In the future, your child will be learning to manage their feelings. At this level, though, they will just go with their initial reaction. If something happens that they don’t like or is upsetting, they will naturally act upset.
Here’s a principle of learning that applies to these situation: Whenever we practice a behavior, it gets stronger.
While there is a time and a place for acting upset, we don’t want to cause your child to practice acting upset when it can be avoided. Let’s save that reaction for when it’s really needed.
When possible, we want to avoid your child practicing an overreaction to problems. Helping them see an alternative is a way to help them stop one activity and substituting another activity.
At this stage, we can avoid presenting your child with upsetting events when they aren’t necessary. That way, your child doesn’t build up lots of practice with immediately being upset over any kind of change or surprise.
Today’s activity: When your child is exploring, they may pick up something they’re not suppose to have. Instead of just taking it away, make a trade instead. Make the new item extra interesting as you give it to them. Take away the other item without calling attention to it.
Use these charts as a checklist for your child's progress.
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