The Infinite Potential of Being Human

Why You Keep Choosing the Same Person (With a Different Face) with Nick Onken and Nicky Clinch 

In this episode, Nick and I get into one of the questions I find most confronting and most necessary: why do we keep choosing the same person, just with a different face?

We look honestly and specifically at our own relational histories - tracing the types we kept choosing, the childhood imprints underneath those choices, and what it actually took to begin doing it differently.

If you have ever wondered why the pattern keeps repeating no matter how much work you do, this episode will show you exactly why - and what it looks like when you are genuinely ready to outgrow it.

You’ll Learn:

• Why you keep attracting the same relational dynamic, no matter how different the person seems

• Why the honeymoon phase ending is not the problem - it is the beginning

• The difference between seeing your pattern and actually outgrowing it

• The seven types of intimacy all human beings need - and why compatibility goes far beyond chemistry

• Why genuine safety can feel, at first, like something is missing

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This is the final episode of Season 2. Thank you for being here, for listening, and for bringing this work into your life. 

Season 3 returns in September. I cannot wait to continue this work with you then.

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch: https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/27

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

I’m re-releasing my most downloaded episode this week! Because it feels more important and necessary right now than ever before: What is maturation? 

When you do this work, you’ll find the teachings land in a completely different way, because of where you are now listening from.

Why do we have consistent problems that keep repeating no matter how much we try to change and solve them?

Unless we outgrow the survival identity formed in our early childhood, our life will continue to organise around it. And as long as this stays unconscious, it will continue to rob us of the power to create the life we were meant to live.

In this episode, I’ll share how we as a species can mature into a new way of being and outgrow the blind spots that are colouring our reality.

You’ll Learn:

• Practical strategies for recognising and overcoming blind spots

• How to grow and evolve beyond your childhood survival identity 

• The shift from managing survival to outgrowing it

• How to live your life from higher levels of maturity, consciousness, and potential 

And lot’s more!

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

Take Your First Step Into This Life Changing Work…

Listening to Life:

A 4-Day Intensive Transformative Programme to completely shift beyond the current limitations, repeating problems, and patterns in your life. Discover an entirely new possibility for who you truly are and the life you can live.

• Join our Programme Priority List to get the latest news: https://nickyclinch.lpages.co/listening-to-life-opt-in/ 

• Book Your Call with Our Team: https://calendly.com/d/cw78-zx3-wdt/listening-to-life-discovery-call 

PLUS

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch: https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/27

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week's episode, Nicky is joined by her partner and love Nick Onken for a raw, unscripted conversation recorded just days after returning from a profound seven-day couples Divine Union immersion in Costa Rica.

Nothing was prepared. Nothing was scripted. What you'll hear is two people still integrating one of the most transformative experiences of their lives. The real, tender, and sometimes uncomfortable truth of what it means to do deep work together, and what becomes possible when you do.

This episode picks up where their first conversation left off, going deeper into the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, the wounds we carry into relationships, and what it truly looks like to choose each other at a root level.

You’ll Learn:

• Their profound experience throughout their divine union immersion

• Why the distinction between "I need you to feel complete" and "I cannot reach my highest without you” changes everything 

• The childhood wounds (strict religious control, inherited scarcity, a mother's survival) that were showing up in their relationship, and how they traced them to the root

• How to navigate conflict without drama, process your triggers before bringing them to your partner, and repair without keeping score

And lots more!

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The work we reference in this episode with the facilitator was located ⁠here⁠ if anyone is interested in exploring this option for themselves.

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

Take Your First Step Into This Life Changing Work…

Listening to Life:A 4-Day Intensive Transformative Programme to completely shift beyond the current limitations, repeating problems, and patterns in your life. Discover an entirely new possibility for who you truly are and the life you can live.

• Join our Programme Priority List to get the latest news: 

  https://nickyclinch.lpages.co/listening-to-life-opt-in/

• Book Your Call with Our Team: 

  https://calendly.com/d/wvpz-r6zs/maturation-discovery-call

PLUS

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week’s episode I’m sharing a practical 10-step process to bring consciousness to the blind spot keeping you stuck in repeating patterns and shift this at the root - no matter how much inner work you've done.

Most people think changing their actions will change their results. But the way to true freedom isn't about doing more, it's about shifting who you're being.

This episode takes the teachings from Episode 7 (What Creates Results) and gives you a practical exercise you can use right now to break the paradoxical loops that keep repeating in your life. Whether it's money, relationships, or that familiar sense of unsafety that always returns.

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You’ll Learn:

• Why changing your actions only creates self-improvement, not freedom 

• What actually creates fundamental shifts in your reality

• The invisible blind spot running 100% of human beings

• A practical 10-step process to walk yourself through when you're in a repeating pattern

And lot’s more!

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

Take Your First Step Into This Life Changing Work…

Listening to Life: A 4-Day Intensive Transformative Programme to completely shift beyond the current limitations, repeating problems, and patterns in your life. Discover an entirely new possibility for who you truly are and the life you can live.

• Learn More: http://nickyclinch.com/listening-to-life
• Book Your Call with Our Team: https://calendly.com/d/wvpz-r6zs/maturation-discovery-call

PLUS

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

⁠https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

🎧Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 07 - What Creates Different Results

In this episode, Nicky breaks down what it is that allows us to create different results, exploring the powerful nature of context and how it shapes our perceptions, our reality, and, therefore, our outcomes. 

Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/be/podcast/007-what-creates-different-results/id1712666522?i=1000633047014

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week’s episode I’m diving into a raw and vulnerable inquiry of motherhood, parenting and how we can start bringing maturation into how we parent our children. Not just for mothers or parents, but for your relationship with your own parents. 

This is one of the most challenging topics because it carries so much within all of us. My intention is that in this episode, you can hear yourself and that it will help you not just understand more deeply why you are the way you are, but also if you are a parent, that it might liberate you from trying to ‘do it the perfect way.’ 

We’ll dive into how our identities are formed in childhood, the impact of who parents are being (not what they were doing), and a new, much more mature paradigm for parenting. A paradigm for parenting that breaks generational patterns. Because the greatest gift we can give our children is to mature beyond the root of our own survival, not only shifting us, but shifting how our children experience and perceive themselves. 

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You’ll Learn:

• How parenting is deeply interconnected with our own childhood experiences

• The missing distinction in parenting: Doing vs. Being

• How to parent with maturation 

• The most powerful thing we as parents can do for our children (and it’s not ‘doing better’)

And lot’s more!

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

⁠https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

🎧Other Episodes Mentioned: 

Episode 02 - Shaping of Identity

In this foundational episode, Nicky explores how the body, the mind, and identity work together to shape our lived reality, revealing that who we think we are is largely an entangled survival mechanism.

Listen here

Episode - Healing the Mother Wound

Nicky unpacks the universal impact of the Mother wound and how early relational experience shapes safety, self-worth, and intimacy throughout life. 

Listen here

Episode 081 - Five-Step Maturation Process That Breaks the Survival Loop

Learn a deep inquiry process that brings awareness to the survival mechanisms running your life and shifts you from reactivity and survival to possibility. 

Listen here

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week’s episode of the Infinite Potential of Being Human Podcast I’m sharing my Five-Step Maturation Process that breaks survival loops. So that you can shift from a survival mindset to one of possibility and growth.

We’ll dive into the profound impact of trauma on humanity and the survival mechanisms that drive our behavior as a species. Plus a deep inquiry process to help you navigate your experiences with consciousness and ground in a sense of power and responsibility. 

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You’ll Learn:

• How many of us are trying to make a change in the world

• The ways daily exposure to trauma are re-traumatizing us

• Insight on the survival mechanisms that drive our behavior and create a vicious cycle

• The five-step inquiry process that shifts our relationship with survival.

And lot’s more!

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

⁠https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week’s episode of the Infinite Potential of Being Human Podcast Nicky is joined by Connor Beaton, leading men's work facilitator, speaker, teacher, and coach.

Connor shares his journey with Man Talks, a platform focused on male empowerment and personal development, and the importance of addressing men’s work through a conscious lens in today’s landscape and cultural context.

They dive into the unique circumstances that are shaping the societal experience of men, the impact of fatherlessness, and the complexities of attachment trauma. Creating a space for our collective emotional growth and healing through a lens of our maturation.

This is such an important conversation to be having at this time on our planet, so that we can rise and heal together. If you are wanting to dive deeper into the unique experience of men while exploring our collective similarities, this episode is for you.

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You’ll Learn:

• How men often create their own initiation processes through life collapses

• Insight on the unique circumstances that are shaping the experience of men in today’s society

• The fundamental role of ‘need’ in attachment development

• Strategies for connection, secure attachment, trust, and expressing mutual needs 

And lot’s more!

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Connor Beaton is a leading men’s work facilitator, speaker, teacher, and coach. For over a decade, he has helped men and women around the world navigate their darkness and grow in the realms of self-leadership, relational depth, emotional resilience, and sexual intimacy. After the unspoken rules of traditional masculinity left him homeless and on the edge of suicide, Connor founded ManTalks — a global organization that supports individuals in healing their relationship with masculinity, within themselves, their communities, and their intimate partnerships.

He is the founder of The Alliance, a private community of men committed to high-integrity living and self-mastery, and the creator of several transformational programs, including How to Work With Men, The Shadow Course, The Porn Detox, and the Men’s Self-Leadership Program. These offerings equip men with the tools to confront their inner sabotage, reclaim clarity and power, and lead from a place of depth and discipline.

Connor is also a sought-after international speaker, the host of the top-ranked ManTalks Podcast, and a mentor to men ready to do the deep work of purpose, healing, and transformation. Whether through 1-on-1 coaching or immersive men’s weekends, his mission is clear: to help men face the parts of themselves they’ve avoided and live with grounded clarity, responsibility, and heart.

For more information:

• Discover the Alliance: https://mantalks.com/alliance/

• Check out the Man Talks Podcast:  https://www.youtube.com/ManTalks

• And find him on Instagram: @mantalks

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

⁠https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

— 

Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable – until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

Season 2, Episode 19

The Future of AI in a Conscious World with Natalie McNeil

In this week’s episode of the Infinite Potential of Being Human Podcast Nicky is joined by Natalie McNeil, Emmy Award-winning media entrepreneur and Futurist

Explore the infinite potential of being human in the context of rapid AI technological advancements. 

Natalie shares the transformative power of AI, its implications for humanity, and the need for conscious creation in a world increasingly influenced by technology. So that we can embrace our roles in shaping the future and build our own 'AI dream teams' for a more empowered existence.

Dive in with Nicky from an Ontological and Maturation perspective.

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You’ll Learn: 

• The power and opportunity that exist when we embrace AI with hope and vision

• AI's limitations so that you can integrate it responsibly into your life

• How AI can be used as a tool to expand our evolution as a species 

• The upskills that are essential to thrive in the evolving digital landscape

And lots more!

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Natalie MacNeil 

Natalie MacNeil is an Emmy Award-winning media entrepreneur and Futurist. She is presently devoted to helping heart-led entrepreneurs ethically work with AI through her signature program, AI Dream Team™. Her work has been featured in Forbes, Entrepreneur, TIME, Glamour, and more.

For more information:

Subscribe to receive more from Natalie here

Find her on Instagram: @nataliemacneil 

Join Natalie’s AI Integrated Entrepreneur free event (January 27-29) here

Find out more about the AI Dream Team here

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:  

Transformation always feels uncomfortable – until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week’s episode of the Infinite Potential of Being Human Podcast Nicky is joined by her partner and sacred love Nick Onken. 

They discuss the dynamics of their relationship, exploring themes of love, healing, and the challenges of public perception. 

Diving into deep insights on the importance of authenticity, the balance between masculine and feminine energies, personal growth and the transformative power of love.

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You’ll Learn: 

• How public perception distorts the reality of relationships

• The ways our past relationships influence our current dynamics and healing

• Emotional presence as a crucial element for connection.

• How to hold a partner's heart with sacred privilege

And lots more!

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ ⁠Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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This is just the beginning.

And from this space, everything is possible.

Breaking Generational Patterns by Truth Telling with Amber Rae

In this week’s episode of the Infinite Potential of Being Human Podcast Nicky is joined by Amber Rae, bestselling author, speaker, teacher and creator of ‘The Feelings Journal.’

They dive into Amber's writing journey, the deep personal revelations she encountered, and the impact of her past relationships on her present. 

Exploring themes of self-deception, childhood trauma, love, the complexities of desire and the transformative power of truth-telling. 

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You’ll Learn: 

• Amber’s writing process and the intention behind her memoir 

• How childhood trauma shapes adult relationship choices

• Amber’s journey and themes explored in the book 

• The crucial element of modeling self-love our children

And lots more!

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Amber Rae

Amber Rae is a bestselling author and speaker best known for books LOVEABLE, Choose Wonder Over Worry, and The Answers Are Within You. 

She’s also the creator of The Feelings Journal, a tool that transforms the way you engage with your emotions. Her writing and illustrations reach 9M people per month, and her work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, TODAY, SELF, Fortune, Forbes, and Entrepreneur. 

As a keynote speaker and teacher, Amber has worked with companies such as Kate Spade, Meta, Microsoft, and TED. Amber lives in New York with her husband and son.

For more information:

• Dive into her book: https://www.amberrae.com/loveable

• Find her on Instagram: @heyamberrae

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Ready to Go Deeper? 

✉️ ⁠Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch⁠

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

— 

Connect with Nicky: 

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/ 

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/ 

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation 

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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This is just the beginning. And from this space, everything is possible.