The Good In Today

We're all familiar with the "Golden Rule," treat others how you want to be treated. But do we treat ourselves like that? Do you treat yourself the way you wish others would treat you or the way you wish others would treat someone you love?

Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves. On this episode, I'm talking about a lesson I learned from my wife on how to talk to yourself in a way that actually builds you up!

How would you talk to a loved one if they were struggling? What would you say to your daughter if she was telling herself she didn't like the way she looked? What would you say to your best friend if they told you they sucked at literally everything?

More than likely, you'd make sure they knew that those things weren't actually true. You'd remind them where they are in their journey and to keep going.

It's easy for most of us to see the "awesome" in other people. This week, I challenge you to look for it in yourself!

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I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nicole Myden, the founder of The PR Concierge! Nicole is an entrepreneur who built her "perfect life" in LA over a 10-year career in PR only to have it fall apart after a 6-month marriage at 35. Today we're talking about why you need to stop worrying about everything you "should have" accomplished by this point in your life and start focusing on what you can do today!

Episode Notes:

- Who is Nicole Myden? - What brought her to Phoenix? - How has she rebuilt since her divorce? - Should you always be a positive person? - Why do people stay in abusive relationships? - What's the best investment you can make in yourself? - What is self-worth? - How do you set healthy boundaries? - How do you define meditation? - How do you overcome feeling like things are woo-woo? - How do we get rid of the stigma of therapy? - How do you take ownership of your own problems? - Should divorces be taboo? - How did Nicole's father passing change her outlook on life? - How does Nicole start her day on the right foot? - Should you set long term goals? - How do you move through life without attachment to an outcome? - "Wouldn't it be cool if…" - Learning to keep promises to yourself!

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to "like" and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation!

Connect with Nicole Myden on Instagram on Instagram: @NicoleMyden

https://www.instagram.com/nicolemyden/

Get PR help from Nicole:

https://theprconcierge.com/

Instagram: @ThePRConcierge

https://www.instagram.com/theprconcierge/

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Today I'm diving into how to change the story you tell yourself and why that's so important. I brought on Mitchell Hancock; a husband, father, entrepreneur, and all around good guy. Mitch has not only lived a lot of the experiences that we talk about but he also helps coach people through their problems with the companies that he's a part of.

We dove into:

1:57 - Who is Mitchell Hancock? 2:45 - When did he first realize that he had depressive habits? 4:54 - What are habits to avoid that brought on negative feelings? 7:10 - What I learned from attending an event for the American Foundation For Suicide Prevention 9:05 - When did Mitch learn about personal development and coaching? 10:05 - What happens when you identify as a "depressed" person? 12:19 - Do you believe in affirmations? 14:00 - Can affirmations help you rewire your brain? 15:00 - What questions do you ask yourself daily? Are they quality questions? 18:00 - How much did faith and spirituality play a role in Mitch's turn around? 22:48 - When should you tell your partner about your hard times in your past? Or should you? 25:30 - Why there's power in helping others when you're at your lowest points! 27:11 - Why people who have been through hard things are uniquely qualified to help other people through the same situations 29:27 - What drove Mitch to a career change? 31:13 - How do you communicate your goals with your spouse? 35:05 - Are in person events necessary for personal growth? 37:24 - What can people expect if they attend, "Master Your Power Within?" 39:44 - How to integrate new skills and habits 44:10 - What is the difference between a ritual and a habit? 46:26 - What happens when you change the story that you tell yourself?

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to "like" and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation!

Make sure to follow Mitchell Hancock on social: Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=mitchell%20hancock&epa=SEARCH_BOX

Instagram: @mitchhancock

https://www.instagram.com/mitchhancock/

Mentioned in this episode:

Companies Mitch Works For:

https://www.masteryourpowerwithin.com/

https://healthsyncglobal.com/

"The Ultimate Sales Machine" - Chet Holmes

https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Sales-Machine-Turbocharge-Relentless/dp/1591842158/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+ultimate+sales+machine&qid=1555196874&s=gateway&sr=8-1

Mitch's Questions that He Asks himself:

http://healthsyncglobal.com/zona/

Mitch's Daily Audio Questions:

http://healthsyncglobal.com/greatness2/?fbclid=IwAR2-0CSZJpCW1BOY97qUyxFHxxKEHP2Ush082t23Qq0qj4v1g2RrIbaMQ9M

Today I'm talking about why I believe we'd all be better off if we would acknowledge that we aren't in control. There are things that we can control but we never know what life is going to throw at us.

I go into what life was like when I got laid off and the lessons that it taught me:

- We are capable of more than we think if we don't fight it and embrace being out of our comfort zones.

- What we tie our identities to can make us or break us.

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I sat down with Ashley Law, the founder of Speak Up Buttercup! Ashley is a public speaker and mental health advocate specializing in encouraging women to have self confidence through learning to love themselves the way they are RIGHT NOW! We dive into her story of competing at the highest level and being an NFL Cheerleader and then having to give it all up to handle her eating disorder that almost took her life.

Here's what we dove into:

1:05 - Who is Ashley Law? 2:51 - What is my goal for The Good In Today Podcast? 5:07 - How did Ashley become the host for the Why Arizona Podcast, Season 2? 6:30 - Why does Ashley talk about hard things publicly? 10:06 - My background (Danny Hoefelmann) dealing with suicidal thoughts 11:04 - How a Facebook live changed my outlook and showed me that I can impact people. 12:25 - What happens when you're open about your trials? 14:50 - How did I get out of my biggest depression funk? 16:30 - Why do we block out a lot of the moments of our hardest trials? 19:01 - How writing a book has helped Ashley see parts of her past in a new perspective. 21:40 - What causes eating disorders? 22:54 - How to identify an eating disorder? 26:05 - Having the "it could be worse" mentality 27:35 - Are you an optimist or a realist? How do you know? 31:32 - Why do people compete for who has the hardest life? 33:23 - How do you share hard things and not sound like you're asking for sympathy? 34:49 - How do you keep yourself from becoming known for your problems? 36:57 - When should you tell your partner about your trials? 42:00 - How do you find the vocabulary to communicate better with your partner? 42:28 - How do you identify emotions and how to communicate them? 44:36 - How do you tell your partner that you just want them to listen, not solve your problem? 47:00 - Are you ever really "recovered" from an eating disorder? 50:50 - Why I disagree with the 12 Step Programs 53:05 - What are ways to focus on loving yourself? 57:00 - How to reframe thoughts into gratitude. 58:00 - Why you can't make lasting change until you learn to love yourself the way you are, NOW! 58:45 - "You're either growing or you're dying. There ain't no third direction." - Big Tom Callahan 1:00:00 - How Ashley is dealing with infertility and feelings of things being unfair. 1:02:28 - What are daily habits that promote good mental health? 1:03:37 - How do you strengthen your self confidence? 1:05:12 - What does Ashley do daily to learn to have better mental health? 1:07:05 - Why I'm grateful for Ashley Law 1:09:22 - How listening to Nicki Minaj and Cardi B can change your life. ;)

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to "like" and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation!

You can follow along with Ashley on her blog:

https://speakconfident.org/

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https://www.instagram.com/speakupbuttercup_/

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There are a lot of things out there in the world today that claim they'll bring you happiness. Most of them are complete B.S.

Today I want to talk about what happiness even is and how we all try to get it. I have a personal belief that happiness is a skill. There are certain things that we can each do every single day that are proven to increase your level of happiness. Most of them are so simple that a lot of us overlook them. I read a book a few years ago that changed the way I looked at the subject. It is partially what inspired this podcast. That book was "The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor. In it, he talks about some of the different steps that we can each take every day and things that we can easily implement to improve our lives. We can obviously improve on our ability to complete those tasks. Hence, I believe happiness is a skill.

Let me know what your feeling are on the subject and if you have anything to add to the conversation!

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This is "The Good In Today" podcast! My name is Danny Hoefelmann. (Hay-Full-Man)

No matter how bad a person's day is, I believe there is always some good in it. This is my place to highlight positive stories happening in the world today and to talk about taboo conversations that I wish more people were willing to open up about. As someone who has struggled with mental health for most of his life, this is the next step in my journey to help better understand how to overcome my struggles. I'll do this by bringing on guest who can give their expertise and use their own stories to help other people through the process.

I'll talk to you soon!