The Gentle Dommecast

Hello, my Darling Deviants!

What a treat! We got fan mail! TRS and I received the sweetest email from a new Domme who listens to our podcast.

I asked her if we could address some of her questions on the podcast, and she said yes. So, she actually did us a favor by giving us content!

Some of the questions we address today include:

1. How do you get in the mental space of feeling like a Domme?

2. What do you do on a daily basis to keep that D/s dynamic present?

3. What are some ways to keep your dynamic going  when you’re apart?

And several more…We also ask where the Mommy? Sorry? Mommy? Thing came from, and there’s a lot of laughing.

We mentioned a lot of resources this episode including:

The Reddit Community R/FemdomCommunity

Princess Kali and KinkAcademy.Com

Sharyn Ferns and her blog TheDommeChronicles.Com

Submissive Guy Comics

Uniquely Rika

We hope you enjoy, and that you’ve all been having happy holidays! 

In this episode The Rough Subbe returns! With regrets! And begging! Enjoyable begging!

Today we’re talking about punishments and continuing to talk a little more about erotic hypnosis, which I’ve been getting more and more interested in. 

And it turns out The Rough Subbe is ALSO getting a little hot under the collar for being made a bit mindless. I think he also has a crush on The Secret Subject. (I might too.)

 We discuss a recent tiff we had, and how we both feel about punishments in our relationships. And we theorize a bit about how other people might or might not like punishments in D/s relationships.

I also get very intimate with my new Blue Yeti microphone. It’s so….girthy. And discover that my attempt at a subliminal messaging made The Rough Subbe think an evil witch was coming to get him in the middle of the night. 

We hope you enjoy this episode, and we’re looking forward to Episode 20!

Hello, my Darling Deviants!

I'm back for another episode with just yours truly. TRS and I had a very funny podcast idea, but we keep getting derailed by our Sunday night Succession watching. Maybe next time.

In this episode I tell you how Miss Vivian got her kinky groove back. TRS and I had some fun kinky play over the weekend, including one super simple scene idea if you like objectification as much as we do.

However, I spend most of the episode continuing what I talked about in Episode 17. This week I had a man ask me what he could do when he wanted kinky play and his partner just wasn't into it. As you can imagine, this is not an easy question to answer, since it depends so much on individual relationships. But I covered some key issues related to this concern, such as the difference between submission and bottoming, how to not create a lot of work for your partner, and even some sad but honest truth that sometimes you just might not be sexually compatible. 

I hope you find this informative and at least a little bit entertaining! Have a kinky week!

Hello, my Darling Deviants!

This is another shorter podcast episode with just me, The Gentle Domme!

In it, I discuss a recent interest discussion I had about a wife whose husband wanted kinky play that she didn't enjoy. 

In this episode, I discuss the differences between submission and kinky play, submission and bottoming, and how liking or disliking service doesn't make or break submission. 

I also talk about the importance of communicating kinky desires with partners before a relationship gets too serious to determine sexual compatibility. And how foisting your desires on your partner is not the way to get what you want. 

I hope you enjoy this episode!

Hello, my Darling Deviants!

In this episode it's just me! TRS was feeling tired, and I knew it had been far too long since I'd made a podcast for you. Plus, it's almost Halloween, which is my favorite holiday. So, I wanted to say Happy Halloween!

In this episode I discuss erotic hypnosis, something I've been doing more and more through my phone domination. But I specifically talk about hypnotizing TRS and his reaction, which was very positive. This wasn't a kink of his, but he was open to trying it. And he enjoyed it quite a lot! I also discuss my feelings about performing erotic hypnosis in general, such as fears about "imposter syndrome" and my plans for more education and practice moving into next year.

I also somewhat spontaneously discussed something I was blogging about, which is being in a kinky rut. I think lots of people assume that just because a woman likes to be in control sexually (and sometimes just in general) that she must always want kinky sex. But ultimately, this really has nothing to do with one's libido, and any woman is prone to occasionally being in a place where sex and/or kink just aren't high priorities. I think this is important for anyone on either side of the slash to know. 

If anyone wants to suggest some really hot femdom related content that they think would inspire me, I'm all eyes and ears. But do remember that--sadly--most of the content out there is very much tailored for men. So ixnay on the aggressive pegging porn please! 

Last and not least, enjoy your Halloween and get SPOOOOOOKYYYYYY for me my sweet little ghouls!

We're back from kink camp, and as promised, here is my follow up episode to our experience!

I must admit that I feel a little bit boring, because, well....it turns out that I'm not really a good camper. I'm not even a good part-time camper! 

Enjoy this episode where you can listen to me recount my misery and laugh at practically everyone I know's validation that I wasn't going to have a good time being kinky in the woods. 

I keep the name and location of the place where I went private, but if you have questions about attending or attending big events in general, you can always contact me privately. I still enjoy big kink events, but from now on, I'm probably sticking to hotels, where I belong. 

Hello, my darling deviants! I have left you for so long! I apologize. I've been traveling a lot over the summer. I missed you!

In this special episode, The Rough Subbe and I discuss our upcoming visit to kink camp! That's right! We're going kinky camping.

In this podcast, we talk about what we hope to get out of the event, how we feel about being sexy in 90 degree weather (not very), and how embarrassing it's going to be when everyone sees TRS pitching a different kind of tent in his skimpy shorts. We also wax poetic about the pandemic and how its made us feel about going to this event. I talk a lot about my actual tent. I've become really obsessed with glamping decor.

After we return, we'll give you the lowdown on how kinky camping ACTUALLY went for us and whether my outfits were as cute as I thought they would be.

Oh, yeah. And if we got up to any kinky shenanigans!

Last, I mentioned the RISK podcast where I first heard about kink camp many years ago. If you'd like to hear that, you can find it here!

I FINALLY wrangled The Rough Subbe into making another podcast with me, only under threat that he was going to be replaced with another sidekick. (Because people are beating down my door for the job.) 

I might call this less of an episode and more of a tirade after seeing some major generalizations in one of my favorite kink forums about gentle femdom, feminization and age play. So, this entire podcast is a rebuttal against those generalizations. I'm probably going to piss some people off, but when DON'T I do that?

In other news, I got my first troll! However, since I lock down comments, it's not really that useful to leave me hateful statements about how kink is actually abuse. But I feel like you're not really a blogger until you get a troll. So, have I arrived? 

Also, I'd like to mention that nothing I say is gospel. Kink has lots of gray areas, and I'm simply sharing my feelings here. So, while I feel pretty comfortable about the feelings I've expressed, those feelings could change over time or with new information. 

It's Episode 12 of The Gentle Dommecast, and tonight you get me ALL to yourselves!

The Rough Subbe has been so busy, and it's been impossible to coordinate our schedules AND feel like making a half hour podcast. I realized the last podcast I made was in MAY! And that's just totally unacceptable when I like to hear myself talk so much. ;)

So, tonight I bit the bullet and just decided to record myself! I'm talking about erotic hypnosis, including how I was introduced to it, my feelings about if I can be hypnotized or not, and how much I've started to enjoy making erotic hypnosis audios and doing hypnosis on Niteflirt. 

Then I talk about impact play, including the joys of spanking, as well as a variety of impact toys that I own and use. It's been too long since I've had the freedom to get really loud with impact play.

Finally, I give a little update about what I've been up to, including my sexy new listings on Niteflirt, that I now have over 175 sexy audio files, and that I was the runner up in the kink category for The Good Sex Awards!

I hope you enjoy, and I hope to be back soon with The Rough Subbe at my side for another podcast!

In Episode 11 of The Gentle Dommecast, The Rough Subbe and I discuss the return of kink events post pandemic and the difference between submission and bottoming, specifically in F/m femdom.

We decided to wing this one, and we went off on a bunch of tangents. 

I am SUPER excited about events starting again, and my intent was to discuss kink events in general, but I got waylaid into discussing BIG kink events, and the way relationships can be tested when attending them. Maybe I'll revisit events in a later episode.

We also discussed the difference between going to events as a man or as a woman. I realized after that I do tend to be very binary with my language because my frame of reference is as a cis-gender mostly straight woman. I usually depend on TRS to remind me to be inclusive, but he was drinking brandy. ;) So, please forgive me for that. 

Last, we took on the difference between submission and bottoming and how bottoms can sometimes get a bad rap, especially online. But we both love bottoms! The kink kind and the cute butt ones. 

I hope you enjoy!