The Kingsley Grant Show: Where Emotional Intelligence (EI/EQ) and Leadership Skills Intersect

+++ SMARTY PANTS NO LONGER NEEDED +++

Webster’s dictionary gives this definition of a “smarty pants” - a person who talks and behaves like someone who knows everything.

Do you know anyone like that?

Be careful what you say or where you point.

I’ve been surrounded by people who were given the designation of being a “smarty pants.”

Normally, it was done out of jealousy and even envy. 

There were a couple students that I went to high school with that I was jealous of simply because they talked and behaved like someone who knows a lot.

And for the most part they did … when it came to academics.

Oh yes, but not so smart when it came to being social. They were more of a loner.

Raise your hand if you had similar experience. OK. I’m not the only one.

What I didn’t know is that I had something on them, which would later in life give me an edge on them.

Why? 

What I had could be developed. It was a skill. There were room for growth and I grew. 

What they had was pretty much tapped out.

Now I realize that what I had, had a name. I just didn’t know it at the time. It was emotional intelligence, which I have embraced to the point of coining a new word … Emotelligence.

What's that?

Oh, it is having the ability to recognize, understand and manage one’s emotions and the emotions of others and being better skilled at decision making, relationship management and job performance.

That’s where I was smart and that it’s documented that the latter is greater than the former.

Tune in to this episode to hear more and to get a deeper and better understanding of Emotelligence.

And if you want more, my newest book: The Emotelligent Leader - Succeed Where Others Failed, is available on Amazon. Get your copy today.

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+++ IT'S NOT ALL THEIR FAULT +++

What would happen if people who are part of a system - family, work, sport, etc, share the blame when something goes wrong even if they were not the main person responsible?

It's so easy to quickly point the finger and come down on someone when something goes wrong.

And it's amazing how quickly some of these same people take credit when things go right. They are willing to share even when they didn't have a direct input in the outcome.

This happens a lot in the workplace.

Leaders are quick to take credit for the success of the company or department, but are just as quick to lay the blame for things going "wrong" at the feet of others.

Fully blaming someone for not performing up to par is not what Emotelligent leaders do.

To find out a better way, listen to this episode of The Kingsley Grant Show.

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+++ THE HEART WINS ALL THE TIME +++

The notion that leaders can only get the “work” done through brute force, threats, coercion, or with some other power move, has lingered for too long.

The results from studies and polls show otherwise. 

Gallup has shown where 87% of workers are actively and/or simply disengaged within the workplace. Production is mediocre. It could be better.

But how?

More power moves?

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

What if leaders could move away from leading only with their heads towards their hearts. would the results be better?

Studies after studies have shown where it is.

And there are 3 Reasons for this phenomena. In this episode, you will hear what those 3 reasons are.

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+++ TO HIRE OR NOT TO HIRE +++

How do you hire new employees? Their education and experiences?

How were you hired as an employee? Do you remember?

Most of my past jobs that I've had with the exception of one, were based on my education and experience. My RESUME. Yay!

In some cases, thank God for that. Maybe you can say the same.

Those ways of hiring people are over or ought to be. Is it any wonder people do not last long at the job THEY applied for and was hired for. Maybe, just maybe, they were not a good fit.

But how do you make sure to hire for "good fit?"

In this episode, you'll hear a new and proven approach plus the argument for college education or not.

To access your FREE COPY of the book mentioned, click on this link: https://www.kingsleygrant.com/freeleadershipbook

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+++ RIGHT BELIEF, RIGHT BEHAVIOR +++

One of my favorite quotes that I use quite often with some of my clients is this: "Your belief shapes your behavior."

Think about any of your behaviors - good or bad - for a second. Look closely at the behavior chosen and you'll find a belief system that fuels it.

These beliefs could be totally skewed, yet you act on it.

Why?

Our guest - Cliff Ravenscraft - will explain in this episode. 

One of the things he said, which stuck with me is that your belief is a thought that you have made into a fact. Of course he said it more eloquently than I just did.

Who is Cliff Ravenscraft?

He is a business mentor, life coach and motivational speaker. He mentors coaches, consultants and thought leaders through the transition from their unfulfilling day job into their own responsible and profitable online business so that they can live the life of their dreams and do the work they feel most called to do in this world.

FREE GIFT: As a listener to this show, Cliff has made available a copy of a free keynote speech at http://MindsetAnswerMan.com/free. You'll hear in the episode why you want to get this offer.

To access your FREE COPY of the book mentioned, click on this link: https://www.kingsleygrant.com/freeleadershipbook

And remember, you are ONE SKILL AWAY from becoming the leader everyone loves and wants to follow.

+++ IT'S ABOUT COMPETENCY +++

Have you ever encountered someone who surprised you by their level of incompetence?

The surprise came because you assumed based upon their title or role, they should know more than they are demonstrating.

I've had one or two professors who made me wonder how they made it to the level of being hired as a professor. I leave their class thinking it would have been better if I stayed home and did self-learning.

The issue ... competency.

According to dictionary dot com, competence means: the ability to do something successfully or efficiently. 

That's what was lacking in a couple of my professors.

But let's take this one step further; what about leaders? I would dare say, there are numerous leaders who have a title or a role given to them, but lack the competency to perform successfully in their role.

In a recent study, many world leaders gave what they thought were important leadership competencies. Here are five of them outlined in this episode of The Kingsley Grant Show.

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+++ I'M NOT CRAZY +++

Growing up in the Caribbean, namely Jamaica, it was taboo to discuss mental health issues. You dared not mention that you could be suffering from such issues as anxiety, depression, suicidal ideations, etc. 

To do so, would mean that you need to go to the psych ward because you are "crazy."

Only "crazy" people have those issues. That was the prevailing thought at that time.

Granted, I'm sure things have changed since then, but that is what I remembered.

So you suffer in silence.

According to the World Health Organization, one in four adults experiences mental illness each year and an estimated 18% of the US adult population has an anxiety disorder. Wow!

Hence when smart leaders aka Emotelligent leaders, make mental healthcare a priority within the workplace, they experience these 3 results.

Listen to the full episode to get the raw data plus one gripping story. You'll think it was made up, but it is real

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+++ BECAUSE YOU WANT TO +++

How many people, probably including you and I, do things simply because we wanted to? 

And how many times we don't do things, simply because ... we don't want to. 

Am I correct in including you in this? I thought so! 

We all are guilty of this at one point or another.

The question is, what does it take to motivate and demotivate us?

What if I told you that what someone who is meaningful to us say to us or don't say, serves to do one of the two?

In this episode, you'll hear me share from an article written by Ron Carucci in a Harvard Business Review article that I read.

Don't: 

Do: 

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+++ I FELT NAKED +++

Have you ever talked about yourself in such a way that you felt naked ...

... naked because of sharing things that most people outside your close family and/or friends don't know?

And somethings they might know but not the "why" or "how?"

It can be scary ... right?

Well, this is how I felt in sharing this 100th episode of The Kingsley Grant Show.

I thought, what better time to do so than at this 100th episode? It's a huge milestone for the show so I thought, why not!

So here it is, just for you.

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+++ CURIOSITY DIDN'T KILL THIS CAT +++

Adult: "Don't you know that curiosity kills the cat?"

Me: [silence]

I grew up in Jamaica and this is one of the phrases I heard quite often. It was made by people, namely adults, who didn't want to be asked any questions that made them uneasy.

That's my conclusion based upon looking back at the many times I've heard it.

Does this sound familiar? Did you experience this?

Would you believe that having heard this statement so many times, it almost "killed" me? 

It almost "killed" me because I stopped being curious. 

I'm glad I found out early enough change course. How about you?

In this episode of The Kingsley Grant Show, Dr. Diane Hamilton - an expert on the topic of curiosity - and I, talked about the necessity of curiosity.

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