The Jerry Banfield Show

Are you living your relationships in today, or in the past and the future? For example, my wife and I consistently live our relationship in today. We focus on what we are doing, taking care of each other, and keeping each other happy, today. We don't spend much time on what we have done before or what we are going to do in the future, unless it is important for making decisions, today. I have noticed that many people in the early years of their relationship tend to focus on what the future holds for them. In fact, it seems as if most couples focus on what they will do in the future at the start of their relationship, and what they did in the past towards the end. I am thankful that when my wife and I first started dating, we took the time to truly get to know one another, and focused on what were doing in the moment.

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What is it I do today that makes it easier to handle stress, anxiety, pain and suffering? The trick for me is to face whatever it is I am feeling. In the past, I would often try to run away from my problems and emotions by turning to alcohol. However, this led me to become so miserable that I had to either get me life together, or die. I am grateful to be here to share with you today, and I value your feedback!

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Being comfortable with uncertainty gives me peace of mind. Trying to force certainty in the face of uncertainty has cause me great amounts of stress in the past. My mind was often consumed with what will happen to me when I die, is my wife okay, will I continue to make money through my business. All of this caused me anxiety, and it caused me to miss the joy that is this moment. I am no longer afraid to say "I don't know." Most of my life I though when someone used these words it made them sound unintelligent, but I now know that no one knows the answers to all of life's mysteries. By accepting that some things are simply out of my control, it allows me to live a more productive life!

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You will have what you need when you need it! You might not have it before it is time, or before you are ready for it. I have struggled most of my life wanting things before I actually needed them. For example, as early as 1st or 2nd grade I already wanted to find and be with my future wife. However, I didn't need a wife in high school or college, much less elementary school! Still I agonized myself over not being in a wonderful relationship. Today, I am thankful for my wife a newborn daughter because I truly need them, now.

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Do you work to make yourself miserable?

00:11 - I though I was a reasonable and rational person.

1:40 - For most of my life, I was a know-it-all.

1:58 - Then, I found alcohol.

2:38 - It takes work to be an opinionated person.

4:56 - Once I joined a support group I started to become aware that I was making myself miserable.

5:25 - I would often plan my drinking routine to accommodate a hangover.

7:15 - I used to look for reasons to get angry.

12:32 - A good husband talks to his wife when he is having a bad time.

13:35 - I create the mental state I have, positive or negative.

15:01 - I ask for how I can be of service through prayer.

17:03 - The only choice we have is to put out positive or negative energy.

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I like to think of this body as a worker drone because then things aren't so personal, sort of like an ant on an anthill. When I talk about what I have and the things I own, I will ultimately be disappointed because those things will eventually fade away. Knowing that I was put this planet for a purpose helps me to live a better and more productive life of service!

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0 to 1 is the biggest step I take each day. Especially when having a child, going from zero kids to one kid is the biggest step. Most people fail to accomplish their goals in life because they are unwilling to take the first step. Everyday I see people that want to start a YouTube channel or start their own business online, but they are unwilling to publish their first video or get started on their website. Once you take the first step, it gets much easier to accomplish whatever it is you want to do in life. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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How I quickly notice and fix my bad mood, today. The first step if you want to fix your bad mood is to honestly identify where your mood is. Most of the time you will be in a bad mood because you are mad at someone or the rest of the world. The world is just fine the way it is, and all you can do is control your attitude regarding it. The main mistake I made in the past was turning to alcohol to change my mood. While this provided temporary relief, it didn't solve the problems I had. Today I am thankful I no longer try to change my mood, but instead try to understand the attitude I have regarding the outside world, and adapt to it.

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What would I tell my daughter about life if I never got the chance to say it in person? What if she never gets the chance to get to know her dad as a kid or an adult? Today, I felt it was important to make a video to tell her what I would like to tell her about life in case something were to happen to me. No matter what happens to your mother or I, you are inseparable from us. You are half your mom and half you dad, and you can never lose us. I lost my dad last year, but his voice is still inside of me. I suppose the main thing I would like to tell my daughter is you are life. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Repairing the damage I cause in relationships makes life so much easier! If you want to have great relationships in your life, the easiest thing you can do is to repair the damage you cause within the relationship. This is helpful because you alone have the control to make the repairs, and it doesn't require anyone else. It is also important to keep in mind that damage is caused not only by words, but actions and body language as well. I want to thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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