In this episode, Ranela shares her experiences with online dating and lessons shes' learned. Don't be fooled by the title, dating apps are definitely exhausting! But they can be 80% less exhausting by adopting better strategies & mindsets that allow you to create your dating life on your terms... and maybe even enjoying the process along the way :)

Resources on Attachment Styles

⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠

⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠

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About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Happy love month! In today's episode, I reflect on how my mentality in relationships and dating has shifted after 4 serious relationships and lessons I've learned as I've grown out of anxious attachment. If you still struggle with feeling that relationships are unsafe and dangerous, this one's for you :)

Resources on Attachment Styles

"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich

Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/

About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

We call it "individuation" in the therapy world. It's a state of mind that allows you to see yourself as an autonomous individual separate from others. But for those who developed a fear of criticism, rejection or shame of being seen, it can be hard to let go of what people think and choose yourself. In this episode, we'll dive into the mindset shifts and rewiring toxic beliefs that lead us to be in our head instead of our body.

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About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In order to choose yourself, you must know how to hear that wise voice of intuition. But that voice gets drowned out by societal, religious, cultural, and family expectations, fears of judgment/criticism/failure, and so much more. I show you how to turn down the voices of the external noise and start tuning into your own inner wisdom so you can find your True North and start honoring yourself.

*Limited 60min January Coaching spots are now open and available! Get Whatsapp access to me for voice memo and text coaching throughout the month of January. Go to this link to sign up:

Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-session

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About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In this episode, I share some of my own past dating patterns that kept me in codependency, enmeshment and nervous system dysregulation during early dating. You'll uncover valuable tools for staying calm and grounded, choosing yourself and not putting people on a pedestal too soon. Stick around if you're the type to double-text or constantly check your phone for the next text ;)

*Limited 60min January Coaching spots are now open and available! Get Whatsapp access to me for voice memo and text coaching throughout the month of January. Go to this link to sign up:

Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-session

Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/

About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In this New Year, we are focusing on what it really takes to CHOOSE YOURSELF, every single time. In relationships, in career, major life choices and especially in our own mental health. The first step is to take a very honest look at your psychological landscape and audit the beliefs and stories you've patterned your nervous system to believe. Rewiring negative self-image is where we begin, because our relationship with the Self controls every other decision we make.

*Limited 1:1 Coaching spots are now open and available ! Follow me on IG for more updates and links to sign up :)

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About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

This episode is an introduction to self-trust and the concept of "choosing yourself" as a way to reduce anxiety and fear of rejection. Ranela shares a poem/essay she wrote on why choosing yourself could be the hardest but best decision you ever make.

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Stay tuned for coaching, courses, and more ways to work together!

About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

If you’re going through your identity crisis currently and need a quick pep talk and encouragement, skip to the last 10min :)

Then come back and listen to my full story of how my adult identity crisis developed from a pre-existing low self-worth identity in childhood, and all the ways I tried to escape it (that didn’t end up working, thank Oz).

You’re not alone, and there’s always hope - and time is an illusion. Keep going friend.

Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/

Stay tuned for coaching, courses, and more ways to work together!

About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Welcome to Episode #1!!! You're my favorite people already 🥹 In this episode we dive into a little bit of my story and why I believe having a lot of "edits" in life are important and *necessary*. 

Pretending to have it all together the first time around is antithetical to being human :) Being human is about accepting our limited capacity, choosing to get back up, learn and grow with courage. That's where the real magic begins.

Please subscribe, rate and review this pod -- and share it to your social media to spread the good vibes 🤙🏽

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Stay tuned for coaching, courses, and more ways to work together!

About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. 

After years of inner work, therapy, journaling, identity shifts and being deep in her Saturn return, she found her spark and joy in helping others navigate their own journey. She completed her Masters in Counseling Psychology, became a therapist and studied to be a coach, and began the 2nd act of life, dedicated to living a life of authenticity and gratitude. Ranela is a self-proclaimed "ice cream connoisseur", ocean enthusiast, a proud jack of all trades, including acting, scuba diving, wellness, and all things fitness-related.