The Indigo Diaries

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

This week Tasha strips back to the basics of things we all require in our daily lives: Needs, wants, and Motivations. She starts by discussing the importance of meeting our needs to enable our wants, which is very much missed in the ADHD community. She also mentions different types of motivation, including the contrasts it displays within needs and wants.

In the second part, the tone shifts to the things we also have and do not want TOLERATIONS! The things we put up, the irritations and the things that drain our energy. She explores ways to eliminate them so we can unlock our lives to the full potential.

We hope you like the episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss our values and beliefs.

Remember, the climb is not the tiring thing it’s the annoying irritations along the way! Take back the power by creating a Toleration Free Zone!

Why not?

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

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References mentioned in todays episode:

Malsow’s Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

Make your own template: https://yourfreetemplates.com/maslows-hierarchy-needs-template/

Toleration Free Zone: https://janeweddle.com/toleration-free-zone-shift-zone-blog-by-jane-weddle-coaching/

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling as she interviews the first guest of 2021, Miriam Gordon, in the twelfth diary entry of the series.

Miriam Levy Gordon was born in 1963 to highly traumatized parents. Because they were narcissists, they couldn’t allow Miriam to develop at all. She grew up in a small apartment in Fort Lee, New Jersey, USA as a shadow of herself, in pure survival mode, completely out of touch with her soul. While in high school she began having bloody screaming fits in which she cried, tore her hair out, and banged her head against the wall. She knew something fundamental about her life was very wrong, but had no idea what. When she was 17 she began to threaten to kill herself, which motivated her parents to send her to therapy. Forty years later, she continues to be in therapy. She’s accomplished a lot despite this, including a Ph.D. in Developmental and Molecular Biology from the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in the Bronx, New York, USA (2001). Miraculously, she has been married for almost 22 years to a man who also grew up in a highly abusive household. Miriam and Steven met in graduate school. Despite their highly toxic, co-dependent relationship, they endured many difficult years together, but they also grew together. Miriam is 9 years older than Steven, proving that age is just a number. For many years, Miriam thought she would never get married, even though she always maintained a tiny kernel of hope inside. She finally married Steven when she was 36 years old. The couple were able to go on some very nice vacations together which tremendously helped to improve the quality of their relationship.

Miriam received a diagnosis of inattentive ADHD when she was 49 years old. Getting the diagnosis was a relief in that it explained in retrospect a lot of the difficulty she had in life. She currently lives with Steven and their adorable white poodle (Miriam’s first dog ever), Snowy, in a single-family home (Miriam and Steven’s first house that they own) in West Hempstead, New York, USA, on the south shore of Long Island. Miriam is unable to work in any sort of neurotypical environment, so she continues her life’s work in therapy and to research and write about everything she’s learned about her life experiences in her journal, which she hopes to develop into published writing at some point. Her ultimate goal is to be able to share her life experiences with others who are or have been experiencing the great misfortunes that she has, in the hopes of helping them learn about themselves, assuring them that they are not alone, and that there is help and hope along the long, arduous journey out of the abyss.

We hope you enjoy this truly inspiring episode and it creates awareness for so many listeners!

Have a great week ahead!

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

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Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

This week Tasha dives into the actual reason why she is here ADHD Life Coaching. She discusses the basics of what it is, the difference between coaching and therapy and how it can benefit individuals with ADHD. She also discovers the path towards her journey to beginning the course.

In the second part, she explores different change processes that we all go through when challenged with enjoyable change and personal growth, especially in the coaching experience. She touches upon other models that can be used for evoking self-awareness.

We hope you like the episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss our own needs, wants and tolerations in our life.

Remember, change is scary, but we could miss living our lives to our true potential. Take your power this week!

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

Email: [email protected]

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614)

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References mentioned in todays episode:

Stages of Change:  https://tnchildren.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Stages-of-Change.pdf

Conscious Competence Ladder: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newISS_96.htm

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

There is so much more to ADHD than we could ever even imagine. Tasha was overwhelmed when the neuroscience terminology and understanding began, but she soon realized how much validation and wisdom comes from knowledge. She discusses the ADHD brain's differences through the ages with neuroplasticity and the actual scientifical understanding of how ADHD brains function, the chemistry, and its structure in her own unique brian wiring way. (Apologies if any terminology is missed pronounced!)

In the second part, she highlights the importance of multi-model treatment with ADHD and shares her own experience with medication, coaching and complementary approaches.

We hope you like the episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss what ADHD Life Coaching actually is and the change process people go through.

Remember, we wouldn't see without knowledge, but without action, we wouldn't move forward. Take control of your unique self and do what's right for you.

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

Email: [email protected]

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614)

Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)

References mentioned in today's episode:

Psychosocial Treatments for ADHD:  Psychosocial-Treatments-for-Children-with-ADHD.pdf (chadd.org))

Information on Medication: Managing Medication - CHADD

Integrative Strategies for ADHD Adults by Ari Tuckman: Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD: A Practical, Easy-To-Use Guide for Clinicians: Tuckman, Ari: 9781572245211: Amazon.com: Books

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

There are strengths in all of us and every day, even living with ADHD! Join today as Tasha discusses the kinds of qualities we all possess like the different kind of strengths, character and performance, talents, interests, passions and what makes us us! She briefly touches upon some of her own and the importance of looking at your ADHD through the lens of strengths. In the second part of the episode, there is a shift as we dive into the reality of emotionality and how much it impacts individuals with ADHD, despite what the DSM5 states. Including the different emotions she and many others have gone through and the process of grieving for what could have been.

We hope you like the episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss Treatments and ADHD through the life stages.

Have a kick-ass week and remember, wherever you are on your ADHD journey, you are a true warrior with many, many strengths to go with it!

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

Email: [email protected]

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614)

Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)

References mentioned in todays episode:

VIA Character Strengths: https://www.viacharacter.org/

ADHD Feels like Video: https://www.additudemag.com/what-does-adhd-feel-like-to-a-child-video/

5 Stages of Grief: https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief

Series 2: “The World Through a Trainee Coach’s Eyes…’

Episode 5: "The Co-Occurring Composer…” By Natasha Hickling

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

This week, Tasha explores the ADHD Unique Brain Wiring and one of the most important topics out there right now. Executive Functioning! She explores the composer metaphors on how to describe them and Russell Barkley and Thomas Brown models. In the second part, she discusses how common it is for individuals with ADHD to have another coexisting condition. She dives into her own experience of living with ADHD, Dyslexia and Dyspraxia and her new hope in finding out about sensory processing.

We hope you like this next episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss the Emotions and Strengths of ADHD.

Have a great week, and remember to celebrate your uniqueness and the pure beauty that comes from having a neurodiverse brain wiring!

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

Email: [email protected]

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614)

Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)

References mentioned in todays episode:

https://www.additudemag.com/7-executive-function-deficits-linked-to-adhd/

https://www.brownadhdclinic.com/the-brown-model-of-add-adhd

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

As planned, Tasha is back to verbal process with part one about the hard-core statistics of ADHD worldwide. This part is heavy but very eye-opening into seeing how much impact this condition has and how prevalent it is in our everyday lives. The second part is a lot lighter, where she discusses the unique differences of every individual with ADHD, the strengths and looking at it from a positive outlook.

The facts are hard to hear, but sometimes there truly is strength in those numbers!!

We hope you like this next episode, and we hope you join us again next week to discuss Executive Functioning and Co-existing conditions.

Have a great week, and remember, without challenges, we wouldn't be able to see our strengths shine through!

Until next time...The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

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References mentioned in today's episode:

https://adhd-institute.com/burden-of-adhd/epidemiology/age/

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/data.html#:~:text=The%20estimated%20number%20of%20children,children%20aged%206%E2%80%9311%20years

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25733754/

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

After a few weeks break, Tasha is back to Verbal Process more about ADHD. An ADHD Diagnosis is a challenging and gruelling process to go through and it takes a lot of courage to even seek one out. Tasha discusses the actual process of gaining one from Childhood to Adulthood with DSM5. Then touches upon the below the surface level impacts of ADHD such as misdiagnosis, stigma in society and the struggle of living years undiagnosed.

This is such a hard topic to discuss so we hope you come and learn about the realistic truths of the process of a diagnosis.

We hope you like this next episode and we hope you join us again next week where we will discuss the hard facts and ADHD individuals themselves!

Have a great week and remember the process is hard but the outcome an make it all worth in the end.

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

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Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)

Dear Diary,

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.

This week join, as Tasha discusses the basics of ADHD and how the challenges are presented in her own life. She dives into the history of the last 60 years of ADHD and how the term and its meaning have evolved through time. She realises how knowing the past can answer so many questions and leave you with so many more…

She took the plunge, so why not join her?

We hope you like this next episode and we hope you join us again next week!

Have another great week into the year 2021!!

Until next time...

The Indigo Diaries

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below.

Email: [email protected]

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614)

Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)

Dear Diary,    

Welcome to "The Indigo Diaries." 

Join host Natasha Hickling in the new series for the new year as she ventures into the world of ADHD Coaching as a trainee Coach.  

 This week was Tasha's first week officially starting her new coaching course. Discover the raw and honest diary of her managing the overwhelm and pressure of organising a new schedule and the daunting fact the course was officially beginning. Add to that a whole lot of reading, returning to work, and the global pandemic and she had a real mountain to climb! She discusses how she overcame that using her strengths, drive and passion. She will then discuss her 'why' and the term 'ADHD' itself.   She managed the first step, and that is all that matters! Onwards and Upwards!  

We hope you enjoy the first episode of the series and join us again next week.  

Have a great week in the new year and stay safe.  

Until next time... 

The Indigo Diaries  

Ps- If you would like any additional information regarding our support group or are interested in the world hearing your story, please see the links below. 

 Email: [email protected] 

FB: Indigo- ADHD Support Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1523930704424614) 

Instagram: @indigoadhd (https://www.instagram.com/indigoadhd/?hl=en)