This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss reasons a wife may believe her husband hates her.  From he truly hates her, to they’ve said it to each other without meaning it, to he doesn’t apologize to her, five reasons this may be going on are discussed.

“As I look back on my marriage to Jackie—56 years, 3 months and 13 days before she went home—I think not so much of light bulb moments, but more of dawning realizations (I seem to be a slow learner)." Emerson and Jonathan discuss a marriage and faith testimony from acclaimed Christian author, Fritz Ridenour, in this week’s episode.

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Jesus makes an extraordinary statement in the gospel of John. He says in John 14:9, “He who has seen me has seen the father.” Emerson remembers reading that and thinking, “Who does He think He is? God?” Emerson and Jonathan discuss the implications of this statement for our lives this Christmas season.

Today's godly woman yearns for her husband to be a spiritual leader. The number one complaint among godly wives IS NOT, "My husband isn't treating me equally."  The broader complaint is, "My husband isn't the spiritual leader." Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of men being spiritual leaders within the home in this week's episode.

Saying husbands and wives can misunderstand each other at times is an understatement. In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how husbands often misunderstand their wives. They’ll take a look at a powerful testimony from a husband who concluded after 17 years of marriage that his wife was NOT intentionally nagging and nitpicking, but was trying to connect. Their marriage changed when he realized this.  

Timestamps

01:51—Emerson recaps Episode 20.

06:11—Ask this question before you confront your spouse.

07:19—A common issue among husbands.

10:20—Same message, different filter. 

10:46—Letter from a listener: “I thought she was nagging and nitpicking.”

14:55—She was majoring on the minor things, or so he thought.

16:55—The mistakes we often make in conflict.

18:15—Always and never.

24:14—Male and female differences in the public arena.

25:47—“The winner didn’t feel affirmed and the loser did not feel heard.”

28:51—This is the Crazy Cycle.

31:32—A smart man needs to figure this out.

33:00—Uncapping the intimacy in your marriage.

34:15—Emerson appeals to a man’s sense of honor in this week’s Relationship Challenge.

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Emerson recently received the following question: How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says? Emerson and Jonathan discuss how this wife can respond, but also more generally how wives can respond to behavior that isn't respectable. 

Do you ever feel like what you are doing in your marriage isn't worth it? Through the story of the widow's mite, Emerson and Jonathan discuss why everything one does in their marriage matters, immensely so. Join them this week as they explain why nothing is wasted before God, even when it feels like nothing you are doing is effective.