When do you need to explore forgiving yourself? It really isn't about you being a victim. Self Forgiveness starts with recognizing your own behaviours and how they might impact others via knowing how you would feel.

it is a bit easy to get caught up in a transgression or target an area of dissatisfaction, but before something difficult happens there are a number of warnings that indicate the other person may not be caring about you.

When someone asks to be forgiven they are asking for a free pass. There is a difference between offering forgiveness, to being asked for it.

Forgiveness of past events isn't a free pass, it is understanding that being angry or victimized is of no benefit when trying to live a peaceful life.

there are people who want what they want at your expense but how do you recognize them and what is your role in being decieved?

how you manage rejections small and large determines how resilient you are, how long it takes you to accept current circumstances and how capable you are of having healthy relationships in any area of your life.

when you lie to yourself it is reflected in everything you do, your attitude and your outcomes. Call it Karma if you must but bonding with others and making good choices can only happen when you are honest about your motivations.

Who gets to do the heavy lifting after a betrayal?

All or nothing isn't a working model in relationships making changes in ourselves can bring great rewards over time.

By the time you get to ultimatums the game is already lost.