Most of my life I thought my work, school, and home life were separate. Since I tried to keep them separate, I tended to act differently at work, school, and home. I thought I could act however I wanted without is effecting the other areas of my life. I find now that having unity and consistency across all areas makes my life much easier. When I was kid, I was the person who would always use profanity at school to try and be funny, but at home I would never cuss and always do as I was told. This kind of behavior carried in to my adult life where I would cause a lot of trouble with my friends, but be on my best behavior at work. All this role-playing was exhausting! The solution I have found is to be present in each moment and be useful in every situation. Instead of trying to pull from brain on how to act, or trying to play off of roles I had in the past, I simply try to appreciate each moment which is given to me. I simply am. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Why I Ask to be of Service Each Day. Every morning I pray to be of service to other people so that I may be useful. This has helped to be much happier each day, because I no longer focus on my wants, and instead pay attention to my basic needs and how I can help others around me. Being of service is the most basic purpose in life. We are here in the world to be useful to others. In the past, I would often ask for things I did not need because I wanted to be able to buy more stuff. Whether it was a bigger TV or a new video game console, I almost always would waste the money. Now that I am more focused on living a life of service, I have found that I no longer need to ask for more, and my basic needs are met each day. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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When a disastrous event occurs, it is easy to let the different what-if scenarios overwhelm us. The fact of the matter is you cannot change the past, and you can't make certain what will happen in the future. Last night, my mom fell off her horse while riding at night. Thank god she was wearing an emergency wrist band which immediately contacted my brother. In the past, my mind would immediately start racing over everything we could have done to prevent this accident from happening. What if my mom lived closer to me? Why doesn't she stop riding horses at her age? Why go riding at night? This was especially tough on me because I already lost my dad, and it is impossible to know how much more time I have left with my mom. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Sometimes "I don't know" is the best answer. Think of all the yes or no questions you have been approached with that have made you feel uncomfortable, where it seemed as if you were in a lose-lose situation. I asked my mom if she would come visit her new grand daughter, but my wife and I do not want anyone to stay in the house. My mom said she would come if I paid for her hotel, and immediately I thought of many reasons to say either yes or no. What stopped me from immediately saying yes was the thought that maybe she wants to wait until Christmas. Usually if someone really wants to do something, they will pick up and do it. However, I didn't want to say no either because she would probably take offense, so I said, "I don't know." If she comes with the expectation of having her hotel paid for, then that is fine. If she decides to wait until Christmas, we will look forward to her stay!

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Are you living your relationships in today, or in the past and the future? For example, my wife and I consistently live our relationship in today. We focus on what we are doing, taking care of each other, and keeping each other happy, today. We don't spend much time on what we have done before or what we are going to do in the future, unless it is important for making decisions, today. I have noticed that many people in the early years of their relationship tend to focus on what the future holds for them. In fact, it seems as if most couples focus on what they will do in the future at the start of their relationship, and what they did in the past towards the end. I am thankful that when my wife and I first started dating, we took the time to truly get to know one another, and focused on what were doing in the moment.

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What is it I do today that makes it easier to handle stress, anxiety, pain and suffering? The trick for me is to face whatever it is I am feeling. In the past, I would often try to run away from my problems and emotions by turning to alcohol. However, this led me to become so miserable that I had to either get me life together, or die. I am grateful to be here to share with you today, and I value your feedback!

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Being comfortable with uncertainty gives me peace of mind. Trying to force certainty in the face of uncertainty has cause me great amounts of stress in the past. My mind was often consumed with what will happen to me when I die, is my wife okay, will I continue to make money through my business. All of this caused me anxiety, and it caused me to miss the joy that is this moment. I am no longer afraid to say "I don't know." Most of my life I though when someone used these words it made them sound unintelligent, but I now know that no one knows the answers to all of life's mysteries. By accepting that some things are simply out of my control, it allows me to live a more productive life!

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You will have what you need when you need it! You might not have it before it is time, or before you are ready for it. I have struggled most of my life wanting things before I actually needed them. For example, as early as 1st or 2nd grade I already wanted to find and be with my future wife. However, I didn't need a wife in high school or college, much less elementary school! Still I agonized myself over not being in a wonderful relationship. Today, I am thankful for my wife a newborn daughter because I truly need them, now.

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Do you work to make yourself miserable?

00:11 - I though I was a reasonable and rational person.

1:40 - For most of my life, I was a know-it-all.

1:58 - Then, I found alcohol.

2:38 - It takes work to be an opinionated person.

4:56 - Once I joined a support group I started to become aware that I was making myself miserable.

5:25 - I would often plan my drinking routine to accommodate a hangover.

7:15 - I used to look for reasons to get angry.

12:32 - A good husband talks to his wife when he is having a bad time.

13:35 - I create the mental state I have, positive or negative.

15:01 - I ask for how I can be of service through prayer.

17:03 - The only choice we have is to put out positive or negative energy.

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I like to think of this body as a worker drone because then things aren't so personal, sort of like an ant on an anthill. When I talk about what I have and the things I own, I will ultimately be disappointed because those things will eventually fade away. Knowing that I was put this planet for a purpose helps me to live a better and more productive life of service!

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