If you’ve ever had an argument that spiraled into fighting about the fight… if you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling misunderstood… if you’ve ever found yourself avoiding conflict altogether because it feels easier—this episode is for you.

We’re going to talk about:

"Let’s be real—most of our fights aren’t about what actually happened. They’re about what we think happened. We assume, we react, and we start fighting over perceived intent. But what if we learned to communicate in a way that removes assumption, clarifies intent, and keeps our relationships strong? That’s what we’re getting into today."

Reflection & Journaling Prompts

Examining Your Communication Style:

Shifting to Healthier Communication:

Closing Prayer & Encouragement

📖 James 1:19 – "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry."

Final Prayer:

Welcome back to JoyFULL Woman Podcast! I’m Joy, A Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Therapist, and today, we’re confronting one of the biggest roadblocks to stepping fully into the life God has designed for us—imposter syndrome. If you’ve ever thought, 'I’m not qualified enough,' 'I’m not smart enough,' 'Who am I to do this?,' or felt like a fraud in your own success—this episode is for you.

Imposter syndrome is not just a mental struggle—it is a spiritual battle designed to keep you from walking in your God-given identity and purpose. When we constantly question our worth, our calling, and our ability, we are not just doubting ourselves—we are doubting the God who placed this calling inside us.

But here’s the truth: God does not call the qualified. He qualifies the called. And today, we are going to break down:

Because it’s time to stop shrinking and start stepping into who God created you to be.

Part 1: Imposter Syndrome is not an actual diagnosis rather it is a label that is tossed around meaning that we feel like a fraud.

Here's a breakdown:

​Impostor Syndrome, characterized by persistent feelings of self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a "fraud" despite evident competence, affects a significant portion of the population. Here's an overview of the most recent statistics.

General Statistics

Gender Differences

Age and Professional Factors

Ethnic and Socioeconomic Factors

Specific Professions

Symptoms of Imposter Syndrome:

High-Achieving Women & Imposter Syndrome:

Part 2: Imposter Syndrome as an Enemy Strategy Against Your Identity

Enemy Lies That Keep Us in Imposter Syndrome:

Imposter syndrome keeps you focused on what you lack instead of what God has given you.

When You're Stuck in Defeat, Insecurity, and “Not Enough”...

🔄 Attachment Theory Insight: Why We Default to Defeat

Freedom Comes When We Attach to Truth, Not Trauma

Try This Heart Check:

Ask yourself:

Then speak it out loud. Declare it. Align your nervous system, your thoughts, and your spirit with the truth.

📖 Biblical Truth: “For we are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” – Ephesians 2:10

🔥 You are ALREADY equipped for your purpose.

Part 3: How to Walk in Confidence & Purpose

🔥 1. Stop Measuring Yourself Against the World’s Standards

🔥 2. Own Your God-Given Gifts

🔥 3. Replace Self-Doubt with God’s Truth

📖 Isaiah 41:10 – "Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you."

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2

🔥 2. Own Your God-Given Gifts

“We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.” — Romans 12:6

🔥 3. Replace Self-Doubt with God’s Truth

“Let the weak say, ‘I am strong.’” — Joel 3:10

Bonus: Walk It Out Daily

Part 4: Assessing Your Gifting & Purpose

🔥 How to Identify Your Strengths:

📖 Romans 12:6-8 – "We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us."

📝 Reflection & Journaling Prompts

Recognizing Imposter Syndrome:

📖 Owning Your Purpose & Identity in Christ:

🌿 Closing Prayer & Encouragement

📖 Joshua 1:9 – "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."

 Episode 6: Dating with Discernment: Red Flags, Narcissists & Finding a True Equal as a High-Achieving Christian

Welcome back to The JoyFULL Woman Podcast! I’m Joy a Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Christian Therapist, and today, we’re diving into a real and necessary conversation about dating as a high-achieving Christian woman. Dating today feels like the wild west, but if you’ve ever been on dating apps, gone on a first date, speed dated or tried to navigate modern Christian dating, you know it can feel extra complicated when you are a woman who is confident, self-aware, and actively working on herself.

Today, we’re going to break down:

Your attachment style and dating

Why dating as a high-achieving Christian woman is uniquely challenging

How Attachment Styles Affect Dating

Attachment styles—rooted in early childhood experiences—shape how we connect emotionally, seek safety, and respond to intimacy. They don’t just show up in therapy sessions—they show up in your text messages, Tinder swipes, and relationship patterns.

Dating Style: Open, communicative, emotionally available. Builds trust over time, balances autonomy and closeness.

 In the JoyFULL Woman framework, secure attachment = freedom with connection. You’re not trying to “fix” someone—you’re co-creating a safe, playful bond.

Dating Style: Intense, emotional highs and lows. Often needs lots of reassurance. Tends to rush intimacy or idealize partners early on.

Dating Style: Cool, independent, might ghost or pull away when things get serious. Craves connection and fears losing autonomy.

Dating Style: Intense connection + fear of intimacy = emotional whiplash. Deep craving for love but sabotages closeness.

Dating isn’t just chemistry—it’s nervous system compatibility. Your attachment style is either amplifying your joy or reinforcing your wounds.

Part 1: Why Dating as a High-Achieving Christian Woman Feels Different

Part 2: Red, Yellow & Green Flags in Dating

RED FLAGS (🚩 Run, Girl, Run! 🚩)

 YELLOW FLAGS (⚠️ Proceed with Caution ⚠️)

 GREEN FLAGS (✅ Worth Exploring! 💚)

Part 3: Recognizing Power Dynamics & Narcissistic Traits in Early Conversations

Part 4: DATING SAFETY

Tips 3x3

🚀 3. Use the 3x3 Rule

 Reflection & Journaling Prompts

Assessing Your Dating Patterns:

📖 Shifting to Healthy Dating:

🎙️ Episode 5: Performance, People-Pleasing & the Scarcity Mindset – You Don’t Have to Earn Love

Title: Stop Performing for Love – You Are Already Worthy

Welcome back to The JoyFULL Woman Podcast, I’m Joy, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Therapist, today I want to shake some things loose in your spirit. I want to talk about the trap of performance and people-pleasing, especially for us women. Because for too long, we’ve been told that our worth is tied to what we give, what we do, and how well we take care of everyone else. We’ve been nurtured by nature, conditioned to love unconditionally, and socialized to see the potential in others—and sometimes, that gets us stuck in places where we are starving for real love but still settling for scraps.

Part 1: The Performance & People-Pleasing Trap

People-Pleasing & the Traps of It

People-pleasing is a survival response rooted in fear, often leading to self-neglect and disempowerment.

Social conditioning teaches women to derive their worth from how well they serve others rather than from their inherent value.

Part 2: Scarcity Mindset & Settling for Scraps

Part 3: How to Step into Worthiness & Healthy Relationships

Reflection & Journaling Prompts

📖 Breaking Free from People-Pleasing & Performance:

📖 Shifting from Scarcity to Abundance:

Closing Encouragement & Prayer

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Episode 4: Church vs. Relationship with God – Understanding the Difference

Religion vs. Relationship – What God Truly Wants from Us

Because here’s the truth: Church is NOT the same as a relationship with God. Sitting in a pew every Sunday, seeing familiar faces, and hearing a sermon is NOT what deepens your faith. Church is supposed to be a place of community, accountability, and love in action. But your personal relationship with God? That’s something that happens every single day—it’s about talking with Him, seeking Him, and growing in faith, not just attending a service. Let's talk about it. 

Difference Between the Old Covenant and the New Covenant:

Category

Old Covenant (Mosaic Law) Before Jesus

New Covenant (Grace Through Christ) After Jesus Died and Rose again

Mediator

Moses (given on Mount Sinai)

Jesus Christ (fulfilled on the Cross)

Foundation

Law-based (Ten Commandments + 613 laws)

Grace-based (Faith in Jesus)

Sacrificial System

Repeated animal sacrifices for sin

Jesus as the final sacrifice (once for all)

Access to God

Through priests and temple

Direct access through Jesus

Salvation

Based on obedience to the Law

By grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8-9)

Holy Spirit

Came upon specific individuals for specific tasks

Lives within all believers (John 14:26)

Sign of the Covenant

Circumcision

The indwelling Holy Spirit

Key Takeaway:

Part 2: Religion vs. Relationship – The Common Misconceptions

🎙️ Episode 3: Breaking Free – The Intersection of Attachment, Scarcity, and the Abuse Cycle

📌 Title: Understanding Why We Stay & How to Heal Through Faith, Therapy & Scripture

Welcome back to The JoyFULL Woman Podcast! I’m Joy, and today, we are diving deep into a powerful conversation—attachment styles, the abuse cycle, scarcity thinking, and breaking free into the abundant life God has for us.

Trauma therapy is not just about healing wounds—it’s about rewiring your entire relationship with yourself and others. A therapist helps you move from survival mode to thriving in abundance, love, and self-worth. 💛 Faith and Therapy can go hand in hand.

Reflection & Journaling Prompts

 I want to invite you into a moment of reflection. Healing isn’t just about listening—it’s about processing, writing, and giving yourself space to truly understand your patterns and emotions. So grab a journal, a notebook, or even just the notes app on your phone, and take some time to sit with these questions. (See Show Notes for prompts – I do not expect you to remember them all).

📝 Reflection & Journaling Prompts:

📖 Self-Awareness & Attachment Patterns

📖 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse & Toxic Relationships

📖 Faith & Healing Through God’s Love

📖 Breaking Free from Scarcity & Fear:

📖 Healing from Mistreatment & Walking in Confidence:

📖 Trusting God & Partnering with Therapy for Healing:

💡 Your healing is not a luxury—it is a necessity.

Are you ready to break free? Listen to Episode 3 of The JoyFULL Woman Podcast and step boldly into what God has for you! Reach out for questions or support.

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You are worthy of healing. You are worthy of love. And you are worthy of the abundant life God has for you. I’ll see you in the next episode.

#FaithAndHealing #BreakingCycles #GodsProvision #AttachmentTheory #HealingJourney #JoyFULLWoman

Part 1: My Story – Walking Through Trauma, Divorce & Faith

I want to share a little bit of my own story with you because I’m not just speaking as a therapist—I’m speaking as a woman who has walked through deep personal pain, trauma, and divorce. I know what it’s like to wrestle with God in the darkest moments. To question everything you once believed. To feel like your heart is breaking in a way that nothing and no one can fix. And if that’s where you are right now, I want you to know—you are not alone, and God is not done with your story.

🔥 Key Themes:

🌿 Part 2: The Problem with Some Christian Counseling

Many Christian counselors mean well, but they aren’t trained in trauma-informed care, attachment science, or the psychological impact of shame-based teachings. And so, instead of healing, people are often left feeling worse—blaming themselves for their suffering, staying in toxic cycles, or feeling spiritually disconnected.

Harmful Messages Some Women Have Heard in Christian Counseling:

🌱 The Truth:

🌿 Part 3: The Type of Christian Therapy I Offer

So if that’s what Christian counseling shouldn’t be, what does faith-based therapy look like when it’s truly life-giving, healing, and transformational?

🔥 Here’s What I Believe:

💡 Therapy + Faith = True Emotional Freedom.

🌿 Part 4: A Call to the Women Who Need This Space

If you are a high-achieving woman who has been carrying the weight of past pain, toxic beliefs, or deep emotional exhaustion—this is your invitation. I don’t believe God wants you to live overwhelmed, depleted, or disconnected. I believe He is calling you to healing, and I want to walk that journey with you.

💬 This PODCAST space is for you if:

✨ This is your safe space. Let’s have the conversations no one else is having.

🌿 Closing Thoughts & Prayer

📖 Isaiah 61:3 – "...to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness..."

Lord, for every woman listening right now, I pray for healing. For those who have been hurt in Your name, I pray for restoration. For those who feel unseen, unheard, or unworthy, remind them that You are close to the brokenhearted. I ask for wisdom, peace, and the courage to heal. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Episode 1- Welcome to The JoyFULL Woman - Introduction

I am on a Mission: Empowering high-achieving Christian women to heal, lead, and live fully through a faith-infused, clinically grounded approach to therapy, resilience, and emotional wellness. Because surviving is not ENOUGH!

Theme Verse: 📖 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." – Matthew 11:28

I’m Joy, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), relational therapist, dog mom, CEO, a pretend interior designer, podcaster, author and culinary adventurer.

This space is where we keep it real and connect to build a THRIVING community. To support us high-achieving women, leaders, and professionals who are carrying the weight of “having it all” but often feel overwhelmed and spiritually disconnected as a result from constantly pouring into others but struggling to refill your own cup—you're not alone.

So, join me on this journey to find real joy, deep healing, and practical tools for a balanced, fulfilling life—hit that subscribe button and let’s do this together!

DISCLAIMER This is not meant to be a replacement for therapy but rather to highlight in short order key topics that may be helpful. If anyone would like additional therapeutic support please feel free to reach out to me to schedule a free 20 min consult located on my website.

🎯 What You Can Expect Here:

🌟 Because healing isn’t just about getting through hard times or valley seasons—it’s about stepping into the life God designed for you, with confidence, peace, and purpose.

💬 So whether you’re here for encouragement, clinical insights, or faith-based support, I invite you to take this journey with me. Be sure to subscribe, share, and join me in embracing a life that is not just successful, but truly JoyFULL.

I’ll see you in the next episode, where we’ll dive into topics like: Relationships, Connection, communication and conflict resolution, closer to God, Juggling all the balls, healing from Narcissistic relationships, the Real Cost of Imposter Syndrome, how to Reclaim Your Confidence, and Breaking Free from the Scarcity Mindset—Stepping into God’s Abundance.

I want this to be a space for YOU. So, I invite you to send me your thoughts, your struggles, questions and topics you want to hear about. This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a community of women supporting one another as we grow, heal, and align our lives with the fullness of what God has for us.

💬 Join the Community!

🌟 Let’s Close with a Prayer:

Father God, I lift up every woman listening to this today. You know her heart, her struggles, and the battles she faces daily. I pray for strength, healing, and clarity in her journey. May she release the burdens of stress, perfectionism, and fear and step into the divine calling You have placed on her life. Let her find joy, peace, and purpose in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

So take a deep breath, grab a cup of coffee or tea, and let’s do this together. Welcome to JoyFULL Therapy. Your breakthrough starts now.