The Invincibly Broken Podcast

In today's episode, Orlando and Julian talk about, "Toxic Masculinity," and how it has been brought to center-stage in recent years. They discuss how growing up Hispanic played a major role in how masculinity was viewed, traditionally, and how women were subjugated and made to be inferior. "Men are hunters and women are gatherers," is a very antiquated way to look at gender roles in society but it seems like, even today, there are still many men out there who still subscribe to this way of thinking. 

In this episode, Orlando and Julian also discuss how this behavior and mindset of men always having to be strong, actually, weakens them and can potentially stunt their mental and emotional development. Examples of this way of thought are also discussed such as actor Terry Crews coming out against toxic masculinity after his bout with this same mindset that almost caused him to lose his family. They also talk about equality and Julian, as usual, stirs the pot a bit with his view on equality, which he does agree with by the way! So relax, turn up the volume, and take a little break from the everyday grind and enjoy this episode!

"By far the worst thing we do to makes - by making them feel they have to be hard - is that we leave them with fragile egos"

-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, 

Award-winning author 

Former NFL pro and actor Terry Crews has talked about Toxic Masculinity and comes to terms with his own experience where he almost lost everything important in his life.  HIS FAMILY!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhWZPopmIto

However, in the act of being strong, hard, and not allowing emotions to let emotions show men are, actually, weakened by toxic masculinity and vulnerable to other destructive behaviors that can lead them down a dangerous path.

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/22/us/toxic-masculinity.html

Toxic masculinity is not limited to man vs woman either.  This also includes man vs man… An article in the American Psychological Association’s (APA) talks about how this behavior can bully other men into doing things that they are uncomfortable with doing or would, otherwise, not do normally due to intimidation.

https://www.apa.org/pi/about/newsletter/2016/04/man-up

In today’s episode of the Invincibly Broken Podcast, Orlando and Julian, once again, visit mental health and talk about why it is so hard for many men to, openly, speak about having such issues. There are many reasons, machismo, thinking that asking for help is a sign of weakness, or even simply not knowing that there is a problem. 

The guys also talk about how they, personally, cope with stressors and dive a little deeper into other aspects that could trigger symptoms such as the importance of sleep to the body and mind. Other things that Orlando and Julian emphasize is the importance of not feeling alone! They hope that through this platform, perhaps, others will understand that the are not alone and feel encouraged to seek help!

Sam Harris's Meditation app: 

https://www.wakingup.com/?_ga=2.267416974.1057691046.1593006809-1831593696.1593006809

If you would like to use the app but truly cannot afford it, please request a free account. While he operate a business, he believes that money should never be the reason why someone can't gain access to Waking Up.

You can also check out all of Sam Harris's content on mindfulness where: 

https://samharris.org

Today’s episode is a special one because it has been one where Orlando and Julian expanded their format and had a guest for the very first time on their show.  EJ a friend of the show who is an independent singer, songwriter, and composer joined the boys today to share his experiences in pursuing a career in the music industry.  

EJ also shares about his “plan B” through education and how bringing both endeavors together is a long-term goal for him and for communities.  Julian also has a moment and is granted his request for his popular Instagram segment entitled, #quarantinecovers and they also discuss what is EJ’s process when writing lyrics and composing songs.  EJ also takes a jab at Orlando that is worth the listen.  For more information on EJ please visit his Instagram page @ejvip, follow, and drop a song request or two.

You can listen to EJ's single on Apple Music or purchase the single on the link below 

EJ - Break Free (Single) 

On this episode Orlando and Julian felt compelled to continue the conversation with the senseless murder of George Floyd and the events that have happened all over the country as a result.  They also share good news stories that are also emerging from the chaos.  Opinions are shared, arguments are made and not every statement was in agreement but common ground was reached and a conversation was had.  Orlando and Julian also note that there have been positives to come from this tragedy and that in many places law enforcement and the local communities have begun to come together in solidarity.  Please take a moment to see the stories on the links provided…

On this follow up episode, Orlando and Julian also expressed the need to be socially responsible and share their views on steps that can be taken to solve this sociopolitical problem of racism, police brutality, and the loss of confidence in our law enforcement agencies.  They also challenge individuals to not just look at the headline before making assumptions or statements without getting all the facts first.

What is Blackout Tuesday? Explaining the movement and controversy

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/01/technology/george-floyd-misinformation-online.html

Seattle security guard helps disarm George Floyd rioters with AR-15s stolen from smashed police cruiser

Blackout Tuesday posts are drowning out vital information shared under the BLM hashtag

George Floyd protests live updates: Police shot in St. Louis, Las Vegas, NYPD officer hit by car - The

Some police officers support George Floyd protesters by taking a knee, marching

Florida sheriff, police chief take a knee, pray with protesters

JR Smith Beats The Hell Out of Alleged Car Vandalizer During LA Protests

A List of Every Celebrity Who Has Stepped Out To Protest The Death of George Floyd So Far

.A video that millions of Americans have now seen, shows  George Floyd, a 46 year old black man that resided in Minneapolis, MN and had his life ended by the reckless actions of Officer Derek Chauvin by kneeling on George's neck and ultimately killing him, which has sparked an nationwide outrage.

Orlando and Julian discuss, the actual video and what the saw and felt after the watching the video. They also give their opinions regarding the ensuing demonstrations, riots, and have a debate on weather or not police departments should be, “militarized,” regarding equipment available to them.

This heinous act has further put law enforcement agencies in the spotlight in what feels like a never-ending spree of brutality cases.  We stand together in condemning this act but must not succumb to violence.  Violence begets violence but we must come together and make the decision not to go down that path!

George Floyd showed no signs of life from time EMS arrived, fire department report says

Surveillance video shows George Floyd did not resist arrest

15 Things Your City Can Do Right Now to End Police Brutality

1991: Rodney King Beaten by LAPD

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/08/13/us/ferguson-missouri-town-under-siege-after-police-shooting.html

Miami Officer Sentenced to 7 Years in Deaths of 2 Blacks

Former South Florida Officer Sentenced to 25 Years in Prison for Killing Black Motorist

On this week’s episode, Orlando & Julian discuss the controversy around wearing a mask in public; is it an infringement of your right to be forced to wear a mask or is it your act of kindness to humanity during these times?

NFL gets plenty of black eyes this week as four players were involved in separate incidents including a robbery, discharging a firearm, and DUI. 

Do you suffer from depression or any other form of mental health condition? Do you feel like you’re alone with these feelings? You shouldn't be because you are absolutely not alone! Orlando & Julian discuss their battles with depression, what they went through with their families and their friends during their battles.  Also emphasize that asking for help, in no way shape or form, is a sign of weakness. 

https://profootballtalk.nbcsports.com/2020/05/17/four-nfl-players-were-taken-into-custody-on-saturday/

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html

https://www.fredhutch.org/en/news/center-news/2016/02/depression-invisible-cancer-side-effect.html

https://www.mhanational.org/issues/state-mental-health-america

https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2019/02/5-surprising-mental-health-statistics/

https://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/infosheet/supporting-a-friend-or-family-member-with-a-mental-illness

This week's episode Orlando and Julian rejoice over the first live sporting event since the start of the pandemic; UFC 249 was interesting with no audience. Upcoming  PGA/LPGA tournaments and upcoming golfing exhibition between Tom Brady and Peyton Manning. Cy Young Award winner Blake Snell cries over having to play baseball for only $1.6 million.  Be on the lookout, because Mike Tyson is back!

https://www.forbes.com/sites/brianmazique/2020/05/10/ufc-249-results-winners-bonuses-ko-highlights/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.espn.com/mlb/story/_/id/29174318/rays-ace-blake-snell-says-refuses-play-reduced-salary%3fplatform=amp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/syndication.bleacherreport.com/amp/2891199-is-the-world-ready-for-a-mike-tyson-comeback-fight-in-2020.amp.html

Meanwhile, in Kansas, a man takes the vows of "’Till death do us part" very seriously by challenging his ex-wife to a samurai sword-fighting duel to forgo divorce court and custody of their children.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/jan/14/man-requests-sword-fight-ex-wife-lawyer-settle-legal-dispute

Owners of Hearth Bistro in Taylors, South Carolina would you like to enjoy a nice, romantic meal with your partner and a few of blow-up dolls

https://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2020/05/14/Restaurant-using-blow-up-dolls-to-enforce-social-distancing/3491589483730/

Orlando and Julian tackling an important, and often, talked about subject… social media. They discuss why people feel like they need to voice all their opinion on the web and why they feel that only their opinion matters. Are people addicted to social media? Does spending countless hours on social media make you depressed? Why is it that people want their lives to be like the media they consume?

All that and more on this week’s episode

https://childmind.org/article/how-using-social-media-affects-teenagers/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2017/06/30/a-run-down-of-social-medias-effects-on-our-mental-health/#bd637fc2e5af

https://sysomos.com/2016/12/22/impact-social-media-networks-society/

https://www.addictioncenter.com/drugs/social-media-addiction/

As our country begins to reopen and slowly try to get back to normal, Orlando and Julian discuss how they are preparing to get back to their offices and travel for work.

Have you ever heard of Mississippi’s issues with literacy rate? How about the Friendly Wolf Sanctuary, where you can take selfies with Apex Predators for your Instagram. Listen to hear about stupid stories found on the internet!

The shooting of Ahmaud Arbery in Brunswick, GA has sparked outrage in our country with people sharing their opinion and emotions throughout social media. Orlando and Julian talk about what happened that day that lead to the death of Ahmaud Arbery, was it just, was it racially charged, did he steal anything? What should be the rights and responsibilities of being gun owners and the right defending yourself and the difference of chasing an alleged burglar down and making "Citizens Arrest".  Orlando and Julian also share their experiences with racism being minorities.

Did you know that Puerto Rico is a territory of the United States?  Did you also know that Puerto Ricans are American citizens at birth?  It’s surprising how many people believe that Puerto Rico is another country, and people coming to the U.S. are, “immigrants,” … These two will give you a little lesson so that you’re not confused!

https://www.buzznick.com/wolf-island/

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/26/us/ahmed-arbery-shooting-georgia.html

https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2020/05/ahmaud-arbery-george-barnhill-olivia-pearson.html

Welcome to this bonus episode or "SideQuest" where Orlando and Julian geek out over the origins of earth, aliens and Star Trek!

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