The Jerry Banfield Show

Ever since I started praying, my life has been much better. I know now that I need help each day, and I receive this through prayer. The beauty of prayer is that it can be used throughout many different belief systems. Prayer helps me to center my focus and hone in on the moment. For example, I said a quick informal prayer before making this video. Most of my life was miserable without prayer because I would refuse to ask for help on a daily basis. Praying today helps me to get in to the right state of mind. The right state of mind to me is one of service and asking how I can be useful each day. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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After my dad passed away, my mom told me she would give anything to have another day with my dad, even a bad one. This has helped give me a whole new perspective on the relationship I have with my wife. Even when we are having a bad day, each moment is truly a blessing. If you are a newly wed and/or recently had a child like me, don't let petty arguments prevent you from appreciating each moment with your significant other. You don't want to find yourself wishing for even another bad day down the road.

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One of the biggest problems I have encountered as an entrepreneur is starting too many new projects. In fact, this has been a problem for me most of my life, starting new things, getting excited about them initially, and quickly become bored and leaving them unfinished. I am thankful to have been asked a question pertaining to this In my productivity course on Udemy, and I hope I can share some honest insight with you from my own life. One of the reasons I would get bored so easily is because I was living life as a means to an end, and fantasizing what it would bring me in the future. However, when the real work associated with the project became clear, I would often lose focus and put my attention towards something else. Now, whenever I was to start a new project I always ask myself what it is I am trying to accomplish, and focus on the completing it one step at a time.

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The only real power I have in my life is over what I pay attention to. I cannot control my thoughts or what happens around me, the only thing I can control is what I give life to. I have found that life is a lot better when I pay attention to what is happening around me, right this moment. How many times have you stubbed your toe on something, or bumped in to someone, or narrowly avoided a car accident? This usually happens to me when I am paying attention to my thoughts and not what my body is doing. Accepting what is going on around me and focusing in on the moment gives me peace of mind each day. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate you feedback!

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The help you need is always right in front of you. You will often find that the solution, or help you need, is often bundled with whatever it is that's causing the problem. In other words, I can't have a problem that is absent of a solution. This is the simple Yin Yang principle of the universe. Even at the lowest points of my life, the help I needed was around me the whole time. Whether it was the awkwardness of puberty, or my struggles with alcohol addiction as an adult, the answers to my problems have always been around me and it was simply a matter of refusing to listen. The next time you find yourself in what seems like an impossible situation to overcome, remember that the solution is often close by.

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Humans share more than 99% of DNA with each other, so why do we find reasons to dislike each other? I have struggled with this all of my life even though I understood that it was absolutely absurd to hate people that were so similar to me. So, what does it ultimately boil down to, what is the main reason for us finding reasons to dislike other people? I have found that I will initially dislike someone who reflects the negative qualities I see in myself. For example, if I see someone who is selfish and always wants their way, I am reminded of how I have often acted in the past. It is crazy how we will often conjure up perceived differences just to try and find reasons to dislike one another. Whether it be through religious views, politics, or lifestyle choices, we will find the smallest differences to focus in on. Today, I challenge everyone to instead focus on what makes us similar as humans, and share a message of peace, love, and understanding!

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Most of my life I thought my work, school, and home life were separate. Since I tried to keep them separate, I tended to act differently at work, school, and home. I thought I could act however I wanted without is effecting the other areas of my life. I find now that having unity and consistency across all areas makes my life much easier. When I was kid, I was the person who would always use profanity at school to try and be funny, but at home I would never cuss and always do as I was told. This kind of behavior carried in to my adult life where I would cause a lot of trouble with my friends, but be on my best behavior at work. All this role-playing was exhausting! The solution I have found is to be present in each moment and be useful in every situation. Instead of trying to pull from brain on how to act, or trying to play off of roles I had in the past, I simply try to appreciate each moment which is given to me. I simply am. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Why I Ask to be of Service Each Day. Every morning I pray to be of service to other people so that I may be useful. This has helped to be much happier each day, because I no longer focus on my wants, and instead pay attention to my basic needs and how I can help others around me. Being of service is the most basic purpose in life. We are here in the world to be useful to others. In the past, I would often ask for things I did not need because I wanted to be able to buy more stuff. Whether it was a bigger TV or a new video game console, I almost always would waste the money. Now that I am more focused on living a life of service, I have found that I no longer need to ask for more, and my basic needs are met each day. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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When a disastrous event occurs, it is easy to let the different what-if scenarios overwhelm us. The fact of the matter is you cannot change the past, and you can't make certain what will happen in the future. Last night, my mom fell off her horse while riding at night. Thank god she was wearing an emergency wrist band which immediately contacted my brother. In the past, my mind would immediately start racing over everything we could have done to prevent this accident from happening. What if my mom lived closer to me? Why doesn't she stop riding horses at her age? Why go riding at night? This was especially tough on me because I already lost my dad, and it is impossible to know how much more time I have left with my mom. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Sometimes "I don't know" is the best answer. Think of all the yes or no questions you have been approached with that have made you feel uncomfortable, where it seemed as if you were in a lose-lose situation. I asked my mom if she would come visit her new grand daughter, but my wife and I do not want anyone to stay in the house. My mom said she would come if I paid for her hotel, and immediately I thought of many reasons to say either yes or no. What stopped me from immediately saying yes was the thought that maybe she wants to wait until Christmas. Usually if someone really wants to do something, they will pick up and do it. However, I didn't want to say no either because she would probably take offense, so I said, "I don't know." If she comes with the expectation of having her hotel paid for, then that is fine. If she decides to wait until Christmas, we will look forward to her stay!

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