The Jar Podcast | Marriage Counseling, Healthy Communication, Conflict Resolution, Rebuild Trust

If you’ve had an encounter with God–He knocked you on your butt, healed you, broke you, met you on the bathroom floor at your lowest of lows...and that led you to surrender, full surrender, and you are now surrounded by community and have accountability and wise input from mentors– you can trust that this next step of transformation is REAL and TRUE and you can experience freedom from your past life, from the sin you were caught up in.

Don’t rely on me, but God’s word says in John 8:36 “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”

It’s our last step in the 4 step series to Find Freedom from Sin. We’ve walked through Step 1: Encountering with God, Step 2: Surrendering to God, Step 3: Walking in Community, and now Step 4… the 4 ways to know and trust the process of being transformed and finally walking in TRUE and lasting freedom.

Tasha Cobbs Leonard song mentioned in the episode "Break Every Chain" 

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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It’s easy to want to hide in a corner and lick our wounds, cover up the scars and signs of our brokenness and need for a Savior and recent surrender to Him after facing our realities and sinful actions or natures.

God gave us something to keep us from getting kicked while we’re down, stepped and trampled on in our vulnerable moments just after surrender to Him, something to empower us to grow spiritually and begin to fight against the sin we just repented from.

But because we are made in His image, God gave us an innate desire for and provided a lifeline for us with THIS key to spiritual growth after an encounter with Him and repentance for our sin.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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You know how it goes: one side wins. The other side loses. One comes out victorious, and the other side has surrendered and is the loser and defeated. The losing side that surrendered took the easy way out. 

Or is it? What if surrender was actually the hard part? The better choice? What if the "defeated" were actually the victors? 

You have experienced Step 1 in finding freedom from sin (go listen to the previous episode if you haven't yet!), and now it's time for Step 2. This is a pivotal point, important decision, and turning point in our journey to Finding Freedom From Sin, true–lasting–HEALING freedom.

It’s time to shift our perspective on "the easy way out" and get ready for some hard work. It may not be what you want to hear, but I also have SO MUCH HOPE for you at the end of this, and your healing is WORTH it.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Whether or not your husband got you flowers, made you breakfast, is taking you out to dinner, or if he completely forgot, or you are single or separated and feel unloved by a man you're with.

As much as the flowers and candy and extra attention might be nice...

As much as maybe gestures of love and affection from your person on this day are extra special....

Or even if you absolutely can’t STAND today not only for all the consumerism and hype but also because you’re not a good place in your marriage or relationship and would rather barf…

I have good news.

So don't barf.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Are you stuck in a pattern of behavior that is damaging your marriage?

Have you tried to stop, make better choices, and change but you keep coming up short? You repeat the cycle and then you spiral into negative self-talk, shame, and you just feel defeated.

I know you've tried. I know you want to find freedom and the strength to resist sinful urges, to persevere and not let this sin define you anymore. 

You’ve tried seeing a counselor. You’ve tried praying. You’ve even tried fasting– you want freedom from this sin and this struggle but you just can’t seem to break free.

All of those things are great, don't get me wrong, but what you NEED is this ONE thing... this first step. 

Join me in this 4-part series on finding freedom from sin and finally break free!

Book mentioned in this episode: Shattered Dreams by Larry Crabb

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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You're just minding your own business, doin your thing, when your husband makes a comment that rubs you the wrong way. Your eyes fill with tears and your stomach grows hot inside. You scrub the pot a little more aggressively or cut the sandwich you're making with extra force, feeling at that moment much like that sandwich--cut deeply. 

Whether your tendency in the next moments would be to silently stuff that pain down and allow it to grow because that's your mantra or if it's to turn around (put the knife down first) and raise a finger in the air while you snap your neck as you deliver a smarty pants comeback... Satan is watching you, prowling, actually, and snickering. 

But not today! Not. To. DAY. I have 3 simple steps that will help you quickly identify shame or pain from your past that brings emotions to the surface and opens old wounds, find out where they're coming from, and figure a better way of dealing with it all-- that ultimately lead to HEALING rather than hurt. 

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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What do you do when you're stuck in a negative Nancy spirit? You can't seem to kick the cranky and stop spinning in a negative mindset about your husband or your marriage. And it's starting to feel like things will never get better.

Listen, Linda, today I have 6 practical steps you can take to biblically shift those thoughts and change your mindset.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Ever had a moment where you looked over at your husband on the couch or when he wakes up and thought, "Who is this man I'm married to? This is not the same person I married ___ years ago" and wondered when and how he'd changed? 

Maybe those thoughts invoked feelings of sadness or resentment or maybe just a feeling of distance and loneliness. 

Maybe it's even gotten so bad that you aren't sure you even want to stay married to him anymore and you've started questioning your commitment to him.

Linda, listen in today as I give 4 Keys that can help you stay committed to the same man you married, even if he isn't the same as he once was. 

https://www.reengage.org/ 

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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You ever climb into bed at night with an extra grunt and wince in pain and promise yourself you're going to start doing more stretching or exercise the next day? Sick and tired of feeling...sick and tired? STUCK in the stiff place of feeling drained, exhausted, and needing something to change?

Linda, listen... maybe you got some aches and pains physically (who doesn't??), but I think your soul needs some stretching, and your spirit needs some strengthening. You're SOUL-TIRED, run down, weak, and *this* close to giving up.

God gave me my word of the year this year (in a rather funny way), and I think you can benefit from hearing it, too.

Giiirrrrl, get your favorite pair of leggings on, put your hair up, make some space on the floor and get ready to S-T-R-E-T-C-H with me today! 

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Are you avoiding change, refusing to participate, letting it run you over, or getting mad at it? 

If change is inevitable, life happens, and circumstances and people don't stay the same, then... what do we DO with change? How do we deal with it without falling apart?

In today's episode I give you three ways to use change to your advantage so that you can actually grow closer to God and deeper in your relationship with Him, the Solid Rock, the Unchanging One, and navigate change from a firm foundation.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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