifully simple.

"Let's go for ice cream."

It's a reminder that preparing for tomorrow should never steal today's joy.

Because we don't prepare expecting the worst.

We prepare so we're free to enjoy the best.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

Most of us think we'll have time.

Time for one more visit.

One more conversation.

One more chance to say what matters.

But sometimes life changes without warning.

In this episode, David has a conversation with Elizabeth De Sevo, author of Choose Your MOMents, to talk about the sudden loss of her mother and how that heartbreaking experience completely changed the way she looks at life.

Instead of allowing grief to define her, Elizabeth discovered a simple but powerful truth:

All that matters are the moments.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

Every family seems to have one.

They're not always the oldest child.

They're not always the executor.

They don't ask for the responsibility.

But when life becomes uncertain, they're the one who quietly steps forward.

In this solo episode, David shares a realization that came to him after several unexpected conversations.

Different people.

Different families.

The same quiet pattern.

David introduces the idea of The Responsible One—the person who carries responsibility long before anyone gives them a title.

If you've ever found yourself making the phone calls, asking the hard questions, or quietly holding things together for the people you love, this episode may feel very familiar.

And if someone came to mind while listening... perhaps it's time to thank them.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

In Part 2 of David's conversation with Dr. Robert V. Hurst, author of Life's Fingerprint, they explore why family dynamics become so complicated when parents begin to age, caregiving decisions need to be made, and estates eventually have to be settled.

Why does one sibling become "the responsible one" while another steps back?

Why do conversations about health care, finances, and inheritance sometimes trigger emotions that seem much bigger than the situation itself?

Dr. Hurst explains how birth order may help us better understand these family patterns—not to change who people are, but to approach one another with greater awareness and compassion.

Whether you're caring for aging parents today or know those conversations are coming someday, this episode offers a fascinating perspective on why families react the way they do—and how understanding each other may help make those difficult moments a little easier.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

Have you ever wondered why the same family arguments keep happening—even decades later?

In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, David sits down with Dr. Robert V. Hurst, author of Life's Fingerprint, to explore how birth order and childhood family dynamics can quietly shape our personalities, relationships, and decision-making throughout our lives.

Why does one sibling naturally take charge while another pushes back?

Why do brothers and sisters raised in the same home remember childhood so differently?

And could the roles we developed as children still be influencing us today?

This conversation offers a fascinating look at the hidden patterns that shape families long before caregiving, aging parents, or estate settlement ever become part of the picture.

Next week in Part 2: David and Dr. Hurst explore what happens when those same childhood roles resurface as parents age, siblings must make difficult decisions, and family tensions begin to rise.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

There's a sentence that doesn't often get said out loud, but it sits underneath many of the conversations families avoid:

"I don't want this to be hard for you."

In this short reflection, David explores the quiet motivation behind getting organized, having important conversations, and making plans for the future.

Because for most people, it's not really about documents, lists, or paperwork.

It's about the people they love.

It's about wanting family members to feel less overwhelmed, less uncertain, and less burdened when difficult moments eventually arrive.

A thoughtful reflection on care, clarity, family responsibility, and why making things easier often begins with a simple conversation.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

In this special Father's Day conversation, David speaks with author and editor Margaret McMullan about her book Every Father's Daughter, a collection of essays from 24 women reflecting on the impact their fathers had on their lives.

Together they explore the unique bond between fathers and daughters, the lessons that stay with them the relationships that shape them, and why the influence of a father often lasts long after childhood.

Margaret shares her own reflections on her father, the stories that surprised her while editing the collection, and what many fathers may underestimate about the lasting impact they have on their daughters.

A thoughtful conversation about love, memory, grief, connection, and the importance of simply spending time together.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com

For this Father's Day special, David reflects on his own relationship with his father and the things that continue to stay with him years later.

He shares the story of a difficult Father's Day that changed his family forever, the moment he had to make a decision no son wants to make, and how his understanding of his father evolved over time.

This is not a story about perfection.

It's a reflection on memory, responsibility, gratitude, loss, and the ways our parents continue shaping us long after they're gone.

For David's book, other resources and more visit www.davidedey.com