The LoveWorks Solution Podcast

During Coronavirus (Covid-19), many more relationships have turned into long distance relationships. If you're not sheltering in place with your partner, you could be living in the same town, but still effectively have a long distance relationship.

We had a very-long-distance relationship for over 2 years. Christian is from Denmark and Sonika lived in California, so it was a 9 hour time difference, 11 hour flight and 8500 miles that separated us. So we know a bit about making long distance relationships intimate.

We recommend focusing on 4 different areas, and in the video we give you ideas for each of these 4:

1. Intimate communication

2. Touch points

3. Moment-by-moment relating

4. Getting creative

When you're in a long distance relationship, you definitely need to get creative. There are so many things you can't do that you would naturally do in physical proximity, such as touching each other, leaning on each other, running an idea by your partner, relaxing together, cooking together, making love together, and many more.

And conflicts and disagreements can be really tricky.

Because of the restrictions and challenges of the Coronavirus (Covid-19) there is so much extra stress, fear, and tension in our relationships. This stress takes a real toll on us as individuals and on our marriage or relationship, when really, we need to be connected and in sync more than ever.

We created a 90-min mini-workshop for couples to deal with stress and disagreements, How To Be More Understanding During Disagreements. In this workshop-from-your-couch, we are going to help you:

* Find understanding

* Relieve tension and stress

* Discover common ground between each other

* Get on the same page

* Learn techniques to de-escalate during conflict

* Get back to connection

Register here: https://loveworksforyou.com/how-to-be-more-understanding-during-disagreements 

We have helped thousands of couples navigate crisis and stressful times, and we'd be honored to help you, too.

What kinds of questions to ask your partner to get to know him or her in a deeper way?

When you've been together with someone for a while, maybe even several decades, it's easy to lose your sense of curiosity and assume you know everything there is to know about that person. You might even begin to take your spouse or partner for granted, and when that happens, boredom and emotional flat-lining sets in.

One of the best ways to get to know your partner again is to ask them certain questions, in a mood of wonder and curiosity.

We share three categories of questions you can ask to get to know your spouse or partner better, and for each category, we give examples of specific questions you can use.

The three categories are:

1. Deepening questions

2. Intimacy questions

3. Understanding questions (or curiosity questions).

The first two categories are super effective in building intimacy and trust in a relationship, quickly. The last category, Understanding Questions, is extremely important to avoid triggers and upsets when you see your partner doing or saying things you don't like or understand.

Because of the restrictions and challenges of the Coronavirus (Covid-19) there is so much extra stress, fear, and tension in our relationships. This stress takes a real toll on us as individuals and on our marriage or relationship, when really, we need to be connected and in sync more than ever.

We created a 90-min mini-workshop for couples to deal with stress and disagreements, How To Be More Understanding During Disagreements. In this workshop-from-your-couch, we are going to help you:

* Find understanding

* Relieve tension and stress

* Discover common ground between each other

* Get on the same page

* Learn techniques to de-escalate during conflict

* Get back to connection

Register here: https://loveworksforyou.com/how-to-be-more-understanding-during-disagreements 

We have helped thousands of couples navigate crisis and stressful times, and we'd be honored to help you, too.

During Coronavirus (Covid-19) times, a lot of people are finding themselves working at home. It can be really challenging when you got two people working and living in the same house, perhaps with kids or family too.

Here are 5 Tips for How to Survive Working From Home With Your Spouse:

1. Compartmentalize workspaces

2. Create time apart (relationships need to breathe)

3. Nourish your soul, body, and mind during your alone time

4. Designate who is where, and when

5. Express appreciation and gratitude.

Right now, there is so much extra stress, fear, and tension due to the Coronavirus and the impact it has on our personal lives, careers, finances, and relationships. This stress takes a real toll on our relationships, when really, we need to be connected and in sync more than ever.

We created a 90-min mini-workshop for couples to deal with stress and disagreements, How To Be More Understanding During Disagreements. In this workshop-from-your-couch, we are going to help you:

* Find understanding

* Relieve tension and stress

* Discover common ground between each other

* Get on the same page

* Learn techniques to de-escalate during conflict

* Get back to connection

Register here: https://loveworksforyou.com/how-to-be-more-understanding-during-disagreements/ 

We have helped thousands of couples navigate crisis and stressful times, and we'd be honored to help you, too.

About LoveWorks:

The LoveWorks Solution is a practical and positive approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy, communication, and dating.

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

During the social distancing we’re all finding ourselves in, it’s essential that we find ways to grow in our relationship. We’ll share 3 ways to grow together, plus some suggestion for how to make it practical.

#1: Define what “growing” means to you. What do we want to create in the next 6-8 weeks.

#2: Deepen your intimacy. A great way to do this is to ask Intimacy Questions.

#3: Appreciations. Speak out loud your appreciations to your partner.

Tell your partner what you like about them and why. Sonika & I like to do (at least) 3 appreciations of each other before bed.

The LoveWorks Solution is a practical and positive approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy, communication, and dating.

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

There’s a lot to disagree about in quarantine times. Which rules and recommendations do we follow? How do we interpret them? When we disagree, there’s always a deeper motivation. We share a simple method to discover your deeper motivation.

A common example is blended families where kids go back and forth between houses. In one house, the kids have to take all their clothes off and shower as soon as they enter the house, but in the other house, they don’t. Or in house it’s ok to take walks in the neighborhood, but in the other house, the kids have to stay in the house at all times.

Couples and families end up arguing about how to best interpret the rules and recommendations, and given the generally heightened level of stress, these disagreements can add significantly to the stress and disconnection we feel.

Behind our preferences and interpretations are always a deeper motivation than meets the eye. When someone says, “In my house, everyone strips before they enter the house”, they have a deeper motivation. When you can discover the deeper motivation, you find that you’re not as far apart from your “opponents” as you think, maybe even on the same page. Plus, discovering the deeper motivation makes it ten times easier to find common ground and practical solutions.

We share an easy tool for how to discover these deeper motivations … the So-That Tool.

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

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* Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

Do you get what you want and need in your relationship? If not, you’re probably not using this highly effective “ninja” tool of communication. To get what you want, this is a must-use technique, and it’s soooo simple. 

Normally, how we know we want something to change, is when we feel bad or irritated. Being in the same house and your partner (almost) all the time now, you get irritated about all kinds of stuff. And when you get upset or irriated, what do you do? You tell your partner.

You say stuff like,

• "Why can't you leave me alone!"

Does that get you what you want? Nope!

But what's great about the stuff you get irritated about is they have a direct link to what you want, and when you use the tool we teach in this video, you're very likely to get it. Try it out!

The LoveWorks Solution is a practical and positive approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy, communication, and dating.

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

The questions you ask determines whether you feel panicked or inspired. The questions you ask can help your mind - and your relationship - go in a powerful direction or a terrible direction. What questions to ask?

DON'T ask questions like:

DO ask questions like:

- What's one important thing am I going to achieve today?

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Catch the live broadcast on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

In Corona times, do you go to proactive “Warrior” response, passive “wait and see” response, or something else? How do you deal with your partner's response? Plus good tips from a couple doing their work #loveinthetimeofcorona #relationshipinthetimeofcorono #couplesinquarantine

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Catch the Facebook Live's from our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free E-book, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

There are a lot of different ways we can deal with the Corona threat. And because individuals have different ideas about the right way to do it, it’s easy to get triggered when our partners or family members have a different idea about the “right way”. Here’s one step to take to deal with your triggers. #loveinthetimeofcorona #relationshipinthetimeofcorono #couplesinquarantine.

About The LoveWorks Solution and the founders, Sonika & Christian:

The LoveWorks Solution is a practical and positive approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy, communication, and dating.

LoveWorks offers private coaching and relationship counseling to couples and singles, from anywhere in the world; as well as online and live workshops for couples and singles.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.

LoveWorks is founded by Sonika Tinker, MSW & Christian Pedersen, CLC, who have 35+ years of experience coaching and educating about relationships. They designed The LoveWorks Solution to be practical, applicable, fun and light-hearted, demonstrating that deep relationship work can be done in a positive way while having a good time.

* Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Loveworkssolution

* Get the free ebook, How To Save My Marriage (and many more free resources for your relationship), here: https://loveworksforyou.com/

When fear takes a hold us, it has immediate impact on our own state of mind and the quality of our relationships#loveinthetimeofcorona #relationshipinthetimeofcorona #couplesinquarantine.

Here are several tips for how to deal with your fear better, such as:

- Find the positive, productive intent of your fear

About The LoveWorks Solution and the founders, Sonika & Christian:

The LoveWorks Solution is a practical and positive approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy, communication, and dating.

The LoveWorks Solution has saved marriages and helped singles find love, plus helped thousands of couples and singles deal with complex problems that arise in relationships, such as communication breakdowns, trust in relationships, insecurities in relationship, toxic relationship, emotionally unavailable men or women, deepening intimacy, finding the right partner, dating, and many, many more.