In a culture that doesn’t understand grief, how do survivors of intimate partner death loss navigate their sexuality? Counselor and author Megan Devine offers help with libido, relationships and shame.

1:00 she was a counselor before her husband died

3:00 reflecting on the “before” life

7:00 death can feel like different rooms in hell 

9:00 people are afraid of death and sexuality

12:00 the blaming suicide survivors or victims

13:00 elle’s advice for suicide grief survivors

17:00 craving their body that no longer exists

22:00 anchoring, comforting, sex can help

26:00 what is normal?

29:00 what is working for my healing? what is more dangerous?

35:00 any kind of pleasure during grief can create guilt

40:00 personal agency is important

43:00 pleasure doesn’t cancel out pain

47:00 skin to skin contact is soothing

52:00 loving again feels scary

55:00 a new podcast about grief - for helpers!

1:00:00 when the connection urge still exists:

1:05:00 resources and recommendations 

1:08:00 sex after death advice means having curiosity 

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