The Jar Podcast | Marriage Counseling, Healthy Communication, Conflict Resolution, Rebuild Trust

Is change good or bad? Do you love it or hate it?

Guess what? Some change is inevitable whether we like it or not... and the New Year is often what brings both desire for change and/ or resistance to it to the surface.

We are going to spend the month of January talking about newness and change (the good, bad, AND the ugly). What does GOD say about it vs. the world? How do fears surrounding change hold us back?

Whether you're excited for NEW things or not... let's talk about it and lay it all at the Lord's feet together with these three action steps to navigate change this year.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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What's wrong with me??

Why am I feeling this way?

Sad, unseen, unloved, unappreciated, lonely, etc.

Believe it or not, that's the PERFECT time, the perfect moments, the perfect places for Love to come down and meet you where you are.

Tune in for a short episode on how to let God's ultimate Gift of Love, fill you up, heal you, and be ENOUGH for you.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Is it just me, or are the holidays especially rough on us wives/ women?! SHEESH! The errands, the gifts, the cookie baking and gift wrapping... so I know if I'm not alone in feeling overwhelmed, I must also not be alone in reacting emotionally when I'm overstimulated from it all, right? (Don't leave me hangin' Linda!)

LADIES. You & I...we are most likely contributing to the chaos, and I'm here today to remind you of the benefits, the rewards, of operating from a place of peace. **wooosahhh** I didn't say it was easy. But it sure will help to create calm and communicate with your man, or your kids, or your mother in law this holiday season, from a peaceful place and not a stressed out one. 

We can do this.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Does Christmas or the holidays bring up tough stuff: buried feelings, sadness around a loss, discord with family members, loneliness?

Do you find yourself sneaking away not just for the overstimulation of the music, lights and crowd but also the inner turmoil that's been triggered?

Here are 4 tips that will help you process and HEAL as you learn to anticipate the change and growth through the discomfort.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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There's something about Advent, the season of waiting, anticipation, and ardent desire for HOPE.

But you feel pretty hopeless in your marriage right now. Maybe you're just hopeless that it will get any better or that you're stuck in this feeling of unhappiness. Maybe you're hopeless for reconciliation as you battle divorce papers.

Whatever your circumstance is, as you hope for a miracle in your marriage, find hope HERE first...

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Sitting in the aftermath of post-holiday disappointment and let down?

Replaying scenes filled with frustration, arguments, or division?

Chalking it up to family members and their typical tendencies, knowing the next holiday will be just the same? 

Don't let these 5 reasons you're feeling disappointment drive a wedge between you and your husband. Use it as fuel to ignite a bond and closeness that will bring you closer to the Lord and to each other and finish this holiday season with renewed strength and focus!

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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How do you just "let go and let God"? Is it that easy when it feels like life is crushing you and you're struggling to see the point? Do you find it easier to just numb the pain, find pleasure in other things, or give into temptation? 

It isn't easy, but I have the solution. Tune in and find out how a simple (not easy!) shift in perspective can help change everything.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Tune in for a special *bonus* episode of a little behind-the-scenes Holy Spirit moment that led me through a dark time that YOU will find hope in! (Spoiler Alert: NO ONE is too damaged for Him to redeem)

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Your husband walks in the door, takes one look around the messy living room, and says, "What did you do all day?" Cue the ball of fire in your stomach and the shame in your gut. As mad as you are at him for that question (or is that a statement??), you find yourself questioning if you're really cut out to do this whole stay at home mom thing... you shut down, start picking up the mess, and you quietly hide in your shame.

or

In the middle of an argument, your husband brings up something you did in the past and throws it back in your face. That's it. You're sick of him bringing your dirt up again and again and you lash out spewing verbal punches to ward off the feeling of shame creeping up inside. Cue the shame-raging that keeps you "safe" yet pushes him away.

The two of you are now disconnected. Lonely. Emotionally unwell. Divided. 

Listen, Linda, this dance is ugly, but I have good news! Listen in on what you can do to live SHAME-FREE and heal emotionally so you can connect with your husband. 

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Hold up. Wait a minute.

You're telling me that *I* am "empowered" to communicate better with my husband when HE's the one not getting it? I feel misunderstood and disappointed because he's not listening, and you want ME to work on how *I* communicate? 

Yep.

Listen, Linda, we wives hold more power than we think we do in situations like this, and I've got some simple tools you can use! 

Come on, let's sit down and talk.

*Notes taken from Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenburg*

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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