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We’ve got to stop calling it "defiance" when it’s actually dysregulation.

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what ADHD really is- and why the strategies we often use in schools aren’t cutting it. You’ll learn:

• Why ADHD isn’t a behavior problem (and what it actually is)
• The critical difference between knowing and doing
• Why worksheets, clip charts, and “just try harder” don’t work
• What school counselors can do instead to actually help

If you’ve ever had a student who “knows the rules” but can’t seem to follow them, this one’s for you.

And if you’re tired of seeing kids punished for things they haven’t learned how to manage yet?

You’re in the right place... Let's go!

Resources:

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

Barkley, R. A. (1997). ADHD and the nature of self-control. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Barkley, R. A. (2011). Executive functions: What they are, how they work, and why they evolved. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Brown, T. E. (2013). A new understanding of ADHD in children and adults: Executive function impairments. Routledge.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2022). Data and statistics about ADHD. https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/data.html

Quinn, P. O., & Madhoo, M. (2014). A review of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder in women and girls: uncovering this hidden diagnosis. The primary care companion for CNS disorders, 16(3), 27250.

Shaw, P., Eckstrand, K., Sharp, W., Blumenthal, J., Lerch, J. P., Greenstein, D. E. E. A., ... & Rapoport, J. L. (2007). Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder is characterized by a delay in cortical maturation. Proceedings of the national academy of sciences, 104(49), 19649-19654.

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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In the previous episode, we talked about what happens when a behavior referral isn’t really about the student- and how counselors can shift out of the “removal service” role and into real consultation.

But what if that doesn’t feel realistic?

This bonus episode tackles the pushback:

• What if your admin expects you to remove students, no questions asked?
• What if your teachers are too burned out to reflect?
• What if you barely have time to breathe, let alone consult?

We’re walking through the most common objections counselors have and how to shift your role anyway, one step at a time.

If last week’s episode made you think, “That sounds great, but it won't work on my campus,” this one’s for you.

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You get the call:

“Can you come get this student?”

But when you walk in, it’s clear- this isn’t really about the kid.

It’s about stress. Dysregulation. Maybe even burnout. For the adult.

And if school counselors keep stepping in without asking bigger questions, we’re not solving the problem… we’re just keeping the cycle going.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• How to tell when a referral isn’t about student behavior
• The Five-Minute Behavior Consult you can use with teachers today
• How to support staff without becoming the fixer
• Why this shift protects your energy- and your job

If behavior support is starting to feel like your full-time job, this episode is for you.

00:00 Introduction: The Daily Struggles of School Counselors

02:10 Understanding Adult Dysregulation in Schools

07:17 Identifying Signs of Adult-Induced Student Behavior Issues

11:30 The Five Minute Behavior Consult: A Solution-Focused Approach

17:35 Implementing Change Despite Administrative Challenges

21:00 The Role of School Counselors in Shaping School Culture

24:40 Elevating the Role of School Counselors

References:
Gallup. (2022, June 1). K-12 workers have highest burnout rate in U.S. Gallup News. https://news.gallup.com/poll/393500/workers-highest-burnout-rate.aspx

Schwartz, S. (2022, June 15). Stress, burnout, depression: Teachers and principals are not OK right now, new data confirm. Education Week. https://www.edweek.org/teaching-learning/stress-burnout-depression-teachers-and-principals-are-not-doing-well-new-data-confirm/2022/06

Steiner, E. D., & Woo, A. (2021). Job-related stress threatens the teacher supply: Key findings from the 2021 State of the U.S. Teacher Survey (RR-A1108-1). RAND Corporation. https://www.rand.org/pubs/research_reports/RRA1108-1.html

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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You’ve been asked to read a Social Story to a student—again.

 And if you're being honest… you’re not sure it’s actually doing anything.

In this episode, we’re taking a closer look at the research behind Social Stories:

• Where they came from and what they were actually designed to do
• What the peer-reviewed literature says about their effectiveness (and what it doesn’t)
• How they can support emotional regulation... if you use them the right way
• The time frame for change (hint: it’s slower than you think)
• What to say when someone insists you “just need a social story”

Plus, you’ll get practical guidance on when and how to use Social Stories, and a free downloadable cheat sheet to help you back up your decisions with confidence.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it me… or is it the tool?”—this episode is for you.

Bonus: Grab the printable Social Stories resource pdf here

00:00 The Social Story Dilemma

01:49 Origins and Purpose of Social Stories

03:08 Research Findings on Social Stories

09:02 Emotional Regulation and Social Stories

11:44 Practical Advice for School Counselors

21:20 Conclusion and Resources

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Every school counselor has been there—stuck in a conversation where the word "bullying" is thrown around, but something feels off.

A parent demands action because their child was left out of a game at recess. A teacher sends a referral for a “bullying” case that turns out to be a one-time disagreement. Meanwhile, students facing real, targeted harassment often go unnoticed in the noise.

So, how do you cut through the confusion and handle these situations the right way?

Here’s what I'm talking about in this episode:

- The 3 key markers of real bullying (and why missing even one changes everything)
- The biggest mistakes schools make when defining bullying—and how to fix them
- How to explain bullying vs. drama to parents, teachers, and admin (without the pushback)
- What to do when students over-report (or under-report) bullying
- The exact words to use when a parent insists, “This IS bullying!”

If you’re tired of mediating every social conflict and want a clear strategy for handling true bullying cases, this episode is for you.

00:00 Introduction: The Bullying Dilemma

01:23 Understanding the Difference: Bullying vs. Drama

05:15 Key Indicators of Bullying

06:54 Handling Peer Drama

08:57 Communicating with Parents and Administrators

12:48 Effective Responses to Bullying and Peer Conflict

19:27 Resources

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"It's just middle school drama." 
"Ignore them, and it'll stop." 
"You're gonna have to toughen up."

Sound familiar? These are the kinds of dismissive responses students often hear when they report bullying or relational aggression—and they’re not helping. In fact, with 1 in 5 students reporting being bullied and 41% of those fearing it will happen again, we’ve got serious work to do.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into relational aggression and cyberbullying, breaking down what makes these behaviors so damaging, why they often go unnoticed, and—most importantly—how school counselors can step in effectively.

You’ll learn:
✅ The subtle ways relational aggression shows up in schools (and how to spot it)
✅ How cyberbullying is evolving and why it’s getting harder to combat
✅ Practical, real-world strategies for supporting students and stopping these behaviors before they escalate

Plus, I’m giving you a sneak peek at my upcoming Behavior Breakthrough Kit—a game-changing resource packed with evidence-based strategies, a behavior intervention flowchart, and more tools to help you handle tough behavior challenges with confidence. [Go here to join the waitlist]

If handling concerns around relational aggression, cyberbullying, and behavior intervention are keeping you up at night, this episode is for you. 

00:00 Introduction

00:26 The Reality of Bullying Statistics

01:37 Understanding Relational Aggression

04:14 The Rise of Cyberbullying

05:43 Emotional and Academic Impact

06:58 Intervention Strategies

07:58 Creating Safe Reporting Spaces

09:32 Collaborating with Teachers

10:33 Supporting Targeted Students

15:33 Behavior Breakthrough Kit

19:51 Conclusion

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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You know that moment—the banshee scream echoes down the hall, and suddenly, all eyes are on you. The walkies go off, teachers are calling your name, and once again, you’re expected to drop everything and handle the latest behavior meltdown.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

This time of year, behavior issues ramp up, and school counselors often find themselves at the center of the storm. But honestly, most of the advice out there on behavior intervention is not designed for you. You’re not a teacher managing a classroom. You’re not an administrator making discipline decisions. So what should your role be?

In this episode, we’re looking at:
✔ Why traditional behavior strategies don’t always work for school counselors
✔ The three biggest obstacles standing in your way
✔ Real, practical de-escalation techniques that actually work in the moment
✔ How to handle the pressure, the judgment, and the constant disruptions

And if you’re exhausted from being called to behavior crises over and over again, we’ve got support for you.

💡 The Behavior Breakthrough Kit is coming soon—practical, ready-to-use tools to help you navigate behavior intervention with confidence. [Click here to join the waitlist.]

💡 Want real-time troubleshooting and expert support? Join us inside the School for School Counselors Mastermind. Get weekly case consultations and practical strategies you won’t find anywhere else. [Click here to learn more]

Behavior intervention doesn’t have to drain you. Let’s talk about what actually works.

00:00 The Banshee Scream: A School Counselor's First Experience

01:25 Welcome to the School for School Counselors Podcast

02:09 The Reality of Behavior Intervention in Schools

03:32 Real Talk: Effective Behavior Intervention Strategies

04:10 The Authoritative Counselor Approach

05:30 Challenges in Behavior Intervention

10:43 Practical Techniques for De-escalation

20:00 Support and Resources for School Counselors

22:41 Conclusion: Navigating Behavior Intervention Together

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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As busy school counselors, we often find ourselves reaching for quick-fix solutions to help our students. But are these convenient resources truly serving our students' needs? In this episode, I challenge the effectiveness of "print and pray" materials that have become way too common in our field.

Thinking back to the misguided "fat-free" diet craze of the 90s, I explore how mass-produced school counseling worksheets and activities might be doing more harm than good. Because while they promise quick results and seem helpful on the surface, they often lack the substance needed for meaningful change.

00:00 Introduction: 90s Diet Culture

02:21 The Problem with "Print and Pray" Resources

04:33 Effective Counseling Strategies

06:50 Behaviorism and Counseling

08:15 Trauma-Informed Care in Counseling

09:48 Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

12:39 Practical Tips for School Counselors

20:11 Conclusion

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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Can small acts of kindness truly transform a school environment? Or is that just wishful thinking?

As we dive into Random Acts of Kindness Week, I’m sharing my firsthand experiences as a school counselor navigating workplace challenges—and how I discovered that the simplest gestures can have the biggest impact on school culture.

Imagine a school where stress doesn’t rule the day, burnout isn’t lurking around every corner, and job satisfaction actually exists—all because kindness became a deliberate daily habit.

In this episode, we’ll break down the science behind kindness- how it can actually reduce stress, boost resilience, and create ripple effects across an entire campus- for adults AND students.

If you’re looking for a practical, zero-cost strategy to not only shift your school’s atmosphere but also protect your own mental health, this episode is for you.

Grab daily Kindness Week challenges here.

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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Happy National School Counseling Week! Or maybe not?

There’s a growing divide in how school counselors feel about this week—some dive in with enthusiasm, while others don't want to be bothered. And honestly, after what I’ve been seeing lately, I get it.

In this episode, I talk through the uncomfortable truths about school counseling advocacy: what’s missing, why it matters, and how we’ve been misled about who’s actually fighting for us. (Spoiler: If you think your national organization has your back, you might want to think again.)

I also break down concerning new legislation across the country, exposing the lack of organized advocacy in our profession, and sharing why our current efforts just aren’t cutting it. But here’s the thing—we’re not powerless. There’s a better way to advocate, and it starts with YOU.

If you’re tired of the same old conferences and feel-good slogans while school counseling falls apart behind the scenes, this episode is for you.

00:00 Mixed Reactions to National School Counseling Week

01:23 Facebook Group Insights

02:49 Legislative Concerns and ASCA's Role

04:30 Critique of ASCA and Advocacy Issues

14:30 State Organizations and Legislative Challenges

21:46 Call to Action and Positive Notes

22:32 Listener Submissions: Why We Love School Counseling

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Our goal at School for School Counselors is to help school counselors stay on fire, make huge impacts for students, and catalyze change for our roles through grassroots advocacy and collaboration. Listen to get to know more about us and our mission, feel empowered and inspired, and set yourself up for success in the wonderful world of school counseling.

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