Every time you say, "yes" to something you are saying, "no" to other things.

I'm not sure who first wrote this, but it's entirely true.
There is certainly an art to saying NO. But there is some room to say YES in our lives.

Here's a list of things I'm saying YES to, as well as a few things I'm saying NO to.

I hope it helps you to evaluate the YES's and NO's in your own life.

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Today I bring you an inspiring interview with my new friend, Ian Walker.

Like many of us Ian grew up in a time when the ADHD diagnosis wasn't as common. He experienced the bullying, academic struggles, and low self-confidence that so many of us do. But Ian developed his own, "medicine" for ADHD that he now shares with the world.

Listen in as we discuss:
- The role of faith in treating his ADHD
- You can't screw up when it comes to worship
- Developing an inner sense of security through music
- How music became the best medicine for ADHD and managing emotions
- the divine inspiration for writing his book, and the writing process

 Ian has big plans to carry his message of Music Therapy for ADHD to everyone.

His podcast The Arts Report will be available soon!

Music for the ADHD Brain on Facebook
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I don't cook. I don't get any satisfaction out of prepping ingredients and making meals.

But**  I do meal plan. I feed my family every week, even when I don't want to. And I was asked to speak on the topic again at this year's International Conference on ADHD. 

With that in mind I made this updated episode. You will hear me discuss:

• why I don't believe in shopping every day
• how to stock your family staples
• planning dinners first
• limiting options for breakfast/lunches/snacks
• setting boundaries with your family around meal planning

Also, this year's ADHD conference is all online. Online = less expensive. You should go!

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So this is really a rant about my experience so far with hybrid education.

As a former teacher I don't blame the teachers at all.

But as an ADHD mom trying to run a business and manage my life day-to-day, I'm really struggling. I had a schedule in place to keep me productive, and now that schedule has been blown up.

It feels impossible to schedule podcast guests and write articles after 6 hours of fighting and crying our way through school work. We get it done, but it's not pretty.

If you are a parent who is also struggling through this new era of education, I stand with you.

Send me your homeschool rant at [email protected]

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As much as I love talking to doctors and researchers, I've never looked at ADHD from a purely clinical perspective. I've always looked at ADHD as a lifestyle factor. One small piece of a much larger puzzle.

Health isn't just about looking a certain way, and it isn't just about the absence of disease.
Health is about taking care of your body, taking care of your mind, and forming meaningful relationships.

Humans are infinitely complex. I like to think about ADHD from a WHOLE person perspective. It allows us to see past the symptoms and the labels and move away from the, "fix it" mentality.


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***REPOST***

Allison Arkfeld, MA AMFT, is a Somatic Psychotherapist working out of Long Beach, CA.

There is growing evidence that a multi-modal approach to treating ADHD that includes body work, meditation, medications, traditional therapy, and coaching – holds great benefit.

In this thought-provoking episode you will learn about:

• Empowerment within the body
• Using body sensations to self-regulate
• Multi-modal support for ADHD
• Real-life applications for polyvagal theory
• The difficulty in treating PTSD with an ADHD mind
• The healing power of human connection
• Defining trauma (it’s not what you think!)
• Corrective experiences that heal
• How ADHD and PTSD affect social interactions/interpersonal relationships

This is episode will open yours eyes to the connection between your ADHD mind and your body.

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Dr. Ramsay continues to drop unbelievably relevant information in this second episode.

This time we discuss in much more specific terms:

• The role of Automatic Negative Thoughts in Procrastination
• Ways to question your negative thoughts
• Managing discomfort as the main emotional task in ADHD
• How perfectionism shows up in ADHD
• Anxiety as a short-acting stimulant
• Defining Procrastivity and why we do it
• Task initiation, techniques for getting started
• Moving through discomfort so you can get things done

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I finally did it!

I worked up my nerve and asked Dr. Russell Ramsay to talk to me about his new book, Rethinking Adult ADHD - Helping Clients Turn Intentions Into Action.

What started out as a conversation about task initiation and getting things done - turned into soooo much more. 

In part one, you will hear us discuss:

• What makes ADHD a little different from other mental health diagnoses
• The truth about, "working twice as hard for half as much"
• How and why self-distrust and self-mistrust develop
• Dr. Ramsay's thoughts on why anxiety is so prevalent with ADHD
• The role of self-regulatory efficacy in our ability to work toward goals
• The main cognitive themes of ADHD + why he wrote the book
• Automatic thoughts, positive/negative distorted thoughts leading to avoidance 
• Can you choose your thoughts? 
• The "ugh" of getting started
• Externalizing motivation 

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I am beyond sick of trying to be a good girl. 
I'm also pretty sick of women with ADHD thinking they are less-than. 

Maybe you aren’t like other women, but you are not less-than. You are not BAD.
 
You can acknowledge your strengths and your struggles at the same time.

You and I are changing the narrative of our lives.

• Setting our own expectations
• Saying what we think
• Asking for what we want
• Managing emotions
• Applying our own rules
• Forming our own beliefs
• Telling our stories

It costs nothing to be REAL.

All it takes is a willingness to stop trying so hard to be GOOD.

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Today Rick Webster returns with a topic that I had NEVER thought to talk about before. 

Some of the more maladaptive coping skills that we with ADHD might adopt in an attempt to move through the world. 

On the surface many of these things seem to work. But long-term, most of the strategies aren't very good for us. 

Some*** day there will be a full length article on this. I swear. 

Listen as we talk about:

• Oppositional behavior (temper tantrums aren't cute anymore)
• Black/white thinking
• Planned procrastination to force performance
• Perfectionism
• Negative types of self-soothing

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