The Gentle Dommecast

Hello, everyone! I know it's been a while. Life has been busy!

In Episode 10 of The Gentle Dommecast, The Rough Subbe and I discuss a new kink we've gotten into that we're dubbing "Stamina Humiliation." We happened upon it by accident, but it definitely ties into our interest in orgasm control, as well as my jealousy issues. Who? Me?

Then we talk about sexual orientation, including how we identify and how our sexual orientations have changed over the years. We also get into the forced bi kink and how that may or may not connect to sexual orientation.

Last, we give a quick shout out about the HBO show Succession and it's nod to femdom. Meow!

If you have any suggestions about future topics, feel free to let me know! 

In Episode 9 of The Gentle Dommecast, The Rough Subbe and I discuss chastity and cuckolding!

What talk about what "counts" as chastity, how we treat it in our relationship, finding a cage that's right for you, and what we both get out of it. The Rough Subbe sums it up as, "It's fun to be horny!" We are not heavily into chastity, and we treat it as more of a game than part of a serious D/s dynamic. 

Then we segue into a discussion about cuckolding and how it often overlaps with chastity. We talk about fantasy vs. reality, whether cuckolding is really ONLY a "male" fantasy or not, and the complicated relationship cuckolding porn often has with race play and our feelings about that.

In Episode 8 of The Gentle Dommecast The Rough Subbe and I talk all about Fetlife! 

We discuss what Fetlife is, who might want to use it and why--or why not. We also talk about what we love and hate about Fetlife.

On our list, we met through Fetlife. So, that's a major positive! 

On the negative side, hot eighteen year old girls on K&P who belong to "Daddy." 

Okay. The Rough Subbe probably doesn't find that quite as tedious as I do. 

Overall, this was a pretty silly episode, and I went off on some tangents, including berating The Rough Subbe for tea drinking and accidentally implying that I'm old. I also used the word "woke," without irony, further cementing that I am old. 

In this episode we discuss ruined orgasms and hard (and soft) limits!

We discuss what a ruined orgasm is, how one might theoretically make one happen, why they can be fun, and what we both like about them. The Rough Subbe also gets a little squeamish, which makes me laugh because I enjoy that sort of thing. I also boast about my record, although it's possible I'm just a legend in my own mind. 

Then we discuss the concept of limits, hard and soft, including our own limits. And I get a little judgey about people who always call out "scat" as a hard limit on their Fetlife profiles because I can just be a judgey bitch sometimes. 

Enjoy! 

We think it's Episode 6 of the podcast! We are correct.

In this episode we went off track a little and discussed some things that were just on our minds. Okay. They were on my mind. The Rough Subbe just went along with me because I told him we had to do a podcast.

First, we talk about this book I can't get out of my head called The Fortress, by S.A. Jones, and we discuss the femdom  fantasies it inspired in me.

Second, we talk about Dan Savage's HUMP film festival, which is live streaming until March 6th. We saw it right after we recorded the podcast. We talk about what HUMP is and the experience of seeing it live. Hopefully, we will again next year!

It's Episode 5 of The Gentle Dommecast! This week The Rough Subbe and I are talking about money and men! 

First, we discuss the role of money in a kinky relationship. Should submissive guys expect to pay tributes to possible dominants? We also talk about clarifying exactly what you're looking for if you're a man searching for a "Mistress," and how that plays into the role of money within that search. 

We bring up findom, and I come to no particular decision about it except that I think I'm bad at it. We also touch on emotional labor and sex work in a pandemic economy.

Then we move on to talking about submissive men and masculinity. Does being a submissive man make you less "masculine?" What about desires for emasculation in kink? And how do societal expectations about what is "masculine" and "feminine" play into these questions and anxieties?

It's Episode 4 of The Gentle Dommecast! And this week The Rough Subbe and I are talking about older women/younger men dynamics and how those might or might not relate to femdom. (In our case, they kind of do.) We talk about what's hot and fun about age gap relationships, as well as some of the difficulties involved in them. And we also bring up fetishizing age. Hint. I don't like it.

Then we discuss honorifics, including the role they have in our relationship, what names The Rough Subbe likes to use for me and some of the pet names I use for him. We also talk about names we dislike for various reasons. (It took me a little while to come around to Ma'am.)

I think the sound was a little off this week, so I'm sorry if parts are a bit hard to hear. I'm going to be more careful about that from now on. 

Episode 3 of The Gentle Dommecast is up! I jokingly referred to it as the "tea-cast," since I'm still recovering from sore throat. So, if you hear my sipping, it's my tea with honey. 

This week The Rough Subbe and I take on porn and switching. We talk about what kinds of porn we like and don't like, the role of femdom porn in both exposing people to new ideas and perhaps confusing them between reality and fantasy, and exactly how we define porn. 

Then we discuss switching, including whether we consider ourselves switches, and we end up getting into a discussion about the role of labels in kink and if your preferences change over time. 

I hope you enjoy, and if there's a topic you really want to hear us discuss, let me know!

In this second episode The Gentle Domme and The Rough Subbe talk about feminization, with a question mark. What is feminization? What falls under this category of kink, and what do we like about it and have questions about. We reminisce about a hot cheerleader scene we did, and The Gentle Domme reflects on whether she's just bitter she wasn't a cheerleader. We also discuss the public Scene, including why you might want to get involved in it, or not. 

In this first episode The Gentle Domme and The Rough Subbe discuss starting a podcast, what they like and dislike and orgasm control and denial, and talk about the role of pain play in femdom. The Gentle Domme also uses the word "like" way too much and The Rough Subbe hogs the spotlight and casts from the poddom.