Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential observers of happiness and human nature. She’s the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers Outer Order, Inner Calm; The Four Tendencies; Better Than Before; and The Happiness Project.

Her books have sold more than 3.5 million copies worldwide, in more than thirty languages.

She hosts the top-ranking, award-winning podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, where she explores practical solutions for living a happier life.

Raised in Kansas City, Rubin lives in New York City with her husband and two daughters.

 

Key Points

• Decode your ‘Four Tendencies’ personality

• How to harness outer expectations

• Rebels' unique response to expectations

• The freedom within discipline for Upholders

• Gretchen’s take on ‘Secrets of Adulthood’

 

Best Quotes

02:26 - 02:37

• "Depending on whether your tendency is to meet or resist outer and inner expectations, that's what makes you an upholder, a questioner, an obliger, or a rebel."

06:48 - 06:57

• "I'm the kind of person that leads people to them. And I spend a lot of time with the other individuals helping them find themselves or what's most important."

13:35 - 13:39

• "I don't wanna be your babysitter; do your work in your own way, and I'll do my work in my own way."

20:38 - 20:41

• "Why are you not upholding your expectations for yourself?"

50:19 - 50:29

• "If you can't figure out what to do, choose the bigger life, you know, because people are like, oh. 'cause it's like the pros and the cons can feel very evenly weighed, but then it's like, choose the bigger life."

Website: https://gretchenrubin.com/