Dr. Linda Medcalf discusses the issue of teacher bullying and its correlation with school violence. She emphasizes the importance of teachers treating students with compassion and understanding, and offers a solution-focused approach to address challenging behaviors. The approach involves seeing beyond negative behaviors and looking for strengths and competencies in students. By acknowledging and highlighting these positive aspects, teachers can create a more supportive and empowering environment for their students. In this conversation, Linda and Cher discuss the importance of adopting a solution-focused approach in education. They emphasize the power of recognizing and highlighting positive behaviors in students, rather than focusing solely on their problems. They also discuss the impact of teachers' words and actions on students' well-being and the potential connection between negative experiences at school and school shootings. Linda shares her experience of giving a TEDx talk on this topic and the research that supports the solution-focused approach. 

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In this episode of the Focused Mindset podcast, host Cher Kretz reflects on her experience at the ASCA National School Conference and shares her insights on standing up for others. She emphasizes the importance of being an advocate for students and highlights the power of using a solution-focused approach in conversations. Cher also encourages listeners to step out of their comfort zones and attend conferences and seminars to fill themselves up and grow as individuals. She concludes by urging listeners to stand up for justice and be there for others in their everyday lives. TEDx by Linda Metcalf: Is There A Link Between Teacher Bullying and School Violence?    • Is There a Link Between School Violen...   TEDx by Cher Kretz: How to Lead With Hope: Solution Focused Conversation Navigation    • How to Lead With Hope

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Takeaways

• Attending conferences and seminars can be a valuable way to fill yourself up and grow as an individual.
• As school counselors, it is important to be advocates for students and give them a voice in meetings and discussions.
• Using a solution-focused approach in conversations can lead to empowering and impactful interactions.
• Standing up for justice and being there for others is a powerful way to make a difference in the world.

 

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in episode 208, Cher reflects on the importance of spending quality time with loved ones and having meaningful conversations. She shares a game her family played where they discussed the advice they would give their younger selves. This exercise allowed them to reflect on their personal growth and share valuable insights. The host encourages listeners to reflect on their growth, celebrate their successes, and share their stories with others. She emphasizes the power of recognizing and empowering others for their strengths and achievements.  Takeaways

• Spending quality time with loved ones and having meaningful conversations is important.
• Reflecting on personal growth and sharing insights can be valuable.
• Celebrate successes and share stories with others.
• Recognize and empower others for their strengths and achievements.

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In this podcast episode, Cher Kretz discusses the importance of recognizing and managing fear and hope in our lives. She introduces her book '30 Days to Higher Hopes' and emphasizes the need to raise our level of hope to be better at conversations and communication. Cher shares that fear and hope both exist within us and we have a choice in which voice to listen to. She provides examples of fear talk and hope talk, and offers solution-focused questions to help shift our mindset towards hope. Cher also highlights the significance of aligning with our values and practicing mindfulness.  

• Fear and hope both exist within us, and we have a choice in which voice to listen to.
• Recognize fear talk and replace it with hopeful thoughts and questions.
• Align with your values to stay on track and move towards a hopeful future.
• Practice mindfulness to quiet your thoughts and listen to the solutions that hope has to offer.

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In this episode, you get to listen in on a conversation Cher Kretz had with Russ Sabella, an author, school counselor, and college professor, about the solution-focused approach. Russ shares how he got into solution-focused counseling and the impact it has had on his career. They discuss the importance of focusing on strengths, resources, and opportunities rather than solely on problems. They also highlight the power of gratitude and giving credit to others. Russ emphasizes the need for practice and repetition in adopting a solution-focused mindset and the importance of believing in the potential for change. They also touch on applying solution-focused principles in various contexts, such as sports and parenting. In this conversation, Russ Sabella and Cher Kretz discuss the power of solution-focused counseling in schools. They share personal stories and examples of how solution-focused approaches have transformed students' lives. They emphasize the importance of focusing on strengths and solutions rather than problems, and how this approach can lead to positive change. They also discuss the role of technology, including artificial intelligence, in the future of counseling. Overall, the conversation highlights the effectiveness of solution-focused counseling and its potential to improve outcomes for students.

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In this episode, we explore the reasons that stress and anxiety are linked to social media and the overuse of entertainment online. 

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In this conversation, Cher Kretz interviews Dr. Heather Browne, author of Speaking with the Heart. They discuss the importance of authentic communication and compassion in relationships. Dr. Browne shares her personal journey of growing up with a mother who had paranoid schizophrenia and how it influenced her work as a psychotherapist. They also explore the power of choosing to change and create new pathways in our minds to improve our relationships. In this conversation, Dr. Heather Browne and Cher Kretz discuss the importance of approaching relationships with love and compassion. They emphasize the need to remember that both partners in a relationship should strive to love each other better and be open to making corrections when needed. They also highlight the significance of communication and the power of approaching conversations with hope rather than fear. Dr. Browne shares a simple exercise that can be done daily to strengthen relationships and ensure that both partners feel seen and loved. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of leading with love and compassion in all relationships. https://www.Drheatherbrowne.com

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00:00Introduction and Background 01:14Meeting and Connection 03:14Becoming a Psychotherapist and Writer 04:09Authenticity and Making a Difference 05:15The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships 06:22Working with Couples 07:41Hope for Lifetime Relationships 08:54Compassion in Communication 10:40Approaching Fear and Honoring Past Experiences 13:19Taking Action and Changing Future Experiences 17:28Honoring Fear and Choosing Compassion 20:07Creating New Pathways in the Brain 21:25Changing Trajectory and Empowering Yourself 22:28Choosing to Take Care of Yourself 24:04Creating New Pathways in Relationships 25:19The Importance of Love in Relationships 26:26Miscommunication and Different Ways of Showing Love 27:18Approaching Conversations with Hope Instead of Fear 28:13The Power of Compassion in Relationships 29:02Shifting from Fear to Hope in Relationships 30:23Crawling Out of Emotional Holes 30:56The Difference Between Problems and Solutions 31:44The Magic of Shifting Energy and Perspectives 34:35Approaching Conversations with Compassion 35:18Honoring Where You Are in Relationships 36:06Being Gracious with Yourself in Relationships 37:28Practical Exercise: Checking In with Loved Ones 39:03The Power of Daily Check-Ins in Relationships 39:39Extending Love and Care in Relationships 42:41Applying the Lessons in Different Relationships 44:09Connecting with Dr. Heather Browne 45:25Leading with Hope and Love in the World

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In this episode of the Focused Mindset podcast, Cher Kretz discusses the concept of toxic positivity and how it can affect our emotions and conversations. Toxic positivity is the rejection of negative emotions and the constant focus on positive ones. Cher emphasizes the importance of honoring and validating all of our emotions, as they make up who we are. She explains that toxic positivity can damage relationships and lead to suppression of real emotions, which can manifest in other negative ways. Cher provides strategies for practicing empathy, validating emotions, and moving from problem-focused to solution-focused conversations.

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00:00Introduction 08:18Understanding Toxic Positivity 14:38The Damaging Effects of Toxic Positivity 33:54Moving from Problem-Focused to Solution-Focused Conversations 45:16Conclusion