In this episode, Caleb and Todd talk with Suzanne Stabile about the Enneagram and how it plays out in personal and professional relationships.
Guest Links
Life in the Trinity Ministry website
The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile
The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
Links Mentioned
Episode 44 with Chris Heuretz
The Learner's Corner Recommended Resource
The Creative Pep Talk Podcast
What We Learned
They have the most energy.They need to know that not everyone can keep up with themThey aren't aware of how they affect others.They get energized by having conversations where people disagreeThey are impatient with people who can't keep upCommunicate effectively with them by being brief, straightforward, and truthfulThey want all the factsThey mistake tenderness for manipulationThey have the least amount of energy.They need to know that problems don't fix themselves.They need to know that people can't read their mind.They need affirmation and affectionRealize that agreement for a Nine doesn't necessarily mean participation and that participation doesn't necessarily mean commitment.They need to know that everyone does not notice all of the error they seeThey need to be gracious when things aren't done the way they wantDon't patronize their desire to want to make things betterAdmit and own the mistakes you made to a OneDon't expect people to know your needs. They don't know what's wrong.Realize that the people I help, don't want my helpKnow that Twos can only process verballyThey're ok with not being the leader, but they need to be recognized for their contributionsKnow that they can't set goals for other people, but they are good at setting goalsThey feel love for what they do, not who they are. A person can't be loved for who they are unless they are vulnerable and reveal who they are.They're ok with being the leader and in the spotlightThey are good cheerleaders and want to help you be successfulThey are not interested in rehashing things in the pastBe softer than someone who is a ThreeThey need to know that people can't handle their emotional violabilityThey need to know that there is no such thing as a perfect relationshipNot many people know FoursThey are the most complex numberDon't be afraid to tell Fours that you feel pressure to be more than you can beDon't tell them to cheer upThey are the only number that has a measured amount of energyThey need to know that they can't have a relationship without giving up some of their time and energyThey need to be clear about what they want to remain privatePeople need to know that there is a difference between private and secretDon't push them to socializeKnow that if you ask them how they feel, they'll tell you what they thinkKnow that it costs Fives comfort when you askThey are the most populated numberThey are the most concerned about the common goodThey can't expect other people to be as loyal as they areThey need to know that other people don't struggle with anxiety as much as they doThey like to get to know people based on the details of their lifeThey need attentiveness and detailsThey need reassurance and remindedThey think they have all of the emotions, but they only have half of themThey need a fuller range of emotions and they need to sit in painThey need to know that they can't be responsible to a relationship and they can't be dependable in a relationship if they keep all of their options open.Don't try to get them to commit to a fixed scheduled. They thrive on spontaneity.Realize that it's difficult for a Seven to be in a relationship if they can't make the other person happyThey love time aloneQuotes to Tweet
"Your Enneagram number is determined by your motivation, not your behavior." - Suzanne Stabile Click to Tweet
"Until people are exposed to the Enneagram, they tend to think that everyone is the same." - Suzanne Stabile Click to Tweet
"You can't change what you see, but you can change what you do with what you see." - Suzanne Stabile Click to Tweet
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