The Inner Strategist

If you find it difficult to switch off from work, you're not able to relax and wind down fully after work, then you are 'on'. And when you're always on, it's bad for you but great for your place and I want to help you stop this. In this episode I explain why certain workplaces think allowing you to think is dangerous. And what are the tell tale signs of this happening to you. As usual I talk about my own experiences and give you tips to help start the process of how to think yourself out of stress. Let me know if this is true for you or if you have a strategy that really helps you not over give, then contact me at make me fearless.com / contact. I would love to hear more.

Have you ever over given and didn't want to? Do your family and friends tell you you're working too hard but you ignore them? People pleasing or being an over giver on the surface seems like you're just a nice person willing to put yourself out for others, but have you noticed what happens when you try and pull back and not give too much? You start to feel guilt. Well guilt is normal for an over giver but have you ever wondered why you can't say no or you won't focus on what you want, why you keep over giving? That's what I discuss in this episode it nearly drove me to burnout- again - and i want to stop you going down the same path with what I reveal in this episode

There is an underlying belief that dictates all of our behaviour the good and the 'bad' and so when it comes to people pleasing you might think you're just being nice, or helpful or kind, but if being nice or kind or helpful is to your detriment, worse other people are using it to get you to give more, then that belief is keeping you trapped into people pleasing. In this episode I talk about how two tiny words got me doing anything others wanted and why I simply couldn't say no.

Do you know why you do what you don't want to do? And you you know how others can always get you to do what they want you to do? Guilt is one of those emotions that makes us all feel bad and most of us will do anything to not feel guilt. In this episode I talk about the sneaky tactics guilt trippers can and will use against you , especially if you're an over giver or people pleaser. Once you know the secrets to their success you can be immune to their tricks. Go to make me fearless.com/contact with any questions .

What's the first thing you do if you're working in a toxic environment? Well it's not to leave! This and other nuggets of wisdom are shared when Dr Nicky Priaulx interviewed me for her Great Untangle show. We talk all thigs boundary setting, whether you should push through fear and my favourite topic, people pleasing and why this is stuck a challenging thing to change. I loved being interviewed I never knew I knew so much and had such views on things. You will get so much out of this episode. So pull up your favourite chair or plug in your trusty headphones and listen as Dr Nicky and I help you untangle your work life. To fid out more about Dr Nicky go here : https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickypriaulx/ To see the video version of this interview go to her youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@thegreatuntangle

If you think that you being a giver, trying to save people from their pain, AKA being a people pleaser at work is kindness - then you're wrong- it's only about fear, the fear of being rejected, not loved, not liked, and any other fear you can think of. So in this episode I make my case for why you need to stop people pleasing with one tiny action and the consequence if you don't. You do not have to keep giving just to be liked, there is another way and this episode shows you how.

Are you secretly waiting for people to change? How's that working out for you. Just like you I thought that if I was going to be happy then other people would need to change their behaviour first. And the longer I lived with that belief the more miserable and frustrated I got. So in this podcast I tell you why you should stop waiting for people to change and how you can still work around them and yet be more empowered.

Why Toxic Bosses, colleagues, and family members love people pleasers and how to break free from it. Have you ever had your giving nature used against you, and you knew they were 'using' you but you couldn't stop it? I have and so in this episode I share what toxic people do to get you to always give and they always take.

As a recovering people pleaser, I've had my fair share of people taking advantage of my giving nature. In this episode I share how I finally being able to say no without any guilt, any thinking around it and without thinking less of myself. All my usual triggers did not fire and I share how and why and what you can do to be like this too.

If you find that you are over giving, and you can't say no at least you feel bad when you do, then you're in a people pleasing cycle. In this episode I share with you how to tell if you are a people pleaser or have people pleasing tendencies, and why you find it difficult to say no and what to do about it. As I share the story of a friend who is a chronic people pleaser and why he is always taken for granted. He does the one thing that all people pleasers do- and you might too. In the end follow my three steps to break the people pleasing cycle.