We recorded this podcast while on a hike - how beautiful! I informed Thuli: "you know Thuli I need to ask X what he meant when he said "What would they say?"  who are "they"?  Why should I care what they say?  How do they have access to our lives?  Who told them that their opinion has space in our lives?"

Those questions inspired the podcast about who "they" are - where they feature in our lives and what boundaries if any do we need to have when it comes to "they" or "them".

As always it was an eye-opening talk and we both learnt something from it as we continue to grow and evolve.

Happy Listening!

Love
Thuli & Mandisa 

The holiday season is upon us and with it brings different feelings for us in our relationships as couples and in our relationships with our extended families.

The end of the year is a great time to reflect on the year that has been and of planning ahead for the new ahead.  However its never that simple as we have to navigate how we spend the time and how we communicate with our loved ones our wishes, needs and expectations.

As a communicator we need to be aware that its our responsibility to check how the information landed at the head level (by communicating the facts); at the heart level (by communicating our emotions); at the stomach level (what's in it for you and the other person); at the feet level (what must happen next?)

Listen in and let us know what you think.

Love Thuli & Mandisa

How do we each create a home for ourselves within ourself?  How do we create safe, welcoming, affirming space within ourselves?  How do we make sure that we do not create homes in other people's home and thus being stranded when others lock us out?

What rooms do we have to create within our homes?  
(1) Forgiveness room? for all those times when we need to forgive ourselves for self-harm, shaming ourselves etc
(2) Affirming room? for all those times where we need to reaffirm ourselves that we are good, we are worthy, we are lovable, we are deserving

Once you have built a home within yourself, how do you protect your home from those who disrespect your home?

Listen in and let us know what you think.

Love Thuli & Mandisa

The mirror reflects who we are both the good and the bad.  The window shows us what's outside of us.

When we meet challenges do we go to the mirror to see the true reflection of what is? or do we look through the window and blame others or something outside of us for the challenges we are facing?

Listen in to how we interpret these two things in our lives.

Love 
Thuli & Mandisa

We started this conversation with the question I posed to Thuli about the fact that when we're busy telling the people we love or when they are busy telling us what we should be, and how we should behave, we rob ourselves of loving them as they are; they also rob themselves of loving us as we are.

What if, instead we catch those that we love doing good and furthermore we name and label the good they are doing and make it known to them?

Listen in and tell us what you think?

Love
Thuli & Mandisa 

In this episode we discuss how it is for us to be part of the peopling experience in public space, the challenges and how we recalibrate or come back to ourselves after those peopling experiences.

We are work-in-progress when it comes to the "peopling" experiences and we're aware that it will take time for us to be completely comfortable in that space.  However we are proud of the strides we make on a regular basis and the check-ins we each need to do bring ourselves back to ourselves.  So how do we communicate this with our loved ones?

This episode was emotional... however we are better because of it.

Listen in and share your thoughts as well.

Love Thuli & Mandisa

This week we dive into the topic of how the language we use creates our realities. Does the language we use close us off some experiences or does is open us up to new experiences?

What if we imagined the best scenario beforehand? What does that best scenario look like?  What does that best scenario feel like?  What is our intention when going into that new scenario?

Listen in and let us know what you think and feel?

Love Thuli & Mandisa

In this episode we catchup on our "peopling" experience; how has it been like to "people" in our homes and also outside our homes.  What are the takeaways from our experiences? What are the things we realised we did not want in our "peopling" experience? 

Listen in and let us know what you think.

Love Thuli + Mandisa

What a heavy week we had as a country! With all the events happening around us?  Today I chat to Thuli on how has she been during this whole ordeal?  We discuss how we each have been affected by the riots and how we are feeling.  We also discuss how important it is for each and every one of us to check-in with our immediate families and with the rest of the extended family so that everyone gets a chance to voice how they are feeling.

What else has been affected by these events?

Happy listening! Do share your thoughts.

Love 
Thuli and Mandisa