Your values are an intrinsic part of who you are and what makes you YOU. But with all comes bad... unfortunately they can also be one of the main sources of your head trash.

If you listened to last week's podcast, you'll have heard me talk you through the Head Trash Cycle, which is my way of explaining where head trash comes from. Well, one of the main sources of head trash is your values.

Now your values can contribute to your head trash in one of three ways;

During the show I share with you

I also talk about an exercise that I'm happy to share to help you sort all this out.

Enjoy!

The head trash cycle will help you to understand where head trash comes from. And if you have a better understanding as to where it comes from then you will have a much better chance of regaining control over it and showing it the door.

The thing about head trash is that we're too often told as to WHY we have it.. it's our parents, our early life as kids, it's the way that teachers treated us at school.... blah blah blah. But understanding WHY it's there doesn't help anyone and doesn't actually help you to get rid of it. Unless you're one of those people who likes to go over old ground and wallow in your own swamp of negativity. But I'm not one of those. If I get caught within whiffing distance of a swamp of negativity I prefer to get rid of the swamp than to make it my home.

So I abandoned ideas of trying to figure out the WHY and instead I thought about it from a different perspective. A perspective that I hope will help you to get to grips with it in a helpful head-sorting way (as opposed to a swamp-wallowing way).

I decided to give this new perspective a name, the head trash cycle, and then one thing led to another and next thing you know it took on a life of its own. I started sharing the head trash cycle on my training courses and people would come up to me afterwards saying how much it helped them. So, I thought it was time to share it!

This episode is me sharing the head trash cycle so that you can really start to tackle your head trash in a meaningful way. By that I mean GET RID OF IT!

Enjoy!

Doesn't that sound a bit scary? Well, not really. We all have a bad side, but the thing is many of us do what we can to keep it suppressed. But the problem with this approach is  that you can't keep something like an inner monster hidden forever. Eventually it will come out. And when it does, we'll have very little control as to how its released. Whereas if we unleash it ourselves, we're more likely to be in control of it. It's like having a wild dog that you decide to tame. You can still use it to guard the house, but instead of biting everyone who visits, it only bites the burglars. Nice doggy!

Deciding to unleash your monster first requires you to recognise that you have one though, and this is an important first step; the one of self awareness.

I really wanted to better understand the science bhind out emotions so I was thrilled to get the opportunity to speak with neuroscientist, Dr Lynda Shaw.

Fears and phobias hold us back massively..

Neutrality is not a term that is frequently used. In fact I had never really heard it before I learned Reflective Repatterning with Chris Milbank. But the more I do head trash clearance work, the more I realise its importance, but especially how for others to ACTUALLY understand it. I have to be honest, it’s taken me a while to get my head fully round it but I think I’ve cracked it. So, not one for keeping things to myself, I’d like to share where I’ve got to with it. spent a bit of time talking about it at a workshop I gave this week and loads of people came up to me at the end saying how that bit really helped them.. so you have them to thank!

I firmly believe that neutrality is WHY mindfulness works in its ability to give space in the moment to behave mindfully, as opposed to reverting to our knee-jerk reactions that may well be old or family patterns.

During this podcast you will hear

Neutrality is not a term that is frequently used. In fact I had never really heard it before I learned Reflective Repatterning with Chris Milbank. But the more I do head trash clearance work, the more I realise its importance, but especially how for others to ACTUALLY understand it. I have to be honest, it’s taken me a while to get my head fully round it but I think I’ve cracked it. So, not one for keeping things to myself, I’d like to share where I’ve got to with it. spent a bit of time talking about it at a workshop I gave this week and loads of people came up to me at the end saying how that bit really helped them.. so you have them to thank!

I firmly believe that neutrality is WHY mindfulness works in its ability to give space in the moment to behave mindfully, as opposed to reverting to our knee-jerk reactions that may well be old or family patterns.

During this podcast you will hear

Neutrality is not a term that is frequently used. In fact I had never really heard it before I learned Reflective Repatterning with Chris Milbank. But the more I do head trash clearance work, the more I realise its importance, but especially how for others to ACTUALLY understand it. I have to be honest, it’s taken me a while to get my head fully round it but I think I’ve cracked it. So, not one for keeping things to myself, I’d like to share where I’ve got to with it. spent a bit of time talking about it at a workshop I gave this week and loads of people came up to me at the end saying how that bit really helped them.. so you have them to thank!

I firmly believe that neutrality is WHY mindfulness works in its ability to give space in the moment to behave mindfully, as opposed to reverting to our knee-jerk reactions that may well be old or family patterns.

During this podcast you will hear

Neutrality is not a term that is frequently used. In fact I had never really heard it before I learned Reflective Repatterning with Chris Milbank. But the more I do head trash clearance work, the more I realise its importance, but especially how for others to ACTUALLY understand it. I have to be honest, it’s taken me a while to get my head fully round it but I think I’ve cracked it. So, not one for keeping things to myself, I’d like to share where I’ve got to with it. spent a bit of time talking about it at a workshop I gave this week and loads of people came up to me at the end saying how that bit really helped them.. so you have them to thank!

I firmly believe that neutrality is WHY mindfulness works in its ability to give space in the moment to behave mindfully, as opposed to reverting to our knee-jerk reactions that may well be old or family patterns.

During this podcast you will hear

Neutrality is not a term that is frequently used. In fact I had never really heard it before I learned Reflective Repatterning with Chris Milbank. But the more I do head trash clearance work, the more I realise its importance, but especially how for others to ACTUALLY understand it. I have to be honest, it’s taken me a while to get my head fully round it but I think I’ve cracked it. So, not one for keeping things to myself, I’d like to share where I’ve got to with it. spent a bit of time talking about it at a workshop I gave this week and loads of people came up to me at the end saying how that bit really helped them.. so you have them to thank!

I firmly believe that neutrality is WHY mindfulness works in its ability to give space in the moment to behave mindfully, as opposed to reverting to our knee-jerk reactions that may well be old or family patterns.

During this podcast you will hear

Did you know that the number one fear is the fear of public speaking? Isn't that completely bonkers?!  Especally as you can't die from it. So, what's going on here exactly? And how can we get rid of it? Well, as you'll know if youve been following our podcasts, to be able to get rid of something you need to know what needs removing and that why I want to unpick it for you. Once you have that awareness, you're better able to start moving on from it and eliminating it from your life.

To help me do that, I'm thrilled to have the chance to chat to Nigel Risner. Nigel is an author and professional speaker who also coaches other people on becoming better speakers, which undoubtedly means that he helps them over their fears.