Want to know the nitty gritty of what we do around the holidays? You're in luck.

In this episode, JM and Chris share what their Christmas' look like as families, share some extremely actionable insights for leading over the next month, and give some bonus tips along the way for Thanksgiving, navigating travel boundaries, and how to not give terrible gifts.

This episode is THE weapon you need to enter into the next month with peace, joy, and leadership that will bless your family.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:37 Santa Claus?

9:33 Christmas Morning

18:44 How to prepare for the holiday season as a leader

26:33 Ungratefulness and discipline

37:20 Pressure to gift

48:57 Unique holiday traditions

54:19 Boundaries

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The culture and our own sin leads many men these days to accidentally masculinize their wives.

In turn, their wives become less feminine, less sweet, less submissive...

Husband and wife become more like "life partners".

Nobody's happy, everyone's stressed, and no one knows why.

Well, this is why.

In this episode we'll unpack exactly how you're (accidentally) making your wife act like a man, and what to do about it, because our goal is to help you become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known.

When you unlock the levels of leadership we walk you through, you'll find your wife likely responding in more feminine, tender, open, helpful, and submissive ways.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:15 How to know if your wife is being masculine?

6:22 The cost of making your wife your "bro"

9:06 TERRIBLE advice

15:44 What if neither of you have the "soft" skills?

26:31 Soften your wife as the protector

35:07 Capacity for meanness

45:44 Lack of provision creating chaos

53:05 Missing leadership makes your wife masculine

59:04 Loving your wife and kids how they need to be loved

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What started as figuring out how to lead a "type a", go-getter wife, quickly turned into a DEEP dive on the importance of rest, Sabbath, and margin.

Too many people don't even THINK about this topic today. We live in a go-go-go society.

I've got news for everyone:

You can't do it all.

You're not God.

If you don't have time for everything you've "got" to do, then it's not from the Lord, plain and simple.

Time to start developing your life around your actual values, and make some trade offs. But you MUST build rest into your weekly rhythm for you AND your wife.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:42 High Performing Wife Outpacing Your Leadership?

9:02 Should Your Wife Run Your Family Calendar?

13:57 Sabbath

19:54 When There's No Margin

35:37 Serving in the Church with a Young Family?

42:58 How to Actually Slow Down Your Family

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Look, things are crazy out there, guys.

And seemingly only getting crazier.

So what is a man to do?

Do we become insular and shy away from the things presented to us?

Do we grab the bull by the horn and demand everyone fall in line?

Or is there another way forward for men who want to be Family Captains?

In this episode, we talk about a lot of timeless things relevant to Christian husbands at this point in history, including how to do a "fruit assessment" in your marriage and life, how to not be paralyzed by what's going on, how to win at home AND work, and more.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:01 What do we do in this chaos?

8:37 If you're paralyzed by worldly situations...

12:32 Action builds sexual attraction

21:19 Not in a playful season?

25:18 Personal "Fruit Assessment"

40:19 Nick Saban (crushing it at work but not home?)

47:29 Alpha in the work place but weak at home?

51:03 What if you crush at work but are too exhausted to care at home?

1:01:22 The next step

Mentioned:

Nick Saban Clip: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/foBm57NNqS8

No More Christian Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0764212680/

No More Mr. Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/9391560407/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There's not a lot more dangerous than being a limp man.

It's one thing if you're ignorant and ready for a wake up call...

But it's another thing entirely if you're just passive, not making the changes you know need to be made, and letting life slide by.

Today is our wake up call to you if you've been slacking on taking ACTION.

Don't navigate backwards...make sure to watch this one and take the first little step into becoming a strong, erect, penetrating man of action.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:02 Limp men have a false sense of progress

4:57 Employee to Owner

7:26 Being stagnant

11:31 What needs to shift to take action

14:59 Making it impossible to fail

20:25 The greatest objection...

25:37 A typical wife's reaction

30:46 The danger of being a limp man

40:51 Our gift to you

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Do the small things really make a difference?

Should you really start by making your bed when your home is in chaos?

The answer may surprise you.

It doesn't sound sexy, it's not a home run...but if you hit singles and a couple of doubles, you're rounding the bases. When you take care of the little things, that 1%, 3% increase adds up.

Turns out the big things are tackled one little thing at a time.

We'll explain the broken window theory of family leadership in this episode, and give you some specific ideas on how to start levelling up TODAY, without the overwhelm of having to figure it ALL out.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:05 John Michael Takes The Stage, Doesn't Get Canceled

7:09 Get Fruit FAST

8:59 The Broken Window Theory

14:17 The little things that lead to big things

18:15 Momentum!

34:15 You get what you tolerate

45:08 Reclaiming Dominion

49:05 Next steps

Mentioned:

VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/

Tineco 5: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P2RKRWX/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You think your 7/10 marriage is pretty good.

Then you discover what a biblical marriage actually looks like and realize you're closer to 7/100.

The problem isn't that you need better communication or more date nights...it's that you've been sold a lie about partnership and mutual submission that's turned you into a family butler instead of a family captain.

What if everything you've been taught about loving your wife is backwards? What if the "nice guy" approach that keeps the peace is actually destroying the respect, freedom, and passion your marriage was designed for?

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

8:00 Default Marriage

11:25 Being afraid to lead

23:09 Mutual submission

38:32 What it looks like to move from "co-submission" to leading

45:24 You can't lead with co-submission

51:29 The two ditches

1:03:35 Getting unstuck

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You want your marriage to go from good to legendary. You want to actually lead your family. But here's the problem: most men don't even know what they really want because they're too busy living for comfort, managing other people's expectations, or settling for "fine."

This episode hands you five questions that will either unlock your next level or expose that you've been lying to yourself about what you're actually willing to do.

If you answer these questions honestly, you'll unlock a whole new world.

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In This Episode:

0:11 Intro

2:57 The questions

6:16 When these questions hit us in the nuts

13:25 A win from actually answering these questions

21:52 How to start asking and implementing

31:22 The Law of the Spectrum

37:11 Wisdom

46:42 The biggest unlock

48:45 What have I tolerated that must be crucified?

55:56 Submitting your plans to the Lord

59:32 Big Family Captain news

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What does it really mean to have sexual integrity as a man of God?

Chris and JM unpack the hidden struggles many Christian men face, even beyond internet addiction, and expose the subtle compromises that keep men from true freedom.

JM shares his personal story of confession, breakthrough, and leading his family with strength and purity.

Together, they challenge men to move from playing defense against temptation to running a mighty offense in faith, purpose, and leadership.

If you’ve ever wondered how to walk in real victory over lust, shame, and mediocrity, this is the episode you can’t afford to skip.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:58 Sexual integrity struggles

6:12 Guarding your thoughts

14:20 Why your burdens are blessing you

19:22 Guardrails?

28:02 Where to start

35:54 This is impacting your marriage

44:32 Full and true freedom

56:00 Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What if your wife actually WANTED more intimacy...and you were the man she couldn’t resist?

In this episode, Chris and JM dive into 10 (of 34) proven ways to have more sex with your wife.

From tracking her cycle to leading yourself like a man on a mission, they reveal practical and biblical strategies that build real attraction.

This isn’t about cheap tricks. it’s about becoming the man your wife longs for in every way.

Stick around to the end, because these insights will completely reframe how you approach leadership, marriage, and the bedroom.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:42 #1 Track Her Cycle

8:30 #2 Don’t Pout

18:24 #3 Send Flirty Texts

24:30 #4 Never Ask Again

34:25 #5 Love God More Than Her

43:12 #6 Be a Man on Mission

49:49 #7 Stay Groomed & Fit

57:42 #8 Quit Internet Trash

1:00:30 #9 Make Her Feel Beautiful

1:05:33 #10 Give Her Rest

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.