The Marriage Conversation

The mystery, meaning, and deep power that is possible between fathers and sons is often missed. We perhaps are lulled by the struggles of living or seduced into creating a version of each other that most times isn’t true. Whatever the case, finding a pathway to relationship is rich in possibility.

Need awareness is perhaps the most critical component of healthy relating. It’s hard to allow yourself to be aware of your own needs when your life has been spent in the presence of adults who applaud need denial. “What a great player!” I heard a youthful soccer coach say. “He played the entire second half […]

It’s easy to let the world around you control your focus. It doesn’t take much effort to be a stooge of the ‘entertainment culture.’ Being entertained, distracted, pulled in directions others want you to go makes you lazy, relationally speaking. You can reclaim your focus and rebirth your relationship simply by creating your own purposeful […]

That which is unaddressed, avoided or denied can cause great havoc in your relationship and set a mood – resentment – that will poison even your best efforts at loving. Of course you must be prepared for anything once you decide to speak your heart thoughts outloud.

The unfinished business you carry around can be like a cancer in your body. Secrets, I’m not talking here about an individual’s right to private thoughts, can be toxic even lethal. Take a look at what you’re protecting and why. You may find a new path to intimate connections hidden in the very secrets you […]

We make much, in American dialogue about marriage, of the need for faithfulness. “Married 27 years and never been unfaithful.” There is another dimension to faithfulness that we don’t so often talk about. You’ll find it here in this reminder of what faithfulness is really all about.

If your life together is bland and joyless. If your conversations drift along with no energy, if you often feel resentful, this little story is for you.

Surrender used in the way we usually use it, has a negative connotation. “I give up,” or “I gave in.” There is a powerful need for surrender in relationships. It has to do with facing your own out of control ego. Power struggles are common but we don’t have to indulge our need for power. […]

It’s tempting to live in the future and it’s tempting as well to live in the past. All of us can live somewhere where we are not presently living or live with someone who is not our partner. This fundamental human talent causes a great deal of confusion. Tolle, in the Power of Now, reminds […]

You really can’t do a whole lot about revitalizing your marriage until you face the basic premise or premises it’s built upon. We call those premises the marriage paradigm. What we need to do is take the mask off our model of marriage so we can expose its origins and expectations. There’s a new way […]