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In this episode, I am very excited to introduce Sarah Baldwin. We will be discussing emotional trauma and how we can begin to heal it. Someone from The Good Space audience asked if we could have Sarah on and we’re so glad they did. Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and an Embodied Coach. She is also trained in Polyvagal interventions and is on the training team at the Polyvagal Institute. She specializes in somatic trauma healing, somatic attachment work, nervous system regulation and somatic parts, and inner child work.

We talk about…

[4:00] Sarah's story - How healing brought Sarah to her work

[8:47] What is trauma? How can someone know when they experience trauma?

[14:37] How we can teach our bodies to feel safe? Understanding our bodies and recognizing dysregulation

[18:28] Compiling a toolbox of regulating resources

[21:31] What happens when trauma doesn’t get resolved?

[25:59] The difference between trauma and trauma response.

[28:53] Finding the appropriate regulating resources to help your system move for the appropriate situations

[32:47] Getting started with seeking help and learning how to regulate your own nervous system

[35:45] Q&A - Finding sematic experience practitioners, seeking help, and where to seek resources for young people

QUOTES

“Trauma is about how any event overwhelms my system’s capacity to process it.” - Sarah

“You make sense. Every single part of you makes sense and if you make sense, it means you are not broken and if you’re not broken, it means healing is possible. Your system knows how to heal. It just needs to be shown the way and that’s what this work does.” - Sarah

THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I breathe in deeply to expand, pause to take this moment in, then exhale to release.

WRITING PROMPT

What comes to mind when I think of what’s blocking me from living life fully? Do I have a safe space to process or do I need to create one?

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In today’s episode, I want to talk specifically about negative thinking and a way to stop them from consuming your day. It involves a tool that fits within the CBT model and was created by therapist Laura Denke. It helps you manage the overwhelm and retrain the way your brain thinks.

Download this free Negative Thoughts Worksheet for digital and printable versions of the exercise explained in this episode. You can also use a notebook and pen if that’s accessible to you.

This is different from many tools we’ve taught in the past. Negative thoughts happen within. Other people can’t make you stop or start them or hear them unless you choose to share. Negative thoughts are consistently there. They guide the way someone views and acts in the world. Affirmations are great tools that help us think new thoughts. But they often don’t get to the root cause of negative thoughts. Listen to learn more about this tool. I hope it helps!

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Negative Thoughts Worksheet

Episode 14 - How To Better Love Yourself In A Relationship with Laura Denke

Episode 37 - How to Create Affirmations that Really Work

Episode 63 - How to deal with negative people and take your energy back

Episode 65 - One way to process and tolerate emotional pain and painful feelings

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THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I choose thoughts that support and uplift my best self and lovingly question the ones that don’t

THIS WEEK’S WRITING PROMPT

What do I notice about my thinking that’s helpful or harmful? How do I want to change my thinking to increase my abundance and joy?

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Whether you’re a teacher by trade, a parent, or someone who’s in the online space this episode is for you. I am very excited to share my conversation with Dr. Jody Carrington about connection, relationships, and being brave. Dr. Jody was one of our first guests when we launched the show (she was on episode 8) and we talked about how to have more well-being through the relationships and connections we make. She’s a speaker, author, and overall game-changer. She’s the best-selling Canadian author of Kids These Days: A Game Plan For (Re)Connecting With Those We Teach, Lead, & Love. 

She just released Teachers These Days: Stories & Strategies for Connection on August 1, 2021, and it’s been #1 on Amazon in Canada for all books.

We talk about…

[3:08] Jody's work and reconnecting with yourself during COVID

[6:51] Why teachers are the most important people on the planet

[9:21] Acknowledging implicit biases and recognizing privilege

[15:08] How kindness and connection can change lives

[20:28] Being brave for yourself

[26:49] Changing the world by casting a stone and investing in people

[32:54] Using privilege to have hard conversations one-on-one

[37:38] Jody's reading list

 
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QUOTES

“Brave for me is doing something with your whole heart where you can’t predict the outcome.” - Jody Carrington

“I was just being myself isn’t an excuse for disrespectful behavior. It signals a lack of concern for others. Authenticity without empathy is selfish. Authenticity without boundaries is careless.” - Adam Grant

THIS WEEK’S INTENTION 

I embrace the oneness and divine nature of every living being and seize the opportunity to give kindness wherever I go.

WRITING PROMPT

What are a few ways I can be more brave in the smaller moments? What kind of connection do I want to create everywhere I go?

RESOURCES AND LINKS:

Teachers These Days* by Dr. Jody Carrington

Kids These Days* by Dr. Jody Carrington

Option B* by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant

Think Again* by Adam Grant

Learned Hopefulness* by Dan Tomasulo PhD

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Today I want to share a breakthrough I had with processing intense emotional pain when normally I shut down. I hope that if you struggle with tolerating or processing emotional pain or painful feelings that it can give you something to try for yourself and maybe help you, too.

What I'm about to share is the first time I caught myself at the beginning of that emotional spiral and cycle. I lovingly nurtured myself through it and allowed the moment to process and then leave my body. The goal wasn't to stop or resist the emotions. The point this time was to feel everything but guide it through in a healthy, loving, supportive way.

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THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I allow my body to communicate to me through emotions and nurture myself in every situation I experience

THIS WEEK’S WRITING PROMPT

How do I process my emotions? Is it healthy for me? Do I feel inspired to do it differently?

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Today, we’re chatting with Jules Evans about why New Age Spirituality tends to make people vulnerable to conspiracy thinking, which is a topic I discussed previously in episode 59. We discuss why that happens, the shadow side of spirituality, and how to stay grounded while still getting the benefits a spiritual life offers.

Jules is the author of books such as Philosophy For Life And Other Dangerous Situations and The Art of Losing Control: A Philosopher's Search for Ecstatic Experience. He’s also an honorary research fellow at the Centre for the History of the Emotions at Queen Mary, University of London. He researches the history of ideas and how they can help us flourish today. His research has explored everything from the revival of Stoicism in modern life, to the cultural history of ecstatic experiences. 

We talk about…

[2:20] What inspired Jules Evans' work

[4:03] Jules' trauma and how stoicism also helped examine his beliefs

[7:03] Jules' journey through various philosophies and religions

[13:57] What is conspirituality?

[23:23] The deinstitutionalization of spirituality and conspiracy thinking

[28:40] Tendencies of the shadow side of our culture

[32:38] Balancing the Socratic and ecstatic while looking at the flaws of beliefs

[36:09] The power of love and kindness in spirituality

[37:50] The best way to read Jules’ books

[39:36] Jules' thought about spirituality moving forward

QUOTES

“The heart of spirituality and not knowing more than someone else, it’s just being kind. That’s the basics.” - Jules

“Usually, we are unconscious and unaware of the beliefs and the opinions we hold and that’s why we get stuck in prisons so we can use all kinds of methods to examine our beliefs.” - Jules  

THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I radiate with kindness no matter where I am or who I’m with. The energy around me rises with my presence.

WRITING PROMPT

What kind of person do you want to be ten or twenty years from now? In what ways do you see yourself serving your family or community? No pressure here. Even raising your energy and being a comforting presence in your everyday life can change other’s lives.

 
RESOURCES AND LINKS:

Check out Jules Evans course on The History of Ideas
Book: Philosophy For Life And Other Dangerous Situations* by Jules Evans
Book: The Art of Losing Control: A Philosopher's Search for Ecstatic Experience* by Jules Evans
Learn more about Jules’ work at philosophyforlife.org

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We all know what it’s like dealing with negativity and toxic energy from others. It can feel icky and bring your own energy down. If you’re struggling with some version of this in your life then this episode is for you. We’ll talk about how you can feel lighter and handle the negative energy others may expect you to carry or you expect yourself to carry. That way, you can have more space for your creative endeavors, for your family, or for anything you’ve been wanting to give time to. I promise this will make a difference.

RESOURCES AND LINKS:

Episode 27: How to Create a Personal Energy Shield for Protection

Episode 45. 6 Ways to overcome resistance and raise your energetic vibration

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THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I expand the amount of space I give to my health, wealth, and relationships every day in a positive and loving way.

THIS WEEK’S WRITING PROMPT

What negativity do I feel my spirit trying to release? What positive possibilities for my life feel good when I think about them?

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If you’ve ever felt the pressure to succeed in the corporate world, as a parent, and struggle with self-neglect then this episode is for you. Katie McDonald, the founder of b.nourished, found early success as a high-performance corporate executive, followed by the intense responsibilities of motherhood, chronic self-neglect led Katie to the depths of overwhelm, depression, and illness. 

Viewing self-care as a key to success rather than an obstacle, Katie has curated the proven practices of b.nourished through decades of self-study, speaking, and concierge coaching engagements. Katie and b.nourished are a testament to how, with intentionality and mindfulness, peace-of-mind and productivity can actually go hand in hand. Featured in Huffington Post, Dwell, and more, Katie includes Brown University Center for Entrepreneurship, Eileen Fisher, Facebook among many others as her clients.


We talk about…

[2:16] Katie's story - Productivity vs. Self-care

[6:12] How having over a cup of tea alone will help repair your relationship with yourself

[9:49] Giving yourself permission to slow down and to make time to practice self-care

[13:21] How to create space in our mind finding habits in feeling overwhelmed

[17:08] Why we are suffering from too-muchness

[22:47] Comparing ourselves to our previous selves instead of others

[24:58] Eliminate guilt for nourishing ourselves

[29:37] The truth about loving ourselves

[32:48] Replacing judgment with curiosity in yourself

[35:18] Reactivity is an indulgent habit

[36:57] Katie's book recommendations


QUOTES

“Parent yourself through the overwhelm and say it’s okay, I’ve got this and I’m going to choose what requires and demands my attention, what I give my attention to…” - Katie

“Choose consistency over perfection.” - Katie

“We are human beings and this body needs maintenance.” - Katie


THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I love myself fully and allow that love to expand to everyone around me.


WRITING PROMPT

How might I be neglecting my mental and physical wellbeing? What ways can I nourish myself this week?


RESOURCES AND LINKS:

The Gap and The Gain* by Dan Sullivan

Deep Work* by Cal Newport

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This episode is meant to be a soothing reminder of how powerful your thoughts are. For getting in vibrational alignment and manifesting your desires. Anytime you’re feeling discouraged or misaligned energetically play this episode to get you back into a better flow. Most of what I’m sharing today will be quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer's speeches and Joe Dispenza’s book, Becoming Supernatural.

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THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I expand my understanding of the present and allow abundant space for new experiences and emotions.

THIS WEEK’S WRITING PROMPT

Make a list of what you think about when you first wake up or throughout the day. Are they mostly familiar emotions and experiences? How can you make space for the unknown?

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Today, we’re excited to welcome Deirdre Fay, author of Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World. Deirdre's message resonates deeply with those who may look successful on the surface, but internally they may be plagued with shame, anxiety, distress, depression, wondering why they’re stuck in these repeating patterns.

With decades of experience as a psychotherapist and educator, Deirdre brings together modern neurobiology and ancient wisdom into a practice of what she calls “becoming safely embodied.” Experts in the field have described her practical methods as a “radically positive approach to healing trauma” and a way for people to “get better faster.”

We talk about…

[2:26] - Deirdre's story and the start of her practice

[6:45] - What is trauma?

[11:08] - Creating an internal experience of safety and nurturance

[14:17] - What is the transformational model?

[18:06] - Steps you can take to start trusting yourself

[23:32] - How to feel the better energy you want to step into

[28:21] - Why shame is an attachment wound and how to transform it

QUOTES

“Life is meant to disrupt and transform us… life is meant to trigger us so we can become who we are meant to be.” - Deirdre

THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I am safe within myself and express myself radiantly everywhere I go.

WRITING PROMPT

What are two things I can do this week to show love to myself? To feel nurtured and healed of any shame I may be feeling?

RESOURCES AND LINKS:

Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World* by Deirdre Fay

Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery: Simple, Safe, and Effective Practices for Therapy* by Deirdre Fay

Learn more about Deirdre’s work on dfay.com

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The term, conspirituality, entered my radar from a Los Angeles Times article about California’s yoga and wellness community having a QAnon problem which tripped my insatiable curiosity wire. Why would a community that represents connection, love, and acceptance adopt an ideology opposite to that? What’s the human behavior aspect behind that? 

I want to talk about conspirituality as a foundational whole, not about specific ideologies that grow from it per se, and am sharing what I found. Most of this episode will dive into the human behavior aspect and at the end, I’ll share some action ideas. As a disclaimer: This article isn’t here to place shame or cause division.

RESOURCES AND LINKS:

Article in the Journal of Contemporary Religion by Charlotte Ward and David Voas

2015 article written by Egil Apsrem and Asbjorn Dyrendal

Three rules of conspiracism by Cult dynamics researcher and co-host of the Conspirituality podcast, Matthew Remski

Julie Evans suggests four questions to ask yourself when faced with new information

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THIS WEEK’S INTENTION

I stay positively planted in the present and embrace both the socratic and ecstatic part of my being.

THIS WEEK’S WRITING PROMPT

What ideologies or practices have I felt uncomfortable with? After hearing more about conspirituality is it that I’m afraid? Or they truly don’t feel right?

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