The Jerry Banfield Show

For every one expectation someone puts on me, I place 10 on myself. In other words, for every one thing the world expects me to do, I expect ten things out of myself. In the video, I am playing a Kill Confirmed game on Black Ops 3 with my friends. So, what do my friends expect me to do within the game? My friends expect me to be a good teammate. They would like me to contribute to the objectives within the game and do my best. What do I expect out of myself? I want to be at or near the top of the leaderboard at the end of the game, I want to end the game with a good K/D ratio regardless of the game type, and most important I want to win. Many games I am able to meet my own expectations, but the ones I do not I often find myself feeling frustrated. Nearly every game I meet the expectations of my teammates. The expectations you place on yourself may vary, but the point of this is to show you that we cause our self pain and suffering with expectations we place on ourselves, not what society places on us. I want to thank everyone for being here with me today, and I hope you have a happy holidays!

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The most precious part of any relationship is the friendship. I have noticed this many times throughout my relationship with my wife, and it is these moments I cherish most. The beautiful thing is you can have friendship with anyone. You can be a good friend with your spouse, family members, and co-workers. There is no limit on what you can offer in terms of being a good friend. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Whatever happens in life is what's supposed to happen. This as a principle gives me relief because I know that I do not need to argue with how things happened in the past. In fact, I wouldn't be where I am today without each and every event that took place in my life. I appreciate all of the lessons I have learned in the past, and I am thankful they have put me in a position to be here with you today!

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Praying for help with what I am doing each moment gives the fastest results. Praying to stay focused on the moment gives me almost immediate results, and helps me to focus on the here and now. For example, if I am driving I pray to be a good driver. Right now, I pray to be a good video producer. When I pray to be mindful of the moment and focus on what I am doing, I am often thankful for the things that don't happen. If for example I pray to be a good driver, chances are I will follow the rules of the road more closely and have more patience with other drivers, therefore avoiding an accident. I want to thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Everything I ask for I receive. Often it arrives in an unexpected way. For example, if I ask for help and I receive it, it encourages me to ask for more help. On the other hand, if I ask for more pain and suffering, I will get that too. However, the caveat with this is that help often comes in unexpected ways. For example, if I ask for better health I may pick up some better habits that allow me to be a healthier person. Alternatively, I may get sick or suffer from an ailment that forces me to change my eating/exercise habits. For most of my adult life I suffered with alcoholism, and when I finally decided to ask for help I found the support group I now attend everyday. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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There is no shame in failing! There is no shame in mixing something up, or making a mistake! I have learned this lesson the hard way many times throughout my life, and today I am grateful to appreciate failure as a learning opportunity. In the past, failure was unacceptable to me. I would go to great lengths to avoid making mistakes. I would stay up all night to make sure my papers for school were perfect, spend hours making sure my clients were happy with my work, and even stress out at my own wedding making sure everything was perfect. However, looking back on my life, I learned some of the most important lessons by failing. Failure is natural! We as humans are born to fail. What we learn from our failures is ultimately what is most important. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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What kind of world am I living in today? I have a peaceful life that is filled with beautiful things, and I am happy to live in it every single day. I appreciate each and every moment in my life because that is all I have. For this reason, I am patient. I am living in a world of gratitude where I am thankful for the things I have, because I do not think about having them. All forms fade, nothing will last forever. Ultimately, everything I create, own, or achieve will either fade away or be forgotten, so what is more important than this one moment? I would like to thank you for your continued support, and I appreciate your feedback!

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I hope this gives you the motivation to not make fun of people, to not trash talk people, and not put other people down. Sometimes I can learn a lesson the easy way by learning from someone else's mistake, but this video shows me learning a lesson the hard way. I have been working on saying nicer things to people in my life, but when it comes to playing video games I continue to talk badly about others. In video games, especially Call of Duty, I fall in to the ego trap of thinking I am too good. In reality I am not, and I am often humbled by getting embarrassed within the game! Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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When I love my family, my soul expands in the worship of the creator. In other words, when I love my wife the love I have for her points back to that which created her, and created me to love her. I couldn't possibly love the form of my wife any more or less than that which created her. I have heard something similar when it comes to seeing your children. People say that you won't know what true love is until you see your child, and now that I have a daughter I finally can see the truth in this phrase. This has helped me to learn that I do not need to condition my love upon a specific form. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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