Don Ross opens up about his journey from porn addiction and shame to helping men build authentic friendships and discover true manhood. Don shares how confession and vulnerability became the gateway to his freedom, and why modern society has made it nearly impossible for men to connect meaningfully with other men. He introduces his framework of the Five Marks of Manhood—strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance—as a practical roadmap for men seeking to level up in their lives. The discussion explores why men need tribes, not just nuclear families, and how the loss of male-only spaces has left an entire generation of men isolated and struggling. Don challenges the cultural narrative that porn is just a sex issue, revealing the deeper wounds around self-worth and identity that drive addictive behaviors. This episode is essential listening for any man feeling stuck, lonely, or searching for a clearer path to becoming who he's meant to be.

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Why Adulthood Blindsides Most Men
• 00:00:44 - Meet Don Ross: From Addiction to Author
• 00:01:36 - The Modern Man's Crisis
• 00:02:21 - Why Men Can't Make Friends Anymore
• 00:02:59 - Living a Double Life: Don's Secret Struggle
• 00:09:17 - The Power of Confession: Breaking Free Through Vulnerability
• 00:14:33 - What Does It Really Mean to Be a Man?
• 00:18:50 - The Truth About Porn: It's Not About Sex
• 00:20:54 - HALTS: Your Warning System for Self-Sabotage
• 00:22:55 - The Five Marks Every Man Must Master
• 00:24:22 - Why You Need a Tribe, Not Just a Family
• 00:26:58 - The Male Loneliness Epidemic
• 00:32:28 - How to Build Your Brotherhood
• 00:39:17 - Writing the Book: What Surprised Me Most
• 00:40:42 - Get the Book + Free Freedom Guide

Links And Resources:

• Don Ross's book: How to Be a Man - Available on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2w7m67y8
• Free guide: Pathway to Freedom - manhoodtribes.com/freedom
• Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/
• Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=en

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